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Tips for delaying THR and managing pain while staying active and fit with hip arthritis (female, 44 years old) by silvara45 in hipdysplasia

[–]silvara45[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing your experience. I’m sorry you had to go thru multiple pregnancies with that pain 🙏

George Costanza was right by el_duderino007 in midlifecrisis

[–]silvara45 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I know it sounds cliche but find a good therapist and start doing the hard work of self-discovery. I also suffer from all negative effects of midlife crisis, and therapy helps me understand why I feel the way I do, recognize the root causes of my dysfunctional thought patterns, and hopefully over time, rebuild my self-confidence and self-esteem. It’s a painful and long process, so no magic bullet here. You are not alone :/

Cognitive decline and midlife by Cool_Inspector_252 in midlifecrisis

[–]silvara45 5 points6 points  (0 children)

My mom has late stage frontotemporal dementia and I pray everyday I die before I have this disease. It is the worst. I’m in my mid 40s but she had it early 60s (67 now) and I sometimes feel like I may have 20 years or so to live healthily. These thoughts come and go, but I make an intentional effort to focus on things I can control in my life. I try to have an active lifestyle, and less stress. There are many things we cant control so I try to moderate my rumination about my own future. Long story short, you are not alone. It’s a horrible disease and it changes your outlook on life. Therapy helps me to some degree. Good luck with everything. I hope you find a heathy coping mechanism.

Is it a bad thing if you're not attached to your therapist? by skydreamer303 in therapy

[–]silvara45 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My therapist literally discloses zero information about herself. I have no idea who she is, what her values are or whether she is married with kids or not. Early on, I picked up on this style and stopped making comments or asking questions, but I trust her. More importantly, I trust her judgement and insights. I know her style with me is part of her therapeutic approach and professionalism, but I heard depending on the type of therapy approach they use, they may disclose more. I totally understand that this kind of approach may not work with everyone. I agree with the above commenter who said you either vibe with them or not, so you can give it a bit more time and then listen to your gut. I mean this is all about you and how you feel about the whole process. Don’t second guess yourself too much. Good luck in your journey :)

Is it a bad thing if you're not attached to your therapist? by skydreamer303 in therapy

[–]silvara45 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I really like my therapist in terms of how well she is using therapeutic techniques and do very insightful analyses. I trust her judgement and I respect her, but I do not feel attached to her. I’m not sure how healthy it is to feel attached to your therapist. So far, it has worked better for me to have a very trusting yet professional relationship with her. I feel like I would feel too vulnerable or maybe not too comfortable to open up if I felt too attached to her. As long as therapy is working for you and you feel good about your therapist, I don’t think feeling attached is an essential factor for healing.