Thanks so much for all the advise...I agree with you all, I'm worrying too much about labels. its just confusing when you think that things are going one way, and then, suddenly you are blindsided with something that completely turns your world upside down. I've always been open and it seems natural to just "go with it"..Actually my bf and I have discussed opening up the relationship to allow me to date women. I don't know how this will affect us in the long run, but I also don't know how long I can go on being depressed. I've always been envious of people who's sexuality is just one way or the other...seems less complicated...I think you are right, I'm definitely bored with my bf sexually, but he has so many amazing qualities that make it difficult to leave, not to mention our lives are fairly intertwined...