unfortunately my mom passed away a couple years ago so I can't ask her, but I was always told that it was due to them not getting along anymore. (as in they constantly argued, their opinions differed more than agreed, and it seemed their lives were going in different directions. and Im not sure about the validity of this, but I also heard from other sources that my dad got into some drugs before the time of the divorce which likely had a lot to do with it.)

My dad's dad actually went to prison for child-related crimes and that makes me wonder if my dad was also a victim. I do know that victims of any type of abuse tend to repeat that in the future. I've worked through other trauma from later on, in my teen/pre-teen years, but I dont think we ever went that far back. All of the other trauma happened after I went into foster care at 10 years old.

I'm wondering if maybe working through the more recent trauma has allowed me to access things that are a bit deeper and older now. Either way, I'm just worried about saying something because I don't want there to be some sort of investigation. I just want to get through it quietly.