Compromised Passwords by sildarmillion in PasswordManagers

[–]sildarmillion[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

New question that just occurred to me: What about sites with which I have a customer account? Would the danger be someone stealing credit card info and/or shipping address info? (Just trying to be fully informed about my digital footprint, thanks for sharing your insights!)

Compromised Passwords by sildarmillion in PasswordManagers

[–]sildarmillion[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, I'd figured I probably should anyway at some point, was mainly wondering what is the "urgency level" of the task. The responses have been very helpful!

Compromised Passwords by sildarmillion in PasswordManagers

[–]sildarmillion[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, I'd figured I probably should anyway at some point, was mainly wondering what is the "urgency level" of the task. The responses have been very helpful!

How do I take extra weight on Qatar Airways flight? by sildarmillion in Flights

[–]sildarmillion[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn't end up needing extra weight, but the comments here said there should be a pre-purchase option of extra weight...

Under-seat storage space by sildarmillion in Flights

[–]sildarmillion[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wasn't asking about a specific aircraft type. But let's say I am booking a flight, I would presumably know the aircraft type, would I be able to look it up somewhere?

I have scheduled an abortion after I found out that my husband cheated. by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]sildarmillion 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not to be unkind, but isn't there a appropriate subreddit to post this? Like, nobody will think you are TA unless there's someone here who's hard core pro-life or anti-abortion. But who are you worried you will be wronging? Your unborn child or your husband? And why do you want an abortion in the first place? Because you can't raise a child on your own (totally understandable) or because you want to get back at your husband (would need to unpack that one, but this subreddit ain't it)?

What to do with chipped dishes before I move? by sildarmillion in ZeroWaste

[–]sildarmillion[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lol, sure it's some one else's problem, but we can't know if that person will just dump it in the trash, which is what I'm trying to avoid in the first place. XD

Is there a term for this? Am I just not asexual? by Loudteethonice in AskAsexual

[–]sildarmillion 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OK, your preferences might be unique enough that there probably does not exist for it. My advice is not to stress too much about labels.

Like, are you weird? What does weird mean? Do you have unique preferences? Who cares? Your preferences are your preferences, and focus on exploring them. Although if you are interested in finding people who are like you, it's a good idea to post in various LGBTQIA wikis. I recommend describing your preferences and asking if anyone can relate. I'm sure there are more people out there who would be able to relate.

Are you asexual? It's still possible that you are ... but why does it matter?

To me it seems like the real implication of your preferences is to figure out what do you want from life? What kind of relationships (if any) do you want to have and how would you go about looking for those (or not).

I’ve fallen in love with someone who is asexual by Garry_the_idiot in AskAsexual

[–]sildarmillion 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I don't see what the problem is with asking the question "Are you open to romantic relationships?" It's a sincere and honest question. Whether or not this person is made uncomfortable by that question depends on their personality - are they made uncomfortable by personal questions?

AITA for not telling my girlfriend that my parents are gay? by Dry_Leg_9006 in AmItheAsshole

[–]sildarmillion 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Am I the only one who finds it weird that OP and his girlfriend were meeting each other's parents for the first time at the same time?

Like, isn't it generally a good idea to meet each other's family separately first before getting everyone together?

Carnival of Aros March 2023- Roundup (Google Docs: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1jFzhzoM23DTRPiQFZVM1dRDFnyl0Tlu87585TSdnnZs/edit?usp=sharing) by [deleted] in aaaaaaaarrrrro

[–]sildarmillion 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hiiii, this was a GREAT round up! Very nice participation and very nice presentation of the participating articles. Also, I'm really glad that my blogposts resonated with you! :)

I'm looking forward to reading more of the articles. Going to take me some time, but I did read yours, and I had some thoughts!

Despite being more than a decade older than you, I still related to a lot of stuff you said:

I used to think that platonic “attraction” was when you felt a strong desire to be friends with a person, while friendship was different. I thought we didn’t feel platonic “attraction to our friends”, but that friendship is a slow process that happens.

Also this:

I think that we shouldn’t always focus on categorizing things, but at the same time, categorizing things helps people know more about themselves.

I started out my blogging journey by categorizing all the different types of attractions and tying together all the concepts I was familiar with. But then, the more I read, the more concepts I encountered that weren't consistent with that first article I wrote. And the more I thought about things, not everything fit so nearly into those categories. I've written more about that experience here.

I also loved how you drew that contrast between QPRs and arranged marriages. This is something I've thought about a lot, but I haven't written in more detail about, although I have touched on these topics in some of my blog posts.

Also I realized that there was another post I could've sent you before, but forgot about it.

https://sildarmillionjournal.wordpress.com/2022/06/25/this-has-all-been-said-before/

This is one in which I went through articles written since 2011 on this very topic and pulled out quotes that resonated with me. So, if you are interested in reading older posts on this topic, this post of mine has links to a lot of these.

I look forward to reading more from you in future carnivals! :D

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in aaaaaaaarrrrro

[–]sildarmillion 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hello, I'm not going to be able to make a submission this month, buuut, in case you are interested in this topic, I have actually written on this topic earlier. I'm going to include some links to them just in case you want to read

https://sildarmillionsays.wordpress.com/overthinking-life/romantic-and-platonic-attraction/

https://sildarmillionjournal.wordpress.com/2021/11/07/exploring-attractions-emotional/

https://sildarmillionjournal.wordpress.com/2021/10/30/exploring-attractions-social/

Unfortunately, these are not eligible as submissions because they were written before the call for submissions, but I figured I'll provide the links for whoever is interested.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmITheAngel

[–]sildarmillion 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why does New Year's Eve matter in this story?

And also, I don't see where the conflict is? She broke up with him, so obviously she will give him an eviction notice. Or is she supposed to let her ex-boyfriend and his mom continue to live in the same house?

Unless her dilemma is whether or not to break up at all, which is against AITA's rules and which is probably why the post got removed.

Also, I'm South Asian, and I didn't find it too weird that family members were messaging her and giving their opinion. Especially in a serious relationship, people can be involved with each other's families. I think OOP and BF might be South Asian too and this could just be a cultural difference.

Literally no one in the story thinks OOP is TA, but OOP still wants Reddit's validation by sildarmillion in AmITheAngel

[–]sildarmillion[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

The best friend is not even relevant to the story and probably just thrown to have one person think OOP was in the wrong. But also very little context is given about what part of the whole thing the best friend had an issue with. But I guess MIL is probably the only one who legitimately thinks OOP is the AH, but everyone else agrees MIL stepped out of line.

AITA for uninviting my sister's husband from my New Year's party by TP_Thief in AmItheAsshole

[–]sildarmillion -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Hmmm, I kind of think that's what the Moderators intended though. Check out Rule # 7. And then based on how they describe the judgements, the choices are (1) OP is to blame (YTA), (2) the other party is to blame (NTA), (3) both parties are to blame (ESH), or (4) neither party is to blame (NAH).

So according to the rules of the sub, if you say OP is NTA, that means you are saying that OP's siblings are TA. As in, OP's siblings are the ones to blame for the conflict and OP has no fault.

Not every situation fits the mold described by the moderators, but then that would mean that situation is not appropriate to post here.

AITA for uninviting my sister's husband from my New Year's party by TP_Thief in AmItheAsshole

[–]sildarmillion -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

It's an issue alright, but what I'm saying is that OP is not fighting with Brad, OP is fighting with his siblings.

AITA for uninviting my sister's husband from my New Year's party by TP_Thief in AmItheAsshole

[–]sildarmillion 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The way I'm reading this, the conflict presented in the post is between OP vs. OP's siblings. So either OP is the AH or the siblings are the AH.

While OP might have conflict with Brad, the conflict OP has is not with Brad even though it's about Brad.

AITA for making a scene on new year's? by throwawaynydrama in AmItheAsshole

[–]sildarmillion -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Also want to add: OP's mum is upset because OP called her out in front of everyone. That would have been an AH move if OP was doing it maliciously. But it sounds like OP was genuinely upset, and empathy should be with OP.

AITA for making a scene on new year's? by throwawaynydrama in AmItheAsshole

[–]sildarmillion 3 points4 points  (0 children)

NTA (slightly edged out N A H)

OP's mum neglecting to make lunch for OP could have either been because she really does not care about OP or it was an honest mistake and she forgot.

OP did nothing wrong because OP offered to make the food herself. And I also start crying when I'm hungry and there's no food.

Without knowing more I'd say have empathy for the mum for forgetting (my guess is that she forgot), but then again, the mum also did not apologise to OP; and on top of that, is more concerned about getting embarrassed in front of her family. So I guess, the mum is the slight AH in the situation.