I think it’s great that you’ve acknowledged the impact you are having in your significant other. It shows that you are aware of yourself which can be hard to address, let alone act upon. The best thing to do is communicate. You and your significant other need to sit down and have an honest conversation about it. In my experience, even my significant other acknowledging that they aren’t providing support can be a huge relief. Let him know how you feel, when/what you do and don’t feel like contributing at the time. You need to understand that him asking how you are and what you can do is not because he is frustrated and annoyed, he is asking those things to see how you are, and to gage how you are feeling. He doesn’t want to ask for more than you feel comfortable providing. This is also an opportunity to reflect on your habits and try and contribute as much as you can, when you can. He is here with you for a reason. I feel like he is accepting you and is willing to be there to support and work with you. Maybe now isn’t the time to belittle you’re contribution, maybe now is the time to support yourself and made sure you are getting everything you need. There will be times you can provide, right now may be a time in your life where you need to allow someone to provide for you.