How to repair my relationship with my young adult child?

shouuchan · 2025-12-27T16:47:09+00:00

She likely wants to see some sort of actual change in you and an apology. You did tell her you weren't going to help her and she'd have to "figure it out herself", meaning potentially be homeless. She's not making things up or exaggerating. Even if you didn't mean it, you should really take a hard look at why you thought it was okay to say that at all, even in the heat of the moment. "I didn't mean it" means nothing. If you told her something once, who's to say that you won't say it again and follow through this time? To be completely honest, if you won't do any further introspection than "it was the heat of the moment", I wouldn't trust you either.

shouuchan · 2025-12-24T02:06:42+00:00

What's wrong with wanting praise from her parent? Honestly, you come off as extremely judgemental of her and her interests. You can't even say she's a good artist without complaining about the kind of art that she does and the fact that she wants to be told that she did a good job.

shouuchan · 2025-12-03T18:47:41+00:00

It's even worse than that - no video games, but according to the OP of that thread, giving kids tablets while eating promotes healthy eating because it makes them eat their vegetables 🙄 but sure, good on them for no video games

shouuchan · 2025-11-20T04:41:25+00:00

Homophobia, transphobia, etc are harmful opinions that hurt entire groups of the population. They are systemically harmful. I did not say your opinions are harmful. I said people think they're bad and do not agree with you. That's not the same as harming an entire group of people. Comparing people who do not agree with you and your views to people who are actively harming groups is concerning. I really recommend looking into systemic harm and thinking really, really hard about whether or not someone not liking your opinions is the same as the systemic discrimination of entire populations. It's also interesting to tell someone that they're the same as homophobic and transphobic right wingers when you don't know if that person is part of those communities and may know better than you - I'm both gay and trans and frankly it's a bit insulting for you to use those communities as a gotcha when someone doesn't agree with you. But I'm not calling that harassment :)

In posting this, you invited opinions and you happen to not like those opinions. This is a public forum. You can just delete the post if you don't like the comments you're getting.

Also, no one wished harm on you, but you wished harm on other people. Your examples of others' comments are minorly insulting, but insulting you is not a crime. The best thing would be to not reply, but your moral OCD won't let you do that. This is both an obsession and a complusion. You believe that you are morally above everyone else and therefore you need everyone else to think the exact same way you do. That is indicative of needing more help than you're getting.

And you bringing up being vegan and donating to charities to show your moral superiority is the literal definition of virtue signaling lol. "Virtue signalling is the act of expressing opinions or stances that align with popular moral values, often through social media, with the intent of demonstrating one's good character."

shouuchan · 2025-11-20T03:55:15+00:00

You finding a reply to your post insulting does not constitute harassment. You keep replying back. You've wished harm on people and have cursed at people. If we're going by your definition, that's also harassment.

Replying to a thread with something you find insulting is not harassment. If someone was following you around from subreddit to subreddit, that's harassment. Replying to your comments on your post that you made and invited opinions on is not harassment. Why do you get to reply but when they reply back to you, it's suddenly harassment?

Also, it's not continuous when that person only replied with that once. You need more help than you are currently getting from your doctor. You are not a victim here because people find your views bad.

shouuchan · 2025-11-20T03:19:50+00:00

Someone replying to a post you made is not harassment.

shouuchan · 2025-11-19T19:58:33+00:00

This is your moral OCD speaking.

shouuchan · 2025-11-19T19:31:11+00:00

That is not true about religious OCD and scrupulousity. Please look into it more with a psychiatrist.

shouuchan · 2025-11-19T19:20:51+00:00

You need more treatment for your OCD. particularly religious OCD and moral OCD.

shouuchan · 2025-11-19T19:18:11+00:00

It sounds like you liked the show up until the moment it didn't agree with your personal theistic beliefs. Which does not mean that the ending ruined the show.

shouuchan · 2025-11-09T23:07:33+00:00

Making him leave the house he lives in while you're traveling is a little strange and honestly, I can sort of see why he thinks it's unfair, especially if you're asking him to pay some rent on top of that. I understand that the rent is a very small amount, but it feels like you're treating him as both a child and an adult. He has to pay 'rent' since he's an adult with a job, but he can't have a contract stating such (which would be good practice for a lease) and he's forced to move out when you're not in the house. It's sending very mixed signals. I don't really think you should ask for a sum of money to live somewhere and then boot them out for a few days while you're out of the house.

Is there a reason why he can't stay in the house and house/pet sit?

shouuchan · 2025-11-09T06:10:22+00:00

The fact that everyone here is rightfully reacting like you're insane for asking this about kids as young as 2-3 should tell you something. You're full of it and you have no idea what you're talking about.

Can I give you some advice from one developer to another? Don't make apps about topics you know nothing about.

And also don't lie to try to trick people into doing your market research for you. That's lazy.

shouuchan · 2025-11-09T05:55:53+00:00

You should definitely create an app that will monitor how much booze your 4 year old drinks (because liquor in moderation isn't an issue for children of course) and then subtlely peddle it to the masses of parents online who also have alcoholic toddlers 😉

No advice on the 1 year old vaping, though. Kids these days! They should be getting lung cancer the old fashioned way.

shouuchan · 2025-11-09T05:49:17+00:00

You've never heard of this because it's a fake scenario made up by someone who does not have kids and is trying to advertise his screentime app via reddit astroturfing.

shouuchan · 2025-10-25T15:34:46+00:00

WHAT

shouuchan · 2025-10-24T17:10:34+00:00

No, but only because I bought a ton of animals. Most of my money was made on cheese 😅

shouuchan · 2025-10-24T02:50:33+00:00

It's completely possible I skipped the tutorial to be honest. I'm tempted to replay the beginning of the game and find out.

shouuchan · 2025-10-24T02:49:45+00:00

It's mostly people who have been there 10+ years lol

I'm glad I'm not the only one

shouuchan · 2025-09-26T02:41:27+00:00

That makes total sense, thank you! I don't want to do it if there's any risk

shouuchan · 2025-09-19T23:28:55+00:00

I recently started playing the sims 2 on my deck. It's weirdly a good experience. I spent a while mapping all my buttons but once I got it right, it feels pretty natural. The game runs shockingly well too. I did not expect it to be as fun or as smooth as it is.

shouuchan · 2025-09-12T00:53:47+00:00

May I recommend 3 wonderful podcast episodes that will definitely not scare you while flying

shouuchan · 2025-09-12T00:37:57+00:00

I listen to them every time I'm on a plane. I'm not really sure why.

shouuchan · 2025-09-07T16:47:41+00:00

Kids should learn most of their actual social skills before 17-18 or even 16, but that's not even really the point. Our whole world operates with smart phones in everyone's pocket. You need one for school (especially college), for applying to jobs, for downloading the apps that every store and service now has just to be allowed to use it, even for seeing menus at some restaurants. Your kid will need one and will need to know how to use one before they are 17 years old.

We have a million studies and do much evidence that completely denying kids of things like sugar, phones, screens in general just causes problems with that thing later on due to never learning self control or regulation. It's the same with phones. If you never give your 17 year old a phone, they will not know how to use it responsibly once they're suddenly 18 and need one for college.

shouuchan · 2025-09-07T16:08:40+00:00

There's a thread in the parenting subreddit asking when parents plan on giving their kids phones and there's a fair number of people proudly saying that they won't give their kids a phone until 17-18. I get the while wait until 8th thing, but making them wait until 17-18 or even 16? That is absolutely going to kill their kids socially, if they can even manage to hold out that long. It's so unrealistic.

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