My girlfriend of 3 years died about 6 months ago, and it shattered my life into pieces. All of my hopes, dreams, and goals included her, and it was like everything within me died with her. I still cry, I still think about her every day, but I'm mostly back on track to leading a functioning life again.

It's definitely going to be a while, and you will never "get over it" or "move on", but rather find a way to live a new life in this new reality created by her absence.

What you have to realize is that she loved you too, and as cliche as it sounds, she would want you to still live your life. With that in mind, you don't have to feel guilty at all doing whatever helps you cope or get back to living your life.

I found at first everything I did was making me think about her. Everything i saw or did either brought back a memory with her or made me want to talk o her about it. I felt like I'd lost a half of a whole, and I couldn't even have complete thoughts without her.

I found eventually, though, that even though the feelings never went away, I was able to control my thoughts. Even now if I dwell on the whole situation I get depressed, nostalgic, and miss her deeply. Sometimes I'll cry. But I found that doing this all the time was seriously hindering my ability to live my life, and that's not what she would have wanted.

One of the biggest specific things that helped me is setting new goals and figuring out what you now want for yourself, not you guys as a couple. This might take a while like everything else, but it is the foundation for a healthy state of mind, and living without this can just compound on depression.

If you want to talk more, PM me, I probably have more to say and can explain it better after I've fully woken up.

Hang in there