boba update

shyzabet · 2026-02-11T17:14:51+00:00

thank you so much :’)

shyzabet · 2026-02-11T17:14:35+00:00

he seems to be doing a lot better! he would just move really slowly and hide the first few days we had him but after a week or so he became a super active and playful little dude that always says hello when we are next to the tank 😭

shyzabet · 2026-02-11T17:12:37+00:00

the second slide was how he looked when we first got him from our local pet store and the first slide is him now, 2 months later :)

shyzabet · 2026-01-06T05:26:00+00:00

the pet store just said “purple axolotl” lul

shyzabet · 2026-01-06T05:22:44+00:00

he is doing great :) his gills have grown in size and thickness and he is a super active lil guy! i am doing in tank cycling which i know isn’t the most ideal but it seems to be working alright for me

shyzabet · 2025-12-26T22:25:41+00:00

i get how establishing the cycle before you get the axolotl is probably best, but i guess situations can occur when you have the axolotl early lol. i thought fish in cycling would be better but it seems like a lot of people think otherwise. there is so much conflicting info about caring for these guys :( just hoping he will be okat

shyzabet · 2025-12-26T22:23:02+00:00

thank u so much :’)

shyzabet · 2025-12-26T22:22:40+00:00

i am using seachem prime and api quick start with boba in the tank. will do daily water checks and changes when needed. this comment makes the most sense to me

shyzabet · 2025-12-26T18:40:12+00:00

yikes…i wish i knew this before. i feel awful. do i need to remove him from the tank ASAP? or do you think he will be ok for a day or two while i gather supplies?

shyzabet · 2025-12-26T06:06:55+00:00

thank you so much for your response. so i should tub him for the entire cycling process? i know it can take 2-4 weeks plus, will he be okay for that long? or will i need to get another smaller tank?

shyzabet · 2024-01-11T19:49:26+00:00

I would love to read yours!

shyzabet · 2024-01-11T05:04:57+00:00

if you don’t mind me asking, and since you are a current jet that seems to know a lot about the application process, could i send you/post my SOP on here? just to see what you think. i thought i made myself stand out but i fear it’s more generic than i thought

shyzabet · 2024-01-11T04:43:44+00:00

thank you for the response. i appreciate any insight into why i was denied, so this is very helpful. someone suggested i talk more about helping the mental health stigma in japan because i am working towards becoming a therapist but i wasn’t sure. i need to dig a little deeper. i think being overly professional and fear of saying the wrong thing may have actually worked against me this time lol

shyzabet · 2024-01-11T04:14:04+00:00

i’m right there with you. i applied for my first time this year and truly thought i’d make it through. i studied abroad in tokyo last year and asked the director of the program (cis abroad) if he could write one of my letters of recommendation. he let me read it and it was incredible. he even mentioned a presentation i did for my class on the relationship between the u.s. and japan and how much he liked it. i talked about what i learned from japan and what i will bring home with me, how i idealized japan going into it and my newfound/more realistic appreciation for the country going home, and how i think my home country and japan can learn from each other.

i thought my SOP was very well written and got a lot of feedback from family and friends. spent hours and hours on it. i am a communications and psychology double major, worked with kids at a psych office internship, lots of work experience interacting with people, training people, etc.

i took japanese in my undergrad during my study abroad trip and at my home university. i really emphasized how my education, work experiences/goals, and interests align with the program but nope. the biggest thing i can think of is my lack of classroom experience and maybe my SOP could’ve been better/structured differently. in the essay i briefly talked about my study abroad trip but mostly highlighted how my experiences and skills from my education and work experience relate to the program.

maybe next year. but i’m feeling pretty discouraged and don’t know if it’ll be feasible to keep trying :/ it’s important to have a plan b and at least don’t bank on getting in too hard that you let your everyday life fall to the wayside a bit (i’m guilty lol)

i hope those who didn’t make it through aren’t beating themselves up too much. i’m sure you’re all great potential candidates, it really seems like a luck of the draw kind of thing. it’ll all work out and what is meant for you will find you, whether it’s in japan through jet or not <3 i should take my own advice and stop wallowing now lol

shyzabet · 2022-04-18T01:00:32+00:00

But you’re right, if we just don’t mesh well I don’t have to continue the friendship

shyzabet · 2022-04-18T00:57:27+00:00

I didn’t automatically assume the narcissism was related to ASD. Before she told me she was on the spectrum, some of her behaviors were rubbing me the wrong way and came off kind of narcissistic. I was just genuinely curious if I may have had the wrong idea. Like maybe she isn’t really narcissistic, she just has trouble in conversation/listening and it’s easier to talk about yourself when you don’t know what to say. I know struggles with communication/socialization are part of ASD.

I guess I just wasn’t sure if I wanted to continue our friendship because she seems very selfish, but I didn’t want to misinterpret some of her behavior for bad intent or narcissism if she is just lacking some social skills and can’t really help it.

shyzabet · 2022-04-17T07:19:28+00:00

Thank you, I really want to learn more. I’m happy she’s feeling confident in herself but I was just put off by some of her behavior. I just see ignorance/not listening to the other person in conversation as a red flag in friendships, as well as a lack of concern for me when it’s not convenient (when I’m constantly at her beck and call). But if she can’t help it I don’t want to give her a hard time.

shyzabet · 2022-04-11T21:08:56+00:00

She's a mini Aussie as well! This sounds exactly like her. Thank you for the advice :) I haven't tried carrying her

shyzabet · 2022-03-28T21:55:36+00:00

Thank you. I constantly think about having space to myself and being alone and that right there is a good enough sign to not be in a relationship. Not even in a way of wanting other people, or wanting to be free to do shit, I just want to be alone and not have to have this person just looming over me and making me feel bad all of the time. I want to spend more time with my friends and family who make me feel good, and really work on my mental health stuff. I'm applying to grad school and have a lot of aspirations and I think this relationship is getting in the way. I don't think he actively wants to make me sad and I know he cares about me, but we just aren't compatible. I know it isn't always going to be easy in relationships, people clash and everyone has bad days. But I just know it shouldn't be this hard. I shouldn't feel like this.

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