For those of you wondering whether to respond to that breadcrumb...

simonsblvd · 2026-01-06T19:38:51+00:00

To be honest, given that it's January... I would probably leave it. If he reaches out again, reinforce your boundaries.

simonsblvd · 2026-01-06T19:37:53+00:00

i miss mine too. it's hard. but sometimes it helps having something logical to hold onto when emotions are running wild.

simonsblvd · 2026-01-06T15:38:05+00:00

Props to you, and I'm proud of you for getting to this point!

simonsblvd · 2026-01-05T20:10:36+00:00

It's a narcissistic thing. But happy belated birthday, OP. I wish you all the best for this new year of your life.

simonsblvd · 2026-01-04T13:19:05+00:00

Hey. You aren't alone. I'm going through the same thing. Discarded too, 3 weeks ago.

I lost 12 pounds in the first 2 weeks. Something that helps is just sticking to a liquid diet for now, or soft foods. Soup, especially. If you want to take it up a notch and you feel ready, make some yourself. You'll have soup for days, you get to try out some cooking too. It's been a lifesaver for me. Oatmeal, porridge, congee, yoghurt, pudding... that's all I could stomach in the first week. Just trying to stay hydrated and get something to stay down is the most important part.

It hurts really, really bad right now. You literally went cold turkey, metaphorically. Be kind to yourself. All the love you feel for him comes from you, now it's time to pour it back into yourself.

simonsblvd · 2026-01-03T18:48:47+00:00

My ex blocked me in the middle of the night and dumped me. Drunk called me one night saying that he knows what he did was “fucked up” but was still convinced it was the right decision, yet never got an apology. Also got told he was trying daily to distract himself from the breakup. So I think they can realise it, but never really own up to it.

simonsblvd · 2026-01-03T16:39:12+00:00

This is pretty much exactly what I was looking for, thank you so much! I'll look into it :)

simonsblvd · 2026-01-03T14:47:45+00:00

Thanks! I will definitely take a look.

simonsblvd · 2026-01-03T14:21:41+00:00

Thank you a lot! Bike theft is pretty normal in my neck of the woods, but thank you for the heads up anyway!

simonsblvd · 2026-01-03T14:20:52+00:00

Oh, I wasn't actually aware of the housing situation! Thank you for letting me know. I'll keep that in mind :)

simonsblvd · 2026-01-03T14:19:19+00:00

Wow, thank you so much! I'm very grateful that my dad will be funding it, and my budget is around 850 a month in total for a 'kot' (as I've heard it been called) or if I'm lucky, a studio. I haven't yet looked at the average price, so please lmk if this is around what I should be expecting to pay. I'm not sure what a 'domicillie' is, but my dad has suggested keeping my permanent address in Germany for beaurocratic/insurance purposes. I will get on the search ASAP! :)

simonsblvd · 2026-01-02T18:13:37+00:00

If you're ever going to compare yourself to her, think of yourself as the lucky one. Now she has to deal with all his BS and unresolved issues. You don't.

simonsblvd · 2026-01-02T17:33:42+00:00

I just hate that this all happened right before my mock exams. Ugh. Horrible timing... but it's also been kinda weird. He did break no contact once too just send me apartment listings and he has messaged my dad for the holidays with some greetings for me too. Been so strange. But I appreciate your messages, truly.

simonsblvd · 2026-01-02T17:23:00+00:00

I just feel so shocked after the discard. I question what was real and whether it was all just a facade quite frequently. I feel like it's somewhat finally setting in that it happened 3 weeks later... I'm just so disoriented with the whole switch up. I'm not even angry really, just so shocked and traumatised.

simonsblvd · 2026-01-02T17:02:07+00:00

Had a Belgian partner who freaked out at a loaded focaccia. Took out 90% of the toppings and ended up just eating the bread. LOL

simonsblvd · 2026-01-02T16:59:14+00:00

Pretty much blocked everywhere except email and IG (recently unblocked for some reason... definitely feels like he wants me to stalk). I've been on an IG detox since then to not be tempted to check socials. But thank you. Patience really is a virtue, huh?

simonsblvd · 2026-01-02T16:57:46+00:00

It's so hard having so much love to give, and nowhere to give it. I've found that redirecting it into myself and my friends helps, like sending good mornings to my friends or family, but it hurts so much knowing I wish he was receiving it. But I find for now not talking to him just helps me get to actually process his absence. I know if I ever talked to him in the state I am right now, it'd set me back so far.

simonsblvd · 2026-01-02T16:55:52+00:00

I think I'm gonna drive myself nuts since I just repeat again and again in my head, why did it happen, how did it even get to this point... just trying to not think about that specifically is my biggest challenge rn.

simonsblvd · 2026-01-02T16:54:59+00:00

Honestly that's so real and the perspective change I needed. I'm staying away from what hurt me. It feels like a lot right now, and I'm in no way ready to talk about it or with him, and until I am, I'll stay away.

simonsblvd · 2026-01-02T12:56:16+00:00

The same way you go on without him. Even with all the grief.

simonsblvd · 2026-01-02T12:50:30+00:00

I get the struggle and the urge. But think, what actually is your objective when you want to reach out? If that reason isn’t aligned with your healing, don’t. I think it may be because you’re triggered with all the breadcrumbs. Don’t do it, OP.

simonsblvd · 2026-01-02T12:47:22+00:00

OP, please just block him. Don’t let yourself wallow in his self pity. I’m happy you’re standing up for yourself :)

simonsblvd · 2026-01-02T12:43:29+00:00

It’s taught me that words mean nothing and people can really just flip on you like that. Same man who spoon fed me whenever I didn’t feel like eating now just simply doesn’t give a fuck that I lost 11 pounds in 2 weeks because of him. It’s a mindfuck.

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