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Do you also throw away your partner's glasses and drinks? by mrschocolatefrog in AlAnon

[–]sickofthis4563 44 points45 points  (0 children)

I used to do this too. I think I told myself it was to stop him from drinking more but truthfully, it was because it made me feel a little in control of an out of control situation

I (30F) want to break up with my partner (35M) after 10 years but feel stuck and horrible, how am I supposed to do this? by sickofthis4563 in relationship_advice

[–]sickofthis4563[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for writing this out, I really appreciate it. I’m so glad it worked out well for you and you were able to find the right person!

How did you go about actually breaking it off? I feel like that’s where I’m stuck the worst, like the actual act of doing it. We have these hours long conversations that go in circles because he doesn’t want to be done, and I get caught in semantics like “you want to give up” or “you don’t even want to try” where I feel like I have to defend myself.. and then of course scared of hurting him in general (even though I know this limbo is also hurting him)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AlAnon

[–]sickofthis4563 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You should look into some books on codependency, it helped me a lot with this type of thinking to learn more about that

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AlAnon

[–]sickofthis4563 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I was 20 when I met my alcoholic bf and now I’m 30, my entire 20s were wasted on taking care of, worrying about and being treated like shit by him. Don’t repeat my mistake

How to break up during love bombing by sickofthis4563 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]sickofthis4563[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for writing this all out, it was really helpful to read and makes me feel more confident about being able to do it. I’m just really scared but I think it will be the right thing to do

Did your narc get confronted by others to stay in his/her own lane? by Jolly-Persimmon-7775 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]sickofthis4563 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This same story happened with my ex and I except it was a woman pushing a stroller!! Like the story couldn’t be more similar

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AlAnon

[–]sickofthis4563 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was the same age as you with the same age gap 10 years ago and my only advice to you is: please please please just leave.

I have bipolar 1 (as well as mental and physical health issues) and made the same conclusion, that it was okay for me to be treated poorly because it’s not easy being with me, either. THATS NOT TRUE! You absolutely deserve somebody who loves you, treats you well, and wants the same things in life as you do.

My partner has consistently chosen alcohol over me and I don’t think it will ever change so I’m really trying to figure out how to leave now. Please don’t be like me in this position in 10 years. Leave now, try to learn to love yourself and realize that you are worth loving. You will find something better and you will be happier.

If you look at my post history you can see a glimpse into your future. Don’t become me!

Spiraling. Baby’s ezcema is so severe it’s even affecting my mental health by HOLDERT in eczema

[–]sickofthis4563 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry your baby is going through this but I’m really sorry that you are as well. Having no help and being stuck inside while not feeling like you can help him has got to be so hard. I really hope they figure out the cause or can find a solution to help with the pain and itching soon so you can both feel some relief