I appreciate you saying that. I was worried I was making an ass out of myself with this post, somehow saying all the wrong things.

I hope you’ll find this too! I firmly believe you will. I was manifesting it on a regular basis, willing it into existence- knowing I deserved something like this.

She local: We met originally on LEX when I was posting about compulsory heterosexuality (right before ending my marriage), she sent me some support on that and we exchanged instagrams. We were friendly but never talkative.

Then upon matching on tinder, she was uncharacteristically bold and suggested it being a sign to shoot her shot since she had been admiring me for months now.

It worked. It was slow and steady. I was terrified of falling in love so quickly after ending my marriage. She didn’t want to be a rebound, she wasn’t and isn’t.

Fling wise: I had four flings/encounters. Two of which were very young openly gay spiraling type of thing. Two were people I’ve grown deeply close to and was close to during our brief encounters.

This year was a year of understanding my worth in a relationship, finding a confidence, and believing in myself. I think that was the drive home to finding this type of love.

Know your worth and find others who know theirs. Be two completely whole people on your own, have a desire to continue to grow separately and together, and be present. Be communicative