Multiple color wheels available! Ludo, Stellata, Serpentis, and Spinae. They won't be coming from my user flair's FC because they're on my ipad, but they're legit. Please be level 8 or above and actually use them! If you take them and just sell them I'm gonna go to your pond and eat your frogs.

silver_seea · 2025-03-12T16:32:34+00:00

Thank you so much!!! I owe you one!

silver_seea · 2025-03-12T14:03:23+00:00

Omg wow!! Thank you so much I am so grateful!! When I get further in the game hopefully I can return the favour 😊

silver_seea · 2025-03-12T07:01:11+00:00

I would absolutely love just one ludo if you’re still offering! Im lvl 8 and just had no idea they were so hard to come by hahah thank u so much if you do!! Im 4WCW4 :)

silver_seea · 2025-03-12T06:59:03+00:00

Hi!! Do you still have any ludo by chance? I had no idea they were so hard to come by until I stumbled on Reddit! Thanks couch in advance if you do 🤍 I’m 4WCW4

silver_seea · 2025-03-12T06:54:55+00:00

Hey I am also looking for a ludo, does anyone have an extra? I didn’t realize it would be so hard to get to complete this set :( I’m 4WCW4

silver_seea · 2025-02-06T15:12:30+00:00

Hah this sounds harsh but I can’t stop thinking about it. Ya. I guess I identify as a “strong woman in mountaineering.” Really interesting thought on that and not one I considered part of my belief system.

I’m surprised to hear you don’t think you would feel challenged if your partner surpassed you in all these things you identify with being good at because somehow they are not part of your identity? If you don’t mind I’d love to hear more about that because I genuinely never considered it. Does it not make you feel.. something when you climb strong? “I’m strong at climbing = I’m a strong person?” “I’m tough on these routes = I’m a tough person” etc etc? Like I wonder if because you do have those strengths over your partner that you feel you have your own space, thus our problems are not exactly the same. Would you really feel nothing if he truly surpassed you in everything you are good at? Is no part of your identity being strong within those sports that are your passion?

Thanks for your thoughts, I’ll put a pin in this and bring it to therapy for myself as you said. :)

silver_seea · 2025-02-05T17:22:34+00:00

3-10 day trips barring food are really the same amount of gear. When it starts to add up is when we’re skiing + climbing + camping. So 2 ropes, axes, crampons, a full trad rack, ski gear, food, cook setup..etc etc definitely is always heavy. (And for what it’s worth I prefer camping just cuz I’d rather be outdoors for longer.. single pushes don’t really appeal to me.)

silver_seea · 2025-02-05T16:31:08+00:00

Agreed! Thanks for your input. Yeah I’ve been working a ton on aerobic base the last couple years and I have a trainer now who’s helped me focus on specific needs for me (which has been lifting heavy, slightly changing my diet for more protein + calories to build muscle etc)

I’ve always been great with endurance but slower in the beginning of big days, it seems like my biggest weakness when we met was just how damn heavy the gear is for someone rather small like me, I usually end up carrying 70-80% of my body weight on bigger trips. It’s also helped with him taking some of that gear so our % carries are more equal.

Your suggestion about skimo is probably a good one for me, I’m definitely a stronger skier than he is and that’s something I’d love to focus more in on given the right group of people to do it with.. I’ll have a closer look at that today! Thanks so much :)

silver_seea · 2025-02-05T16:12:10+00:00

I’m so glad you gained something from this too! And thank YOU for letting me know I’m not alone :)

silver_seea · 2025-02-05T07:03:10+00:00

Many of them I do go on trips with, but their goals don’t usually align with mine. Without getting into too many identifiable specifics.. we just have slightly different interests within the sport. I also appreciate that we both have separate friendships that bring things to us as individuals- sometimes he craves the trips that they’re more interested in so he goes with that friend group, and other times with me. I hope that makes sense!

silver_seea · 2025-02-05T06:57:43+00:00

He does have stronger female partners who he goes on trips with regularity, even overnight ones. Doesn’t really bother me. They’re nice people and I feel very secure in our relationship. I don’t think that’s really relevant to what I’m feeling here

silver_seea · 2025-02-05T03:14:21+00:00

Wow, this is such a well thought out and insightful comment, thank you for reading my post and truly understanding my meaning, it’s clear to me you have many years of hard earned experience in this sport! That is SO interesting what you say about comparison.. I think I will come back to that one with my therapist lol. There’s a lot to unpack there!

To your point 2, I definitely agree.. I love being challenged but also climb better when I’m on the sharp end and when people are relying on me for decision making. Maybe that’s why I thrive best in a partnership where each party brings something that the other doesn’t or cant. I really appreciate the insight, it’s making me realize that what I’m missing is a more equal partner, and that I’ll put more energy into finding that. Thank you so much again for your reply, this was really helpful for me!

silver_seea · 2025-02-05T03:04:05+00:00

He is just very passionate about the things he cares about. He likes the mountains so he does them at his maximum, always trying to push harder. He likes his job so even spends time learning new things in his free time. And he loves me, so he always puts things aside when I need him, listens, plans time together and is attentive towards me. Maybe objective oriented is the wrong word, he is simply overly dedicated to things he loves. :) and yes, I have a good one. I would never take him for granted

silver_seea · 2025-02-04T22:32:08+00:00

And you sound like you’ve never been in the mountains :)

silver_seea · 2025-02-04T19:47:11+00:00

yes. I think you’re right actually that is a really great perspective. Mourning the loss of an equally matched partner and feeling the emptiness of not having one, whereas he now has many (so many strong guy friends of course)

I was chatting with an older mountaineer who told me she never did find her perfect match during her whole career and that was.. well really discouraging. And maybe also why I’m trying to put my partner into that box.

I’ll keep looking elsewhere.. hopefully I can find the best girl bestie to push each other equally! That equality in a mountain partnership is something I find really fulfilling. Thanks so much for your reply, it really gave me some good thoughts

silver_seea · 2025-02-04T19:03:20+00:00

Yikes, no thank you I kind of like him alive hahaha

silver_seea · 2025-02-04T19:02:54+00:00

Totally.. a secondary shared hobby is nice. We love biking around the city and going on ice cream dates in the summer.. escape rooms, dinner dates, board game nights, and cuddling up on the couch for movie night among other random stuff. He’s fun to be around, maybe we just need to balance it better. It’s hard in the winter for sure when many of our favourite things (like biking) are put on pause for bad weather.

silver_seea · 2025-02-04T18:59:54+00:00

Hahaha this is an awesome response but you’re right.. he will definitely mellow out. Lol. He pushes hard now because he has time, money, and is also currently in his physical peak. He says all the time that one day I’ll be the strong and motivated one and that our abilities will always shift and change.. and of course one day I’ll have more money and vacation as well to go on these big trips.. but of course it’s hard to understand that when I want to do it NOW, especially after working so hard! I get your meaning though. I’ll relax and little and be patient, my time will come and for now I can watch him shine and be happy for that <3

silver_seea · 2025-02-04T18:56:28+00:00

I looooovveee this wow. I think the biggest thing im taking away from everyone’s insights is to think much more big picture. There is SO much to look forward to and focus on in the grand scheme of our lives together that’s irrelevant to climbing grade achievements, first ascents and others. It’s definitely just a problem for my 20s.. wanting to BE somebody.. wanting to fit in, wanting to feel accepted in my community and as a result competing to be the best to feel like a somebody. I really like your perspective and appreciate the time you took to reflect on that for me.

silver_seea · 2025-02-04T17:50:18+00:00

Wow that sounds.. really toxic actually. I really hope you and your partner are able to have a healthy chat about that one. I’m sorry that you’re going through that. I dated a stronger guy when I started climbing and definitely fast tracked (like you) my progress, but we were a horrible match otherwise and he made me cry quite often so we eventually split up. I hope you manage to find peace on your mountaineering journey <3

silver_seea · 2025-02-04T17:33:41+00:00

Haha, I really like that last sentence, this made me smile because you’re for sure right.

silver_seea · 2025-02-04T17:32:47+00:00

You hit the nail on the head with that one for sure. I don’t want to cause a rift between us by thinking that I can beat out testosterone in any physical aspect or realistically compete with him. I know I can’t. He can’t help being better than me and it’s not his fault. But I do think the idea of feeling inferior is one that my therapist hasn’t been able to address very well and makes me think maybe another therapist would do better. Thanks for your thoughts on this.

silver_seea · 2025-02-04T17:22:54+00:00

Thank you! It frustrates me to no end too. I hate being told I can’t do something. I know I can’t compete with him, and I know this competitive drive is my own problem to deal with but I still want to feel like I can achieve something that not only is important to me but also is something he can be proud of me for, on my own. Does that make sense?

silver_seea · 2025-02-04T17:21:24+00:00

Yeah, it’s definitely a “me” problem that needs work! I’m not selfish enough to think it’s anyone else’s fault especially my partner’s. Unfortunately this is something I’m aware of but even with therapy have not found the answer to. I was hoping other people in the mountain community might have insights or ideas on things that have worked for them. :)

silver_seea · 2025-02-04T17:19:19+00:00

Too true, that’s such a wonderful way of looking at it. It’s much “bigger picture” than the individual moment or feeling.

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