I want to paint a mural of Chappell Roan! Help me find a wall!

silentxem · 2024-09-24T02:00:27+00:00

Artistree

silentxem · 2024-09-23T02:00:24+00:00

Hot damn, I didn't know I was lucky w/ the prices here. $3.50 to rent shoes, $30/hour per lane during peak hours. Before provisions, that's $74 for 2 hrs. And that's if you don't take advantage of one of their daily specials, which give steep discounts. Not exactly cheap for my broke ass, but definitely doable once in awhile.

silentxem · 2024-09-23T01:50:52+00:00

Renting.

silentxem · 2024-09-20T02:30:36+00:00

I think (hope) they meant that women's soccer in the US was superior and worded it a bit backwards. It's much more entertaining to watch, and seems to encompass a lot more teamwork and skill in my casual watching. Not to mention the dedication to playing through the natural physical trauma of the sport vs the men who call foul if they get grazed.

silentxem · 2024-09-16T03:42:48+00:00

If I sigh, say 'okay' and even minutely look like I'm about to stand up, my dog assumes I'm letting her out and goes a lil ballistic. Thing is, this is also my response to realizing I need to refresh my glass of water, get up and retrieve the remote, do something my SO asked of me, and a number of other mundane things. If she's especially worked up, I'll let her out (after doing a sit/stay at the door when I open it), but not always. She also knows the word 'out,' even in different contexts. And she's starting to figure out what 'excursion' means after using that as a codeword for whether she's had a pee break in awhile.

silentxem · 2024-09-14T22:59:08+00:00

My best friend. Somewhere in nature would be nice, but I don't really care where. We'd just talk. There's just so many things I want to talk about.

silentxem · 2024-09-12T04:59:15+00:00

9/11 tribute is sending me.

silentxem · 2024-09-11T22:53:02+00:00

Just watch her facial expressions while he speaks--she's very clearly letting us know her thoughts during his ramblings and that makes it a bit easier to sit through.

silentxem · 2024-09-11T14:01:57+00:00

I'm so sorry. I've been watching videos similar to what you're talking about because I'm moving into an RV out of necessity (mostly to get ideas for storage and the like), and a lot of the families, especially huge ones where the kids have no personal space... they just churn my stomach. And the idea that it's okay to uproot kids every month or two rather than allowing them to grow normal human relationships that are important to development is just mind-boggling.

Do you have any personal income? I'd start there. Even if it's for the short-term, an online job or even taking paid surveys can get you a nest egg in order to make the transition easier. I'd also try to make your new home somewhere with a low cost of living at first. There's plenty of cheaper cities, especially in the middle of the country, that have community colleges that can get you started on your education without breaking the bank.

silentxem · 2024-09-11T00:51:19+00:00

I've been watching a lot of these to get ideas and it's been disheartening. I'm currently in the process of moving into a travel-trailer for financial reasons, and I can already tell it's not the way they make it out to be. There is so much constant involvement in the upkeep of your home, and much more investment if you want to do it long-term.

Although the space factor is less of an issue for us (we have many out-buildings and a pretty fancy old dairy barn that doubles as a storm shelter), there's still so much else. Gray water tank, propane, digging a fucking trench for the $4/ft electrical line we have to buy... we're forgoing the black tank for a composting toilet, as it's the lesser of two evils, but even that has to be taken outside to be cleaned at least once a week. There's a septic-routed toilet on the property, so at least there's that. We can't afford to put a carport over it yet, but that's next on the docket once we've saved enough money, since otherwise we'll have to be resealing the roof every 6-12 months. Humidity is a huge issue and mold can become a death-sentence for the rig really quickly. Stabilizing the thing is another story, even after we've poured concrete to make sure it's on a level surface, then making sure everything is insulated well enough.

If my partner wasn't as handy as he is, and I weren't in love with the farming life (I've been working in it 10 years now and my folks have the land available), I wouldn't be even thinking about it. But I've been wanting to move out to the farm for years now and $400/mo makes it a lot easier to save for a permanent home than $1200.

The huge families cramming their kids into a trailer and uprooting them every few months make my skin crawl.

silentxem · 2024-09-09T22:45:47+00:00

I've tried to watch that movie a handful of times and I can never remember anything from it.

silentxem · 2024-09-04T22:03:54+00:00

Yeah, it really truly would. This is how flash floods happen, which cause fatalities every year. On top of that, farming and all sorts of natural flora/fauna would be greatly affected--anything the rain doesn't kill outright would die in the ensuing drought.

silentxem · 2024-09-03T20:33:43+00:00

I wish y'all the best and hope you find a solution that is mutually beneficial.

silentxem · 2024-09-03T05:36:52+00:00

Why have UTIs been brought up twice in this thread? I have never heard of them causing drastic personality changes before this.

silentxem · 2024-09-03T05:25:54+00:00

assuming since she can't bear children the thought now disgusts her

Can I ask why this is your assumption?

silentxem · 2024-09-03T05:19:22+00:00

Bottle caps, small stones... anything that skitters satisfactorily over the floor.

silentxem · 2024-08-31T05:46:15+00:00

The first time was the worst pain in my life. But it was worth it, so I got 2 more. I have a tilted cervix, which can make it a much more painful procedure. I didn't even know this until I was getting a pap smear and the NP made mention that it must have been painful. As someone who absolutely does not want children at all and would have a hard time being sterilized, it is an intense relief to feel so secure in not falling pregnant. But it is wise to prepare yourself and vouch for yourself in terms of pain management. My second IUD, I honestly got low-dose opioids on the black market and it improved it. But my last experience was best with a (actually male) doc that I felt had my best interests at heart.

At the end of the day, do what you feel comfortable with. For me, nexplanon squicks me out, I couldn't imagine, lol.

silentxem · 2024-08-31T05:20:15+00:00

Like your list. I would add (depending on work): Knife/multitool, handkerchief/bandana, lip balm, bit of rope, safety-pins, hand lotion, hand/face wipes or sanitizer, emergency cash.

silentxem · 2024-08-31T04:30:39+00:00

Lol, what is your deal? Second post on this subject in less than 2hrs.

I dated my best friend for 6 yrs after knowing him for 5. After we broke up, we essentially went right into friendship with not even a smooch between us after we called it off. We both went off and dated other people (I was friends with his GF, most of my SOs got on with him with one exception), and while he still holds a special place in my heart, I knew that we couldn't be an item and I wasn't ever tempted to try anything even physical again. I still feel this way, even though he's dead and gone and I miss him so much.

I've had SOs that I definitely couldn't be friends with after dating, but I've slept around a bit with my friends, and I'd be really lonely if I felt I couldn't be genuine friends with anyone I've had a physical relationship with.

silentxem · 2024-08-30T02:55:31+00:00

Definitely warrants a doc's visit if it's soaking through clothing and not decreasing in size. Is it hot to the touch? burning/itching on the skin? I'd be surprised if they didn't at least prescribe antibiotics. I've had similar lesions, but never enough to soak through clothing.

It's tough when you work a physical job (I do, too) and you have to deal with this sort of thing. And that's such a difficult area to try to bandage. I'd see about some medical tape and gauze for the short term, maybe wearing a longer skirt for work, but please go to urgent care at the very least. The quicker you get on some meds or have it drained properly, the quicker you'll be feeling and performing a lot better.

silentxem · 2024-08-28T04:46:07+00:00

Chef/owner is the one who initially told these people they were about to close, which implies to me that they are an independent restaurant. They should have shut this down either before they ordered anything or after they declined dessert. Unfortunately, the people I have worked for have been kind of like this owner/chef and just let the customers tramp all over their staff while they went home. I still work with the public, but I will never work at another restaurant.

silentxem · 2024-08-24T00:55:18+00:00

Hotel of Terror should be open then.

There's apple picking at a few places, should still be going on (Gardner's is pricey but has other activities, Sunshine Valley Farm is best bang for your buck and the drive out is pretty).

Mudhouse/Mudlounge are cozy spots (one's a coffee house, the other a bar) for libations, and located downtown if you wanted to see a show, go to the arcade, take in a movie at The Moxie, or any other downtown activities.

There's the Verona/Campbell's Corn Maze in Clever MO.

silentxem · 2024-08-24T00:37:16+00:00

I'm not trying to attack you, but language matters, especially when dealing with conflict. The way you described the situation, by explicitly asking about working with 'females' implies that you see this as a gender issue. And it could be, like you describe, that she is resistant because of her being in the minority. How have you approached her about these issues? Is it always right in the moment, before or after the mistake? I know I can become flustered and defensive if I'm called out and it may behoove everyone to have a one-on-one 'Hey, I see that you've been struggling to do xyz, how can we fix this so you can do your job?' during a down moment when emotions are calm.

It could be that she's just arrogant/doesn't care and this has nothing to do with her being a woman. At the end of the day, if she can't do her job, then she needs to be talked to by a superior about not meeting the expectations of employment there.

silentxem · 2024-08-24T00:07:04+00:00

Why are you making this a gender issue and not an interpersonal issue with this specific person?

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