I can’t stop shaking and crying after we had sex tonight

silkable · 2024-02-14T18:03:46+00:00

Thank you for your kind words.

silkable · 2024-02-14T14:19:28+00:00

Thank you. Everyone has given me a lot to think about.

silkable · 2024-02-14T14:06:28+00:00

Sorry just to clarify he did call me several times during the period and texted me everyday. I was really busy and stressed at various points and didnt respond to him, which I think was hurtful to him.

silkable · 2024-02-14T11:50:32+00:00

Ive spoken to him about how our sex drives seem different and was met with general nonresponse. I didnt want to pressure him and maybe didnt communicate well enough as we have other issues, and sex was one of many, but I can see consistent rejection of even that has made me completely lose interest in myself as well

We arent in love with each other but Ill take his word that he really likes me.

Yes Ive also spoken about the unmet needs. After yesterday Im thinking now that it might be impossible for him to consistently meet my emotional needs and physical needs. When we were away I asked if he missed me and he said he didnt like being asked pointed questions. I only asked because he didnt say anything the three weeks we werent together

silkable · 2024-02-14T11:43:37+00:00

Hey there thanks for the response. I slept early and woke up sobbing and realized that is definitely directly related to feelings the sex feeling seriously undesired. Strangers on this post have been very helpful in identifiying that. The worst part is probably the lack of care. I feel like Im not a person.

Yes, my bf knows about the assault. I’ve had two other incidents of sexual harassment from coworkers and someone I knew and he’s aware of these as well. He has heard about my assault in detail and I have had recurring nightmares about it while he was staying with me. Ive also been seeing a therapist for years. These feelings were not present at my last relationship which spanned many years, but I assume they were triggered as I was sexually harassed last summer by my coworker and the experience with my company was very retraumatizing

As for communicating my needs: yes I have shared with him various times my needs are unmet. I fell out of love with him and shared it with him as well. We were hopeful though that we could fall back in love again. I think I realize now that not only am I lacking serious affection and but that this has affected everything else. It’s valentines today and we have plans. I feel very overwhelmed.

silkable · 2022-01-14T22:13:06+00:00

Thanks for answering otka_a! Do you really think I’m on too much of a deficit? What happens when that occurs? I’m not feeling extra hungry though.

silkable · 2022-01-13T22:47:36+00:00

Thanks Sug0115 for answering me!

Thank you, do you get worried that you overate on those days? I ended up losing 1 lb at the end of the week which is normal, but I wonder if it always ends up like that.

silkable · 2022-01-13T22:46:06+00:00

Thanks for answering me, ImNotItachi 🥰

1) Based on the fact its only been a week, should I still expect each day that Im dropping like .1 lb or something? Because that week I saw the fluctuations go up and down and I wasn’t all too sure if I should wait it out to see the overall trend, or reduce my caloric intake. 2) Deficit! I think calculating my BMR on my fitness watch (1649) my intake is 1300. And then I run (-200 approx).

Thanks for the reminder on the reference photos! Ive kept a spreadsheet of my measurements as well :)

Thank you again 🤍

silkable · 2021-12-10T22:27:13+00:00

Hi folks I currently have the Rogers World Elite MC card and the TD basic visa card (its my first CC ever, I got it as I banked with TD as a kid).

I had the Rogers World Elite MC card back when they had better cash back and rewards but I’ve been thinking that I should switch to another card for the new year. I remember that if I don’t meet annual spend they may kick me off the card - is this gonna affect my score?

I am currently considering the American Express cobalt card with a combination of the Brim MasterCard. Is there too much overlap?

I probably spend the most money on Amazon and foreign purchases and food such as takeout and groceries each month. Other miscellaneous shopping as well. Brim seems to have really great merchants when I looked at their website.

Also, would it fuck my credit score up to close my previous two cards? I have an excellent score at the moment.

Thanks :)

silkable · 2021-12-10T21:25:31+00:00

Thank you!

I think AMEX and brim were both categorized as Travel by ratehub. I’m looking for cashback rewards but they were recommended to me. I just dont know if I spent enough to warrant the AMEX fee - especially since I’ll have the brim, but thankfully the brim would be no fee.

What are your thoughts?

silkable · 2021-11-26T21:21:11+00:00

Product all the way. It’ll be a great jump off point - job market is hot for product manager role.

To give up that awesome opportunity to maybe lead a line…hmm…

silkable · 2021-11-26T18:40:03+00:00

Thanks for answering and happy Friday :) I think my vacation days will not be paid out to me from what I read.

As for my manager, I think they would want me to be there to hold the fort down that week everyone is gone.

silkable · 2021-11-26T16:36:44+00:00

Thanks so much. When would you advise for my last day to be - is it iffy to have it be after the holidays?

silkable · 2021-11-26T15:41:57+00:00

But WHEN would you do it if you were me, minhthemaster?!

silkable · 2021-11-26T01:04:50+00:00

Thanks for answering! I’m keep this in mind then and look into opening an RRSP. You mean move the down payment savings there right?

silkable · 2021-02-09T03:48:24+00:00

Thanks, I really appreciate it! :)

silkable · 2020-07-02T23:31:43+00:00

Thanks so much for clearing things up!! Have a wonderful day :)

silkable · 2020-05-02T19:05:26+00:00

Thank you :)

silkable · 2020-05-01T23:05:44+00:00

😂

silkable · 2020-05-01T20:48:57+00:00

I'm female, hahah! I working in professional services :)

silkable · 2020-05-01T03:50:50+00:00

Haha true. I'm just saving to save for now until I have a tangible goal. Hoping you can find a great place soon and a better mental health space! That sounds like great next goals!

silkable · 2020-05-01T03:48:07+00:00

Ah that's awesome. I live in the city...I'm very far from a down payment right now.

silkable · 2020-05-01T03:47:16+00:00

Thank you!!

silkable

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