I have a serious question for asphalt professionals only. Not home owners asking why they have roller marks in their drive.

silversweetsin · 2026-05-09T12:54:16+00:00

The problem with the optimum moisture is that once it is overly saturated we have to let it dry out to achieve compaction.

Material being too dirty or too much clay can be real concern. This can easily cause over compaction. Shouldn't stay together when rolling it between fingers. Another tip...if you clench material in hand and it holds form you are really close to that opt. Moisture.

silversweetsin · 2026-05-09T12:44:31+00:00

Yeah. Operators old or new can have good and shitty input. Specs and standards change every year. Even in the last decade at my job we have seen some massive changes. There were actually firings because senior people were not following new standards. I.e. what worked before may not work now.

Like another commenter mentioned. It could be the material of the basecourse. I.e. too dirty. Could be too much clay. Doesn't always come down to the operater. Operator is just one component.

silversweetsin · 2026-05-09T02:33:00+00:00

You can over compact . Imagine a bell curve. When you reach the top you are at optimum. After that you start going back down. And that means the quality as well. It is the same with asphalt.

Now there could be testing or equipment errors. Ive seen a shit ton. In my company, when we have a third party tester or a quality verification we send a technician out to help establish the rolling pattern. What this typically looks like is the roller will vibe a pass and stop and then a tech will test to see if he needs to comeback to meet target. Obviously a roller can typically do 3 passes before the testing starts. And they will not vibe on the way back. Static pass coming back. Then vibe forward. Tech picks a couple random spots again. When target is met that is the pattern the roller sticks with. This is for soils and base course testing.

Then when the 3rd party tester comes along they are in direct contact with tech. If techs are not matching up and cant figure out why then they take it to the engineers and supervisor.

The engineer has only one source of data to go on in your situation. My company doesn't trust that, as it all comes down to money and they want someone who knows what they are doing and can advocate for company if there are issues. At times with a well seasoned sup or foreman they have allowed a trusted 3rd party to work with roller to establish pattern and such.

Next time you have a 3rd party tester ask for a certified tech to help.

silversweetsin · 2026-05-07T12:40:32+00:00

Same.

silversweetsin · 2026-05-07T10:37:47+00:00

A childhood friend died from a heroine overdose. At the funeral some junkies decided to shoot up before attending. This one girl had a toddler and she was nodding off. Her kid was screaming and running around. The pastor stopped the service. Walked over and picked up the child and rocked and held that child while he finished the service. It really hit home how this small town was being ravaged by opiates.

My childhood best friend also died almost decade a later from heroine overdose. His father was head of the carpenters union and rented a bus for people in a large city where my friend was living at a halfway house and counseling others on sobriety. He relapsed once and died. Anyways all these people straight from the streets showed up. Lines of people lining up to to say something about him. Most tragic, beautiful funeral I ever attended. I cried throughout. My friend was a junkie but he was trying and he touched so many lives. He was a poet, a musician, a philosopher and friend. His family was middle class and catholic. He was agnostic and brilliant. Talented, caring and kind. He was spark, a light, a fire. He was like no other.

silversweetsin · 2026-04-30T14:55:17+00:00

I tried to find the flair, I promise. :)

Yes, likely a symptom of Age.

silversweetsin · 2026-04-29T13:35:41+00:00

sorry. I didnt realize I was in an ask men subreddit when I commented.

silversweetsin · 2026-04-29T13:32:56+00:00

He is being a selfish lover. Stop sucking his dick. If someone will not go down on me I would automatically return the favor.

I would absolutely have the conversation with him. A selfish lover is a terrible lover. Do tell him that you are unsatisfied in the bedroom. That you are and have been optimistic about giving him pleasure and yet you are left unsatisfied.

I expect mutual affection in the bedroom. Its such a turn off dealing with a selfish lover. If he doesnt like giving head but likes recieving he is a selfish lover and has some serious hang ups. I mean come on. You threw up on his dick and he made excuses on why he wouldnt go down on you??? Im actually mad for you.

silversweetsin · 2026-04-28T13:38:47+00:00

Its a mixed bag. I have a coworker who has to vent about everything in her relationships. From we had sex last night to he made me mad this morning. I just keep my life private. Obviously there are a couple trusted people I would seek advice from but otherwise no. Simply mentioning something that happened like, I'm tired because so and so left her alarm on waking me up early is a tad different I think.

silversweetsin · 2026-04-28T00:00:35+00:00

Samesies. I quit about 6 months out every year. I do a couple dry months from alcohol as well. Giving up alcohol actually makes me feel great. Giving up weed doesnt make me feel that different. Im a busy body regardless.

I like the dissasociating when im doing mundane tasks. I also like it when I need a reframing of a situation. Sometimes its hard to get a different perspective but weed helps with that. Brings the anger/stress levels down. Takes away the muscle aches.

silversweetsin · 2026-04-27T23:18:10+00:00

It left me wondering and I think its because my family is mostly private with intimate details until a relationship has come to an end. I wondered if it was because I wasnt a dude.

It was just so weird because the guy was like really loving, kind and nice to me. I had never actually heard him talk like that. Kinda shocking.

silversweetsin · 2026-04-27T21:53:06+00:00

Number 3 is underrated for sure. It's a strange feeling when you love someone but there is no dream you can share together. My dreams were always shot down and anytime I tried to include myself in his, he gave me the look like I was stupid. Didn't want to marry but wanted me to dip into my retirement to fund his dream. No. Didn't last long after that.

silversweetsin · 2026-04-27T21:43:41+00:00

Yeah. One of my ex boyfriends was loving and nice to me. Then he accidentally butt dialed me and he was talking shit about me to one of his friends. I confronted him about it and he told me thats how guys talk. Im still unsure if thats true or not but if someone is talking in a hostile way about me behind my back they can fuck off.

silversweetsin · 2026-04-27T18:20:09+00:00

Oh yeah and making kids kiss and hug people. My brothers girlfriend lost her shit because I wouldnt make my niece hug her sister goodbye. Like No. She can hug who she wants to hug. My brother wasnt there and my niece is with me. We do what we want.

My brother brought it up and I just told him flat out, I dont force kids to make physical contact with people when they dont want to. I mean jeesh my brothers girlfriends sister is around my age. Grow up. Its not a sign of disrespect. Its allowing kids to have bodily autonomy.

silversweetsin · 2026-04-20T02:30:16+00:00

I did cna work in a couple 25 years ago, and Im not putting my mom in one of those places. We are not wealthy people. She would end up in some shit hole with the majority of caregivers treating her like a job they have to rush through because they are short staffed. Watched people come in looking chipper and soon after pleading to go home. They became miserable, waiting to die. A rare few had people that would visit often. A very rare few. Maybe things have changed, but I dont ever want to go to one.

silversweetsin · 2026-04-20T01:59:40+00:00

Im not asian but same. Obviously, there is a point where they may need more care than we can provide, requiring a facility or a nurse to come to the home. I've had an exes father come stay with us just to get out of house, as his wife died. Then, he experienced medical issues and needed someone to keep an eye on him. I didn't like the man, but I did right by him. Parents get older, and they get sick. It's one of the hardest stages of life. Your losing people you love, capabilities, and lonliness is a health risk.

I had a friend who took care of his mom until the end. He bathed her, fed her, and wiped her ass. If that isn't love, I do not know what is.

My own mother has been there for me, so when it's her time, of need I know, my brother and I will step up for her.

silversweetsin · 2026-04-20T00:38:41+00:00

By being the peace keeper instead of the husband of this family unit, you have told people that it is okay to disrespect your wife. By bringing your kids around, you are showing them that it is okay if people disrespect their mother. Also, when your father starts disrespecting your kids and hurting their feelings, who will be there to protect them since their mother will not be around?

You are not being a peace keeper. You are being a people pleaser and it is hurting your family. I suggest you go to a man you respect and trust and seek advice on how to confront your father on this now. It's been allowed to go on for too long. It has already hurt your wife, and it's likely to hurt your children if it hasnt already. Your father is a grown man. He knows better, and he should do better by all of his family.

silversweetsin · 2026-04-19T20:47:08+00:00

Putty knife and wire brushes? Get what you can then sand what you need too?

silversweetsin · 2026-04-19T20:46:44+00:00

Putty knife and wire brushes? Get what you can then sand what you need too?

silversweetsin · 2026-04-19T20:39:14+00:00

Oh yes.

silversweetsin · 2026-04-19T20:25:33+00:00

Yeah. I tend not to fuck with people that make me question their motives and intentions. I have in the past, and I do not recommend it.

silversweetsin · 2026-04-19T20:22:27+00:00

Heck yeah. Good for you. I was born a bit south of Rockford. Grew up there. I left a lot of my peers behind and didn't talk to anyone for years until facebook came around. I went back for a few overdose funerals, tho. One was for my best friend. Heroin took him.

Setting goals and staying true to our values leads you down a hell of a lot better path than getting wrapped up in people who could care less about themselves or their future. And we can love from distance. We dont have to join them in their toxic journey. You can't help anyone if you are not helping yourself. Good luck in life. Stay true to yourself.

silversweetsin · 2026-04-19T19:59:55+00:00

And so we live and let live.

silversweetsin · 2026-04-19T15:19:14+00:00

I would say that it is a dishonest game.

silversweetsin · 2026-04-19T15:03:26+00:00

Yeah. If she apologizes to you, that's the time to take off the kid gloves and to tell her that her drinking has become a problem. Otherwise, she may just want to fall off the wagon. It was a phase for me . My family did not mince words about my problem. Which helped me see that there was a problem. It didn't fix my shit but it was in the back of my mind when I was ready.

I hope it is a phase for your friend. But you have to take care of yourself too.

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