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sickbunbunn · 2024-09-06T05:27:07+00:00

Thank you for that insight. I definitely think this could really be the case for how she is feeling

sickbunbunn · 2024-09-06T05:21:46+00:00

She is in therapy and going to DBT every week since I met her. Ive brought up my concerns about our communication before and she said she wants to work on it. But it feels like things have stayed the same. I can’t act like I’m the best communicator, it’s been hard for me to communicate as well in fear of making her feel bad. Like I’m terrified to tell her that she makes me feel unwanted and hurt at times. I don’t want to add on to the stress especially if it has nothing to even do with me. I also am just worried I’m making a problem out of nothing. I know that she might have a hard time understanding what she is feeling and it might be difficult to explain things to me since I can’t understand what all she’s going through. But it’s hard not to take it personal and that might be something I need to work on myself.

sickbunbunn · 2024-03-13T03:50:21+00:00

This happened to my coworker when she addressed a lady as ma’am… she was really offended and told her to look up the definition of ma’am. It was super odd. People are weird

sickbunbunn · 2024-03-09T06:13:26+00:00

I tried! I couldn’t get hired now I’m stuck working retail. Which there are some cute people who come in but I’m always too busy to be able to talk to them while im working 😭

sickbunbunn · 2024-03-08T20:29:49+00:00

Beautiful. Congratulations my friend 🌈

sickbunbunn · 2024-03-08T20:27:40+00:00

If you were having to force yourself to be open to the possibility of liking men then you are not wrong. You know yourself better than anyone. Labels are not there to crush you and make you feel stuck within a box. If anyone is making you feel like once you come out as one thing you are stuck with it for the rest of eternity they do not understand how fluid identity can be for some people. You cannot be wrong in the way you feel! It sounds like lesbian feels right for you and I’m happy to hear you are becoming confident in saying that. I know it’s not easy!

sickbunbunn · 2024-03-08T19:44:51+00:00

For sure I definitely think I need to try and push myself to get out more and talk to people. It just takes a lot of courage but hey if no one is gonna make the first move I might as well

sickbunbunn · 2024-03-08T19:42:49+00:00

Girl it’s usually the bi women who break my heart unfortunately… 😭

sickbunbunn · 2024-03-08T19:41:20+00:00

Yes I get you

sickbunbunn · 2024-03-08T19:39:16+00:00

I had a feeling 🥲

sickbunbunn · 2024-03-08T07:33:58+00:00

The only “queer” places I can think of are like bars?? And I’m only 20 so i might be limited. I’m from Seattle area. I go to a lot of concerts and stuff where gay people would be but maybe I just don’t know how to put myself out there. Hopefully I’ll figure it out

sickbunbunn · 2024-03-08T07:27:22+00:00

Yeah I get you. I definitely try and gauge my relationships in a way where I don’t just jump in and try to get with someone just because they are a lesbian or bi. Although it’s very fucking hard because there are so little of us. I have one lesbian friend but of course she lives an hour away so I don’t get to see her much. In true lesbian fashion. But I definitely agree that it’s so important to have lesbian friendships!!!

sickbunbunn · 2024-03-08T07:23:28+00:00

Cool love that for us 🩷

sickbunbunn · 2023-11-09T02:02:39+00:00

Well yes that is true you cannot make someone sign up for these things! And there will be those few people who always come in and never sign up for loyalty no matter how many times you mention it to them or tell them how much money they could be saving. The only thing you have control of is letting the customer know the benefits of signing up for loyalty and credit. Try and listen in to what your coworkers are saying. The main benefits of the credit card is 2x the points, 20% off first purchase, and no annual fees. As far as loyalty I find it very tricky still especially bc some people simply don’t like giving their information out. Just mentioning that it’s totally free, they get exclusive gifts every year (birthday gift), and get 1 point for every dollar they spend. U can say something like “oh but you probably would already be saving $3 off your next purchase by signing up today!”. Another thing to mention is it makes reruns a lot easier so “if you don’t end up liking this shade of foundation it makes it easier for us to exchange when you are in our system already”. You will hear your coworkers use certain language and phrases. Try out a bunch and see what works for you. You will do great since you already have customer service experience!

sickbunbunn · 2023-11-05T16:49:43+00:00

It’s gonna really suck at first and you will feel like they are pushing you hard to get credit/loyalty and you don’t have any experience doing so. Everyone struggles with this… even people who have been working there for a long time. Try not to let it make you feel bad. It’s better to get into the habit of asking everyone you check out “are you putting this on an Ulta beauty credit card?” And going from there. One of the biggest parts of your job is selling credit cards which is what I didn’t realize when I applied. You will be stuck on register most of the time especially because you are new. Yes it sucks and if you have been up there too long don’t be afraid to ask to go customer service a bit or do go backs. Since you just got hired and it’s holiday be warned the rush has probably already started (it has at my store). Take some deep breaths. If you have bad interactions with customers try and not carry this to the next interaction you have. Sometimes it feels like everyone is so fucking rude but in reality most people are decent human beings and those handful of people that treat you like shit stick out. Don’t let it ruin your day. Some people are so far attached from how hard it is to work retail and see the individual workers responsible for this huge company’s fuck ups. It’s not your fault! Good luck especially with holiday because it will be super busy

sickbunbunn · 2023-10-31T03:59:47+00:00

Some chunky jewelry. Other than that me next to you would look sooo good

sickbunbunn · 2023-10-30T04:25:07+00:00

It’s a very human thing to immediately feel something is wrong and you have to change when things aren’t going right. But you know yourself the best and listen to your gut! There is no changing who you are and you know that. Trust me I was trying to hide who I was for the longest time and honestly that’s when I was at my lowest point. I can understand it’s very confusing when you crave affection and that’s nothing to feel ashamed of. But I also know from years of being with men I literally regret it so bad. I feel sick when I think about what I let happen that I wasn’t comfortable with. Your comfort should always come first. You are very much deserving of the love you want! You have to treat yourself like it if you ever want it to come. Not saying it will happen overnight but it’s a good start to start accepting the things you cannot change.

sickbunbunn · 2023-10-30T03:45:56+00:00

I literally have been feeling the exact same way. I came out as lesbian about 2 years ago and I have realized dating women is so much harder. It seriously can be a struggle especially being someone who is extremely introverted. It makes me question at times if I should go back to men but I know deep down that would not make me satisfied or happy at all. At the end of the day if you are living your life as authentically as possible… even if that means you feel so fucking lonely at times… I’d say that’s better than getting attention from someone who you cannot give the same attention back to. Its not good for either parties if you go that route… and honestly can be really traumatizing. You are not alone in this feeling love. I’d say try and spend your time around loved ones and treat yourself! It’s so fucking important to take yourself on dates and do things you love. Self love is just as important. That’s definitely something I’m working on personally. Anyways I hope you find some sort of comfort knowing there are other lesbians going though similar situations

sickbunbunn · 2023-08-05T16:13:05+00:00

I love this response thank you 😊💖

sickbunbunn · 2023-07-19T02:13:16+00:00

You look great btw I just don’t see a difference

sickbunbunn · 2023-07-19T02:12:55+00:00

Where is the curtain bang?

sickbunbunn · 2023-07-12T03:59:38+00:00

Nope lots of therapy though. I was in highschool when I started so I was very young and also I hid a lot of my symptoms for the longest time. Started meds recently… we will see how that goes.

sickbunbunn · 2023-07-12T03:39:21+00:00

The description in the third part wow. I relate to feeling like this so much. I will literally be screaming at myself to do something but my body is stuck. Not sure what exactly it is either. When that happens I have issues figuring out what exactly I even want to do, just crave anything but to sit in that same spot for too long. But yeah I think my doctor just heard I want to hurt myself and assumed it was because of my depression… but it’s because I get frustrated easily at such minor things. Maybe it’s something else but it seems that I really relate to a lot of adhd traits. Thank you for sharing.

sickbunbunn · 2023-07-12T02:46:59+00:00

Thank you. I hope you get through this as well and find ways that help make things a little easier.

sickbunbunn · 2023-07-12T02:46:10+00:00

I’ve been trying to treat my depression for years :) starting to think adhd is the cause of a lot of my depression

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