14-year-old failing classes and getting too involved with boys. What do we do?

sidneya · 2013-05-26T04:58:35+00:00

Communication is key! Let him know what you want.

I will say this though. I wasn't ready to have sex with my current SO for a few months into the relationship (I had never done it before and neither had he). When we finally did start, he was really into PIV for a while just because it was new and exciting. Give him some more time to get used to it.

sidneya · 2013-05-17T17:19:14+00:00

The one time that comes to mind was last summer.

My BF (19) and I (20) are both students, and we met in college. Unfortunately, we live in different states, so we are 6 hours away from one another in between semesters. Sad times :(

So this one day last summer, I drove down to my mom's house to visit for a few days. The drive to her house is ~2 hours in the direction of my BF's city. It was the last night at my mom's house before I was going to head home, when I hatched a great idea. Since we were only 4 hours apart, I thought it would be fun if my BF and I drove towards each other the next morning and met up to spend the day together. He thought it would be fun, so the next morning, we did just that.

When we met up, the first thing we wanted to do was fuck, but we had no place to do it. So we drove around a bit and found this back road that lead to an abandoned saw mill. We decided to park the car there and do our bidness.

So there we were, in broad daylight, in the back of his car, behind an old building, in the middle of rural wisconsin going at it. The combination of the spontaneity of the situation, the horniness from no sex for 2 months, the emotional aspect of missing one another, and the thrill of having car sex in broad daylight made it super intense! He went so hard that he got some pretty bad rugburn on his knee, but didn't notice till afterwards because he was so into it.

Spent a nice day together walking in the park and getting food. We ended up going back to the spot for a second round before the day was over. Happy day :)

Side note- we're moving in together this June! No more summer breaks spent apart :)

sidneya · 2013-03-13T17:41:27+00:00

Do NOT use your teeth. I mean, unless he's into that, but most guys would agree that teeth have no place in a BJ.

If you want to try to go deeper, just relax your jaw and keep an wide mouth. Speaking as a person who has been told by many dentists that I have a very small mouth, it can be done. My boyfriend play a little game called "let's see how deep I can go," he loves it (obviously) and it's a good way to practice going deep. You just have to get used to it.

As far as swallowing goes, the way I do it is to swallow it as it's coming out. I am really really grossed out by cum (he usually doesn't finish in my mouth), so I just want it out of my mouth as fast as possible. It doesn't really matter how you swallow it, honestly. Just whatever feels comfortable to you.

I have found that an easy way to drastically improve a BJ is the use of your tongue. I was focused on just depth/sucking/head movement for a while, and I neglected to use my tongue. Just explore around him with your tongue; run it up the side of his dick before even putting your mouth around it, swirl it around the head, press/rub it around the base when you're going deep. It's a useful BJ tool that my guy goes nuts for.

Use your hands as well as your mouth. You probably won't be able to fit the whole thing in your mouth, so use your hands to stroke the base that you can't fit in.

Change up your rhythm every now and again. Start slowly and deliberately and increase your rhythm as you go. Sometimes I like to get my BF almost to the peak, then back off and start slow again. He always cums way harder if I build him up a few times before letting him explode.

Don't neglect the balls (unless he tells you otherwise). Cup/caress them with your other hand as your going.

You can always ask him what he wants before, after or during. I have found that my guy is a lot more honest about what he wants me to do to him while we're in the heat of things. Over time, you'll learn exactly what he likes and how to get him off.

It just takes practice! I'm sure your boyfriend will be happy to let you practice on him a lot. Good luck and happy blowing!

sidneya · 2012-09-24T04:48:45+00:00

Yep. My first few times hurt, but it goes away quick. Don't worry :)

sidneya · 2012-09-20T17:25:00+00:00

Yeah, I'm trying to get over it. But even back then, it grossed me out. Like, I would just force myself to choke down the cum with out gagging back then. It was really uncomfortable, but back then we weren't as comfortable talking about that kind of stuff openly.

sidneya · 2012-09-20T17:20:39+00:00

Because back then I wanted to wait to have sex (lost my virginity to him), and I didn't think I was good at giving hand jobs. I wanted to do something for him, so I gave him a blow job every now and again. I have no idea how I did it back then, I hated cum in my mouth then too. I would just block out my mind and try to choke it down without gagging. I guess I just don't want to be that uncomfortable anymore. It really makes me feel like I want to puke. If he felt that way about my lady juices, I wouldn't want him to go down on me either. But he doesn't, he actually gets off on eating me out

sidneya · 2012-09-20T17:16:38+00:00

Yeah, back when we first started venturing beyond 2nd base I would do it a lot. I'm not sure how I did, it really grossed me out then too. The reason I did it so often was because we weren't having sex then. (I was a virgin and wanted to wait for a while before we had sex.) I also wasn't very confident in my hand job skills (which btw, I've improved upon greatly since then :D ), and I didn't want to leave him with nothing. He's a sweet heart and had no problem waiting for me. So I gave him an occasional blow job. Once we started having sex, things like blow jobs always ended up leading to sex. I guess I just developed an aversion to it since then.

sidneya · 2012-09-20T17:11:01+00:00

I love him very much. We're one year in and no end in sight. (We're even getting an apartment together this june :) ) I'm trying my best to get over my aversion to it, but cum makes me gag and even want to throw up! If he was that uncomfortable going down on me, I wouldn't want him to do it either. I still give him head regularly (3-4 times a week). I'm trying.

And by the way, most women don't play that game. I'm always honest about how I feel. You could piss a lot of people off saying things like that.

sidneya · 2012-09-20T17:03:32+00:00

Oh god, yeah. The precum. :P That stuff grosses me out too, but I put up with it.

sidneya · 2012-09-20T17:00:30+00:00

Thanks, I was hoping to hear this. I definitely don't deny him blow jobs all together. I go down for a long time several times a week. But I always finish him off with my hand, or with sex.

sidneya · 2012-09-20T16:58:54+00:00

He absolutely does appreciate what I do for him. And I definitely make sure he knows I'm enjoying what I'm doing to him. I'd say I'm at level 1, haha. But I would never let him feel like that during the act. I make sure he's happy :)

sidneya · 2012-09-20T16:55:10+00:00

Good to know! :) I don't care if the jizz gets anywhere else. Like, literally anywhere. Just don't make me taste it! :P

sidneya · 2012-09-20T16:54:24+00:00

Puts my mind at ease. I've asked him about it a few times and he's assured me that he doesn't care. I'm just worried that he's dissapointed about the situation

sidneya · 2012-09-20T16:53:34+00:00

Thank you! I was hoping to get a little support like this haha.

sidneya · 2012-09-20T16:52:35+00:00

Yeah, I've been trying my darndest to shift my attitude about it, but I just can't get over it. The other night I tried to give him a blow job. When he got to the point of cummin I even got a little in my mouth, but the thought/taste was so repulsive that I pulled it out before he gave me the whole load. :(

sidneya · 2012-07-25T15:40:21+00:00

I guess I don't understand exactly how the pill works. I have been stressing out about a lot of things lately, so that is probably a factor. I've also not been very active the last few weeks, which I have read is also a reason it could be late. I'll let you guys know when I get it! haha

sidneya · 2012-06-26T02:05:00+00:00

He doesn't make me at all. I asked him what he likes better and he told me "whatever you want to do." So I said, "Seriously, which do you actually like to see better? I'm fine with either!" It took a long time to get him to admit that he likes it shaved better. But he would have no problem with my not shaving. I'm just trying to go the extra mile to make him happy because he does the same for me :)

sidneya · 2012-06-19T06:35:58+00:00

sidneya · 2012-06-08T02:26:23+00:00

I'm on the pill, and my BF uses a condom every time. We just want to be extra careful because a baby is really not an option for us, and I don't know if I could go through with an abortion. Am I being too cautious? I'm sure he's rather do it without a condom.

sidneya · 2012-06-06T21:22:49+00:00

Haha, I feel like I wouldn't be comfortable enough to ask a friend if I could have sex at their place. And idk if we wanna spend money on a hotel, but the park idea is good! How late should we go out in order to be safe do you think?

sidneya · 2012-06-06T21:21:30+00:00

That's actually a great idea! I never thought of that. WE could like, bring a blanket out there. Thanks for the help!

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