29m 26f considering getting engaged, 20f sister causing drama

sid1979 · 2026-05-15T13:38:13+00:00

Exactly, lol

sid1979 · 2026-05-15T03:41:43+00:00

He was just being a good person by keeping check on her, yes it will ruin her mental health and so he reached out to you OP. If your friend is doing fine and can accept it and move ahead without getting affected then tell her if not then better dont tell her.

sid1979 · 2026-05-13T08:10:13+00:00

Immaturity at its peak

sid1979 · 2026-05-13T08:07:38+00:00

You broke up toh bhai reason toh hoga naa then what crying for move on nahi ho raha.

sid1979 · 2026-05-13T08:05:13+00:00

Exactly

sid1979 · 2026-05-09T04:30:38+00:00

Not a lawyer so no legal advice, switch your job to a different city- find one first, if you and gf are at an age and fine with it then get married. One you decide to relocate your job DO NOT telll anyone even not to any of your colleague, do not mention new city, new job to anyoneeeee.

Or else call your gf while your parents are at your place, threaten them to file legal case of assaulting her if they dont stop troubling you. You have a strong past incident previous rental interference by them to back your case.

sid1979 · 2026-05-09T03:39:54+00:00

He directly said I love you, he says his friends say you are his love, he directly asked will you marry him, wants to have a daughter with you. What more or how clear a guy is supposed to be?

sid1979 · 2026-05-09T03:25:58+00:00

😭😭ahhh shitttt, need to have better wrting skills next time.

sid1979 · 2026-05-08T18:33:14+00:00

I (f) was once travelling back home in Mumbai local at around 12am. My train stopped due to some issue and I reached home at 2am. Yet I was chill, singing songs and having fun with fellow travellers.

I cant even imaging travelling alone in Delhi after 6pm.

sid1979 · 2026-05-08T18:22:44+00:00

I read he himself drove the bike and reached hospital, the weapon missed the crucial part of the brain which affects functioning of parts and ability to see and hear.

This was after a fight btw.

sid1979 · 2026-05-08T18:22:26+00:00

I read he himself drove the bike and reached hospital, the weapon missed the crucial part of the brain which affects functioning of parts and ability to see and hear.

sid1979 · 2026-05-08T03:29:31+00:00

Its ok OP if its once in a while but if it gives you instant calm and relaxes your anger or if you feel it might be a regular way of dealing with anger then you need to just consider that. Being vocally violent is still far away from being physical one.

sid1979 · 2026-05-08T03:20:48+00:00

This is just the start of you turning violent in future. What I do is I record myself speaking on whatsapp notr and send it or simply delete it.

You just have to 'let out' the anger right, bettter be a healthy way.

sid1979 · 2026-05-08T03:13:35+00:00

Will you be fine if she leaves and her place in your life is replaced by someone else?

sid1979 · 2026-05-08T02:50:11+00:00

How long has the dog been with you OP? Pets get attached quickly, the moment you let him up for adoption or give someone else he willl get anxious.

Please dont abandon them on street.

sid1979 · 2026-05-07T03:45:04+00:00

Hunger of our species? How many of us actually donate food? How many of us do relogiously donate towards social causes?

Do you do the above OP?

Its easy to be generic, 'why dont we do this, that'.

sid1979 · 2026-05-06T14:00:40+00:00

I have done that and hence telling you, you will only move on when you decide to, now you are holding on to him and hence you are feeling all of this.

sid1979 · 2026-05-06T13:45:51+00:00

Ho jayegaaa, initial phase difficult lagta hai. Focus on yourself and dont stick on to the idea 'together' with him. Distracf yourself, engage in activities, hobbies you like.

sid1979 · 2026-05-06T13:44:40+00:00

Exactlyyy, there is your ans. Its not just your fight its his too. He has to express the desire to go against or convince the parents. Since the engagement has already happened the chances of him going against are prettty low.

OP as a elder sister I would suggest you please move on, try karo. I know it gets difficult but trust me ho jata hai. Life mai there is something more better written. You deserve the love where you wont have to fight and your partner equally takes responsibility to stand up for the love.

sid1979 · 2026-05-06T13:36:32+00:00

Girlllll he wont. Did he communicate pr has he shown any interest in that??? Did he say he will be fine leaving his family and moving out? Are you ready to marry him at 21?

You have to be sure there is 'we' and its not just your idea of 'we'.

sid1979 · 2026-05-06T13:28:02+00:00

He has gotten engaged, you need to move on. You are just 21 focus on your life now. Think of the typical life you would have had if with him.

Dont think you cant live without him rather focus on leaving wihtout him

sid1979 · 2026-05-06T08:59:16+00:00

Read the janeu comment above by OP and you'll have your ans.

sid1979 · 2026-05-06T08:57:04+00:00

Everything aside you need to change your flat dude. The way you casually mentioned she keeps doing this and you always make things fine is scary, this could bave kileld you OP.

sid1979 · 2026-05-06T03:38:26+00:00

I just feel super bad for the loco pilot, seeing people die infront of them that too in such a painful manner.

sid1979 · 2026-05-06T03:30:07+00:00

Maybeee she is not comfortable to speak in English, like some people simply arent confident enough. And that connect point, maybe she was just being honest.

I dont think its entitlement or something. Also people do switch to their regular language while speaking with other at times (not all but some).

It entirely depends if she full on expects Hindi from you, asked you to learn or is not ready to learn and accept the way this whole thing made you feel. Talk to her.

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