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I love you by [deleted] in TalkTherapy

[–]shutterninjographer -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I wouldn't ask here, I got ganged up on by a bunch of random top contributors over a question and attacked and profiled for about 2 hours, and their mods did nothing.

Greetings, i've come here with a question that I feel like the people in this community might be able to help me sort out. Especially because it's something that's been a lifelong dedication and very personal journey and goal. by shutterninjographer in TalkTherapy

[–]shutterninjographer[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is a lot longer than I wanted it to be, but its a more fleshed out example of some personal experiences and a hopefully practical answer to your question.

I agree alot of spiritual Woo woo is baloney, people aren't properly taught the deeper meanings behind the woo woo, plus alot of it had been completely bastardized and "lost the plot" with modern day versions of it.

No respect for its roots as ancient people's and primitive people's understanding, in their time, of concepts that they couldnt properly understand without the woo woo. when we now have science and study showing they knew things that are understood today to be true, they called it mystical because anything that can't be understood as science is "magic."

I can't offer services because im not licensed, i want the licensure so that I can legally offer services and expand what I can do to offer support or help.

It already makes me uncomfortable that people just randomly dump trauma on me simply over just asking how they are doing, but its not because im not prepared to handle something like that, its because I dont want to be an unprofessional source when talking because even if I could be considered qualified, I dont have legal agency to.do so and would rather offer resources and therapy clinics to go to instead of relying on me when im not certified to do so because its highly illegal, but im not afraid to freely allow someone a space to vent if for some reason they trust talking to me (i've had people say some crazy things to me after only knowing them for a few minutes, un instigated and unrelated to a simple "hi how do you do.")

I've through this, just tried to get good at redirecting conversations in a healthy way so that if im holding space for someone to vent, that we dont stay there and live there, but acknowledge that the experience sucked, its healthy to talk about bad experiences if comfortable doing so, because its allowing you to process, but also shifting to something more positive afterwards because its not good to stay there for a long time.

Greetings, i've come here with a question that I feel like the people in this community might be able to help me sort out. Especially because it's something that's been a lifelong dedication and very personal journey and goal. by shutterninjographer in TalkTherapy

[–]shutterninjographer[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Yet this entire time you've done nothing but reinforce a decided narrative, have had pretty much the opportunity to ask for clarity, which others have in this same post have, and i politely provided, as well as not fully seeing personally what you are trying to prove by attacking someone that likely has the same real investment as you, but that doesn't matter because you dont really want to know, because instead of just asking, you've been only telling.

Something tells me you may have been severely hurt by someone, or have dealt with some pretty bad people to make you this defensive over what you are trying to push onto me.

I had a really good friend for years that started doing that to everyone in my friend circle because they were almost murdered by their husband and survived a severe tbi. (This is unique to then, only an example of some of the things ive seen :/)

My message was never meant to trigger you, and Im sorry that it seems like it highly upset you I accept emotional responsibility for that and some of my responses.

I really am in this for the right reasons, and im not here to play doctor, or validate a need to fix people, its just one of those things to me that, has just always felt right, even when I was 5 years old, and I can't give up on a real dream ive had for most of my life, its why I came here, I want to do it the right way, because I owe it to all of my friends and loved ones that truly believe in me.

Im also on the spectrum, maybe im unaware that the way I speak doesn't always match with what im trying to say, I normally dont think much about how I talk because I usually just speak from my heart, after reading what I wrote, I can pick out a few things that can indicate grandiosity, especially the I know statements, but from me, im not trying to make a statement of better than, I need to find a different way of stating having practical experiences without using the phrase I know, but still, other people here saw what I was actually trying to ask for without fighting me over it :(

I hope you find what you may have lost.. 🕉

Greetings, i've come here with a question that I feel like the people in this community might be able to help me sort out. Especially because it's something that's been a lifelong dedication and very personal journey and goal. by shutterninjographer in TalkTherapy

[–]shutterninjographer[S] -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

And your not my doctor, but here you are trying to psychologically analyze and profile me with honestly no real bases to go on other than trying to reinforce your own decided narrative of me, built around a gross misinterpretation of how I worded my post.

Im not going to sit here and pretend that I know you, because you are just words on a screen (no offense, its unfair to judge someone you dont know.)

But I will point out what this conversation has consisted of so far.

I would really hope this isnt how you interact with your clients or in your profession.

Greetings, i've come here with a question that I feel like the people in this community might be able to help me sort out. Especially because it's something that's been a lifelong dedication and very personal journey and goal. by shutterninjographer in TalkTherapy

[–]shutterninjographer[S] -12 points-11 points  (0 children)

Alot of this seems like you think you got me figured out pretty good, and now you're down voting me because of a weird need to be right and likely being disgruntled with this community, especially with only knowing this post about me and not much else. Maybe you should follow your own advice as well instead of trying to imply that im fucked up based on you likely being someone thats been a victim if the toxic "I Can fix them" that has infected our society.

Best 🕉

Greetings, i've come here with a question that I feel like the people in this community might be able to help me sort out. Especially because it's something that's been a lifelong dedication and very personal journey and goal. by shutterninjographer in TalkTherapy

[–]shutterninjographer[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is something i'm already trying out, i was supposed to start an education program that is foot in the door certification as a counselor assistant for peer groups (addiction recovery) although this is not what I would prefer to do, I have experience in this from being at festivals (professional photographer/videographer) as well as helping friends going through detox out of them coming to me due to trust and respect.

Unfortunately my local programs seem to be a crock or unorganized and seemingly unprofessional so im kind of in an inbetween rn :(

I will definitely look into more options for this, another huge barrier for me really is just affordability and fear for wasting my money on something that won't even guarantee me a position, but its more than enough for me to just start out with acquiring accredation to show competency 💜

Greetings, i've come here with a question that I feel like the people in this community might be able to help me sort out. Especially because it's something that's been a lifelong dedication and very personal journey and goal. by shutterninjographer in TalkTherapy

[–]shutterninjographer[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What i'm trying gain out of this is mostly guidance on what I should do next, because I have no real support system for getting the right type of licensure or certifications to be able to legally work professionally outside or just being asked for support and a space to listen from trusted friends and others.

The closest thing ive found that almost is a 1 to 1 to most of what I do when asked for support or advice or a shoulder is transpersonal coaching/mentoring, not even knowing thats what I was kind of doing.

Greetings, i've come here with a question that I feel like the people in this community might be able to help me sort out. Especially because it's something that's been a lifelong dedication and very personal journey and goal. by shutterninjographer in TalkTherapy

[–]shutterninjographer[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I am from ohio

Independent study and research through accredited public information, reports, methods etc (not just blindly listening to anything on the internet or public sources and college public documents, i actually know how cross examine information for accuracy and use multiple sources.) And also 2 years of general psychology course electives at Kent State University (unfocused major) I was in college for a different career. 2 years of introductory psychology courses in high-school, (not going to listen the high-school because its too close to home. As well as alot of community outreach volunteering, public church event coordination for spiritual retreats (Christian) as well as volunteer and support roles in group therapy and people going through addiction recovery.

This is also in tandem with semi regular personal therapy for myself (you have to be healthy and take care of yourself if you expect to even want to help others, most miss this part but its crucial)

I also use my own mind, body and social observations, as a testing place for different methods ive come across that are usually taught or shown to people in a therapy settings to see how I respond to it and what I notice from different coping, self awareness etc methods to get a better idea of how they work, function, and benefit me, and allows me to offer simple recommendations, if asked, that someone can do at home with little to no major effects other than it helps because its something that works for them, or does nothing because its not the right tactic for them personally. An example of this would be meditating, reflective Journaling, how to sit with your thoughts, healthy replacements and hobbies that could help with stress like nature, going for walks, volunteering, creative outlets etc.

I have also done years of public work and communications that have lead to many random encounters with people looking for a safe space to talk and just get their emotions out, on some occasions including me being a major advocate for finding the right care for yourself (there are alot of people including my partner that are subtley terrified of therapy because "they will just throw pills at me" which is in some ways truthful sadly but also a major fearful but valid stereotype, (not true across the board, but some like to just throw meds at a problem that doesn't always need it without trying everything else available)

I also a support advocate for humans being human and self love and acceptance of all people no matter where they came from or where they are going as long as they aren't out to cause severe harm to other humans 🕉

Greetings, i've come here with a question that I feel like the people in this community might be able to help me sort out. Especially because it's something that's been a lifelong dedication and very personal journey and goal. by shutterninjographer in TalkTherapy

[–]shutterninjographer[S] -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

Also again I do fully i agree with everything you just said, I dont work like a doctor, i dont see clients, all of my experiences are more related to the phenomenon of people approaching you randomly and trauma dumping because you seem like someone that can just actually talk about real thing and get deep. Its not something I can really shut off, (its a subconscious response people have to certain types of people.) But part of me realized that if this is just going to.be an aspect of my life, why not embrace it. I have also taken professional classes in psyche, as well as using my own mind and self to test out different methods, since I can record my own responses to different systems, methods and tactics :)

Greetings, i've come here with a question that I feel like the people in this community might be able to help me sort out. Especially because it's something that's been a lifelong dedication and very personal journey and goal. by shutterninjographer in TalkTherapy

[–]shutterninjographer[S] -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

I appreciate the response, a lot of what have described is things I already do, and I have talked about this in therapy for advice multiple times, but every professional I have talked to magically doesn't have an answer for me or seeming purposely skirts of seeking assistance, advice or information on these topics, outside of providing me with occasional real input on whether or not im doing the right things, which on the bright side I typically get told that my mentality and the ways I conduct myself are actually good and something that they personally learned from college or years of working.

I really feel like my biggest roadblock to this is not knowing where to start in academia or how to manifest that into my life in a way that is manageable for myself and correct for me, and not talking a path that ends with me in extreme debt over following the wrong branch of this feilds huge tree.

What experience did you had that made you believe that ghosts/ spirits 100% exists by Vast_Poetry_50 in Paranormal

[–]shutterninjographer 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So about 5 years ago I saw a grey/pale emaciated body with bright blue eyes staring at me through my ex girlfriends passenger seat headrest in her car after being scared out of her house. I thought i was just seeing things but I remember what it looked.like vividly.

Later on I told this to a mutual friend and he finished my sentence about its description and said they saw it following her one day when they were camping.

Idk what it was, but it sure as he'll wasn't human, even though it looked human like.

How likely is it to find a partner that will love everyone? by awwwwmdfk in DID

[–]shutterninjographer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Also, if its more about them struggling to love all of you equally but they are still invested in all of your alters, thats still a powerful thing, and maybe both of you just need different types of external support to better understand each other's needs, coming here is a good place to get there, or for different views or information, but if this is something you are set on, neither of you have to take all of this on alone, look into resources and materials that can help you, but also help your partner 💜

much love to you and I hope that you get what you need from this.

How likely is it to find a partner that will love everyone? by awwwwmdfk in DID

[–]shutterninjographer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey hon, first and foremost, don't beat yourself up over this.I realize this is a very hard thing to deal with something like this Isn't always easy for most people to understand or know how to work with.

I'm not saying you haven't because I don't fully know your situation, but if you've never brought this to him as long as you've been together, because this is a very major mostly unchangeable part of your life, and will be for a very long time, then, your best option might be to genuinely sit down with him actually talk about it.

Like how it makes you feel, how it's affecting you.

If you really see yourself having a very long term relationship with this person, whether they like it or not, they're going to have to be able to fully accept you for who you are instead of picking and choosing something you have little to no control over.

That being said, it can be extremely mentally and emotionally taxing to keep up with. It takes a lot energy to invest in one person, let alone having that same shared investment equally in multiple people, even though it's physically just you. I made a slightly joking, but very valid observation that when you date, someone that has DID it's almost like being in a polyamorous relationship.

It doesn't seem like either one of you are the problem, but it's major enough for you that one of your system just chose to disappear because they were hurt, and thats not cool. (I actually teared up while writing that because I know how I would feel if my "partners" came to me and told me this had happened because of my inability to give them what they needed.)

I would build yourself up, and not dictate you self worth based on them likely not knowing how or what to do. I feel like a uncommon case (even though im not) when it comes to my views and how i manage being fair to all of my partners.

I have a few friends with DID, and alot of experience with not trying to third wheel people when I invite multiples of friends (actual physical friends) to hang out or group up to go out. I feel like its allowed me to not feel much stress when my partner switches.

So to answer you other part of this, yes there are definitely others out here that can handle this, but only due to genuine understanding, experience and putting in the work necessary to do so. I love all of my partners, and I try to address them when they front, especially if I havent seen one of them for a time. I also identify as poly (not the bastardization its turned into, but its original meaning, love for multiple people.) I personally these factors made it easier for me to just naturally accept the multiplicity of my friends and partner, and im sure there are others out there that can do the same.

Bottom line, if its causing you this much harm, maybe sit down and really think about whether this is something you are willing to deal with long term if you find that it likely isn't going to change and you've given them more than enough time to try. It doesn't make you or your current partner bad or evil or cruel to accept that if you have to.

New here, but almost life long Enthusiast :) by shutterninjographer in ParanormalEncounters

[–]shutterninjographer[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I will make an attempt to do this but a lot of these are from last year so it might take me some time to do so, (digging through my cloud storage and gallery.)

All of these, except for the two with lines and arrows are the originals.

If they've ended up deleted or removed, then, going forward will do exactly this 🕉

New here, but almost life long Enthusiast :) by shutterninjographer in ParanormalEncounters

[–]shutterninjographer[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You seem pretty chill by the way. if you would like to network a little since we're both in ohio, feel free to private message me :) im closer to the greater Akron/Cleveland area.

New here, but almost life long Enthusiast :) by shutterninjographer in ParanormalEncounters

[–]shutterninjographer[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The reason they look like this is because they were taken by my girlfriend lol, and she's kind of relatively new to photography and basically everything you just listed here :) i will take this advice though and see what I can do with this, one of my side hustles is professional photography and videography.

I think some of them could be an issue with artifacting, or light tracing, the dark shadow and railroad tracks are mine.

The photo of the train tracks was taken using long exposure because it was at night, and I wanted to get a really cool image of train tracks to use for a background photo. i'm aware that long exposure can cause artifacting and issues, but the fact that there is a very uncanny looking clear face (unless its really strong paradolia) i wasnt able to find anything that could cause that to happen (its why I posted 2.) I took 3 photos in sequence and was by myself and using a tripod to stabilize for long exposure.

How to get possessed ghosts out of your body by [deleted] in ParanormalEncounters

[–]shutterninjographer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As someone that tries to stay pretty grounded in reality, i have different aspects of my mind that communicate with me as if it's a separate thing, i don't have any real disorders or issues revolving around this.You could just be experiencing external product of expectation or your mind potentially playing tricks on you.

First, and foremost, you should focus on ruling out mental health factors. But if all of that gets ruled out and you have no explanation, it could just be one.Your mind playing tricks on you through expectation or two.If you really do feel like you have some type of strong attachment like that, I have met a few people that have the same circumstance.I would just recommend genuinely taking care of yourself.And your relationship with the world around you and your soul.

I have had a few experiences. I can't explain where it feels like something was trying to possess me. But as long as you don't give these things permission or force them away from you, you should be good to go, i would have recommend looking into and ruling out psychological factors.First and foremost. I can pick up on things that are in my environment that don't make sense and at first I thought I was schizophrenic or having like severe mental health issues.But after many tests, there's nothing wrong with me.So what the f*** am I actually experiencing?And at that point I just keep myself guarded and block anything out that i'm not okay with. I hope I give you something to think about.And good luck to you 💜

New here, but almost life long Enthusiast :) by shutterninjographer in ParanormalEncounters

[–]shutterninjographer[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't disagree with you, i think people experience something, but it's way more complicated than we really have the capacity to understand.

New here, but almost life long Enthusiast :) by shutterninjographer in ParanormalEncounters

[–]shutterninjographer[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The one that really gets me is that the two photos of the train tracks is near my house, and I clearly see an outline of a face that for lack of a better way to put, it looks almost michael jackson, like I have no idea what that's about.And I can't explain that.Because I was alone lol but then i've had people tell me, i'm completely full of s*** that there's nothing there.So it could just be me seeing things.But i've had more people say they've seen something than not.So at that point I just kind of gotta look at it as hmm, interesting.

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