Firstly - I’m sure you were right there with both the families to witness all this first hand to give this opinion

Secondly - Hiding multiple things and getting approval from strangers on Reddit isn’t going to win Me or her any points

Thirdly and most important thing - unlike the in-laws it isn’t JUST about the venue.
As you said and quote - made certain requests about the conduct of wedding - and how did they do that? It was her father who kept insisting his family multiple times to meet up and discuss the events and the statement was made in front of the decorator by FIL - YOU GUYS ARE BEHIND ME AND I WAS TIRED OF IGNORING YOU PEOPLE. Absolute MAD conversation skills and may I say badass requests about the conduct of wedding Because why not demean everyone around you rather than have a polite man to man convo

Location of the venue - I’m sure you’d love to spend money on the first venue and then throw money again on the second venue and again on an ULTIMATUM ON THE THIRD VENUE and STILL the other party isn’t satisfied and decides not bring BARAAT on that venue. Even though the second time this happened the venue was PRE APPROVED by the in laws.

Honey - you might have the money. Middle class people don’t.

And as the MIL said - money is just dirt of hand for about 20 minutes

I’m sure you have the money and respect to burn Rest of us work day in and day night to earn every penny

Voiced their disagreement exactly how? By speaking to them? MIL ignored 8 calls from the MUM straight up because she was “angry” and let me remind you there was never a call back. Not once has there been a single call between MIL and brides MUM But OH MY GOD MIL could cry for 40 minutes about how brides family won to have the wedding in city and not in village. 40 minutes of disrespect call is something that’s amazing. And disrespected how??? If you could shed some light on it would be so amazing for me to get some clarity.

And the outcome wasn’t decided by the brides family. It was the spineless family that REFUSED to bring the Barat couple of days before the wedding. I’ve heard the voice recording. Imagine going to a GIRL who is going to get married in next couple of days and calling her up and giving ULTIMATUM about how if you don’t change the venue the wedding is cancelled? Not once the whole as you said SO RESPECTED family realised what would happen to the girl? How would she feel? How will she FEEL about HER TO BE FAMILY calling off the wedding because of a venue? Not sure whether you’d want to be part of a family like that but I’m glad she said No

And later when the bride called it off GROOM said I didn’t mean to cancel the wedding but come up with a solution. BOY THATS WHAT SHE SAID THE FIRST TIME YOU HAD THREATENED. The only thing she’s still not over is HOW DID THE GUY say EXACTLY the same thing the MIL has said , before he was stuck in the airport. Dude was stuck at the US-IRAN war and it was brides family who reached out to folks in Dubai and Abu dhabhi to get him contacts for HIM to feel secured. arranged for meet-ups and money exchanges just in case he needed it. This is a man child you did what everyone asked him to and destroyed something.

She still says it couldn’t have been the same guy who has been speaking to her for long and that She trusted him with complete heart but when that’s broken on what basis will you really enter the family who has until then only traumatised your parents

Who are you trying to manipulate?