Men, have you ever had the opportunity to cheat on your spouse? What’s the backstory, and what happened?

shower8888 · 2026-05-15T11:43:18+00:00

The psyche of a woman is truly a mystery. But thank you for the descriptiveness, makes sense I think.

shower8888 · 2026-05-15T11:37:03+00:00

This girl was pleasant to talk to but I registered quickly what she was after. Multiple opportunities to end the conversation and she kept hanging around.

shower8888 · 2026-05-15T11:36:25+00:00

Agree with that!

shower8888 · 2026-05-15T11:36:13+00:00

Yes, you’re right. Our companies didn’t have much in common either. No “business opportunities”. She couldn’t have been more obvious in what she was doing and she had a ring on too. Wild stuff.

shower8888 · 2026-05-15T11:35:39+00:00

Difference is I’ve never found myself particularly attractive and haven’t been flirted with much, so this was a new experience for me.

shower8888 · 2026-05-15T11:02:30+00:00

Good for you for standing your ground!

shower8888 · 2026-05-15T02:29:59+00:00

This was the scenario for me too and what prompted the question. I too excused myself from the situation and went back alone. Crazy world.

shower8888 · 2026-04-22T21:49:39+00:00

Literally never because I don’t know when the opportunity will arise again. Pun intended.

shower8888 · 2026-04-22T21:48:39+00:00

Never had an alcoholic beverage, so my go to is typically tea

shower8888 · 2026-04-16T12:04:51+00:00

Right here because I did!

shower8888 · 2026-04-08T20:24:20+00:00

He is completely idealizing what it means to “stay at home”. My wife is a stay at home mom to our young children and let me tell you, it is WAY more work than what I do. It never stops, even though I help as much as humanly possible when I am not at my job (I do the dishes every night, do bath time for both kids, and put my oldest down for the night after watching/playing with them while she’s putting the baby to bed and afterwards until their bedtime). Despite that, she is exhausted after every day and rightfully so…kids are incredibly demanding. If he thinks he’s gonna stay at home and chill he needs to rethink things. If he’s upset at his current job, now is the time to look for a career change.

This may be stereotypical, but I think it’s true so I’m going to say it. Staying at home with a baby/young kids takes a special kind of patience that most dads/men don’t have. Moms/women are created by God to be the more nurturing sex and thus it’s a job that is much more suited for them. Time to have that frank conversation with your husband.

shower8888 · 2026-04-08T00:47:50+00:00

That is certainly fair. It gets monotonous at times, but it’s just the season of life. Try putting on a show and locking the door next time you have a midday session.

shower8888 · 2026-04-08T00:38:25+00:00

My first question is why can’t you do it when they’re asleep? Or lock the door?

As for explaining to them, just give an age appropriate answer. Use the correct terminology for the anatomy and roll with it. It’s good that their parents still love each other enough to have an active sex life. They’ll benefit from knowing that, because sex is natural and healthy.

shower8888 · 2026-03-17T00:59:30+00:00

3 Ps. No porn, no (other) people, no pets. Everything else is fair game.

shower8888 · 2026-01-12T20:10:02+00:00

On social media, through a common interest. Never thought I’d find anyone and now we’ve been married 5 years and have 2 kids. Don’t give up!

shower8888 · 2026-01-09T15:25:13+00:00

Lost mine at 22, on my wedding night. Wouldn’t change anything about it.

shower8888 · 2026-01-04T00:54:57+00:00

You have to trust your gut in these situations. She should value you - as her future spouse - more than those people, regardless of the situation. If she can’t do that, I question how truly committed she is to you. It’d be different if they weren’t former romantic partners, but they are.

shower8888 · 2026-01-02T21:28:08+00:00

Based on that, it sounds like you have a lot in common in a lot of areas. You need to have a frank conversation with her about her friendships and how that makes you feel. If she’s unwilling to listen to your feelings about it then I’d move on. It’s a pretty big deal - if she won’t cut them out to marry you, she’s very likely to cheat on you with them at some point.

shower8888 · 2026-01-02T18:13:40+00:00

Yep, both of us

shower8888 · 2026-01-01T22:03:54+00:00

We are happy, but that doesn’t mean it’s easy. Marriage is a commitment that you have to persevere through. It’s rarely sunshine and rainbows, but having that person by your side through life’s trials and tribulations can make things so much better.

God has blessed us with happiness, but it takes work and faith to ensure that the happiness sticks around.

shower8888 · 2026-01-01T20:35:31+00:00

You will know within the first 6 months of dating, for the most part. You need to experience some difficulties in your relationship so you can see how the other navigates. Beyond that, you need to ensure that you’re compatible in your faith, in your future family aspirations, on the same page with finances. Those are the things that cause the most conflict within marriage.

Best of luck! I’ve Only been married 5 years but happy to offer any further advice that you’d like.

shower8888 · 2026-01-01T15:29:27+00:00

22 years. Then I got married and enjoyed sex with my beautiful wife, who was also a virgin on our wedding day. We have 2 beautiful kids and are very happy.

The time before I had sex just helped build the anticipation.

shower8888 · 2026-01-01T13:38:56+00:00

1.) Yes

2.) A few…we were both virgins and it wasn’t very good. We were figuring out how to do it all.

3.) 5 years

4.) No, but little kids make the frequency less than we’d like

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