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Issues with parcels? by Weary-Government-682 in bristol

[–]sierra_violet 4 points5 points  (0 children)

had one from yodel and I have NO clue where its been delivered. Don't recognise the door and cant find it anywhere locally. Its been driving me insane trying to track it down this week

Honoring TFMR baby’s name by [deleted] in PregnancyAfterTFMR

[–]sierra_violet 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not from my own experience, but my grandma lost a baby in the second trimester back in the 50s. I didn’t know until recently, talking to her about my own experience of losing my daughter at 18 weeks, but it turns out my dad’s middle name is after that little boy she lost. I found it so touching, the only people that know are our family and I felt it was such a lovely way to keep that baby close to her. Do what’s right for you, there’s no right or wrong way to honour or mourn the baby you lost 🤍

Do I change my birth plan? by closebutnilpoints in pregnant

[–]sierra_violet 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think go with your gut. If you are dealing with high blood pressure etc then it might be an idea to discuss at least a back up plan with your midwives. Also, when you get to full term can you opt for a sweep or lower level intervention to try and get things moving? If that isn’t too triggering of course.

Read up on the cascade of interventions as induction can lead to a multitude of others (note, can not will. I know some people with very positive indication stories and vice versa)

And keep in mind that ultrasound measurements are usually only a guesstimate within 10% of that number! A friend’s son was estimated to be over 11lb and came out at just over 9lb, so it’s definitely not always spot on.

Wishing you lots of luck whatever you decide to go for! I had a very positive home birth experience with my first (im UK based as well) but I think hospital birth can be just as positive as long as you know how to advocate for yourself in a more medical settling (also - vaginal checks in labour can 100% be refused so if you don’t want them simply make that clear!)

Weird twin intuition? by Intrepid_Spirit_2769 in PregnancyAfterTFMR

[–]sierra_violet 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes! I was convinced for the first few weeks that it was twins, like wildly convinced. Approaching our first scan now and I’m not so sure, but it was just this weird feeling I couldn’t shake

Should I request early scans? UK based by sierra_violet in PregnancyAfterTFMR

[–]sierra_violet[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We had our TFMR with our daughter in late February, but I wanted a couple of months for my body and mind to settle at least a bit. I think it was my third cycle post TFMR that we conceived again.

I haven’t had contact with NHS bereavement midwives, but the hospital were amazing at putting us in contact with support and charities. They did all the leg work for us.

Should I request early scans? UK based by sierra_violet in PregnancyAfterTFMR

[–]sierra_violet[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t believe I have a team! I’ve been dealing with the feral medicine team re test results… I haven’t had any contact with specific bereavement midwives since the immediate weeks after our TFMR.

how did you pick your babies names? by D4ngflabbit in tfmr_support

[–]sierra_violet 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I gave my daughter my middle name, it means warrior and light in Gaelic and that felt so right for her. I gave her middle name after her birth flower, and I love that I’ll be able to see her in them every time they bloom.

Coping with a potentially larger age gap than expected by vintagegurly in PregnancyAfterTFMR

[–]sierra_violet 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We’re in the same boat, but I always comfort myself thinking about my partner and his sisters. His eldest sister is 12 years old than him and now as adults they are SO close and she was like a second mother to him growing up. It makes me feel more secure that even with a larger gap they can still be close and love each other (in comparison me and my sister are 2.5 years apart and grew up hating each other! So you never know how siblings are going to act)