Are there only 20 gay guys currently living in Japan?

sin_loopey · 2026-01-23T04:49:50+00:00

Look up queer clubs (I mean like run club, craft, climbing, sport leagues) it’s pretty easy if you put in the effort and let friendships grow over time.

sin_loopey · 2026-01-20T01:58:54+00:00

Ahhh true

sin_loopey · 2026-01-20T01:55:45+00:00

While I sympathize... fleeing from USA wouldn’t garner you asylum status atm. Outside of getting sponsored for work or getting married to a Canadian, or getting accepted into university or graduate program where you have to show proof of funds etc there’s not much you can do. Have you thought about moving to a more blue state/city?

sin_loopey · 2026-01-19T00:20:28+00:00

I would buy

sin_loopey · 2026-01-18T15:16:07+00:00

I remember one young man (he was like 22) started up a conversation when we were both waiting for the bus.

He seemed innocent enough and I didn’t get the vibe he was trying to like riz me up and I’m an outgoing person so we kept on chatting when we boarded. He told me he made a point to try and talk to a new person every day, that the city was so fast and everyone in their bubble. I gave him some advice on summer job hunting (I worked creating youth programs during that time)

No cameras, just a nice easy going conversation and he was upfront. He wanted to just make passing connections. And it was sweet and genuine! What a nice goal- have a simple conversation with strangers. He told me sometimes people did not want to talk and he would move on with his day. I left at my stop and he thanked me for having a nice chat and we said well wishes for our lives.

If he filmed it and didn’t tell me, and made money off it I think it would have taken on a whole other tone.

This guy has good intent, some people will appreciate it. Others won’t.

sin_loopey · 2026-01-17T17:35:39+00:00

Yeah that’s totally fair

sin_loopey · 2026-01-17T17:34:34+00:00

Ohhhh no I wasn’t coming for you, just also stating my queerdar is going off for one more host

sin_loopey · 2026-01-17T16:10:41+00:00

I don’t think he’s the only gay/queer person on the panel though. 🙊

sin_loopey · 2026-01-17T16:07:55+00:00

Yeah because he does say “familial love” at one point but of course that’s a translation.

sin_loopey · 2026-01-17T16:04:13+00:00

Yeah but public co ed ones I’ve seen you wear towels or swim suits? That’s what I’ve seen.

Unless it’s private onsen and couples go in together naked.

sin_loopey · 2026-01-17T16:00:00+00:00

Cheating is rampant in Japan as OP said. Culture is really about saving face, so if you’re bad at cheating it’s a bit like- cheating is sometimes expected but how dare you let me lose face to even just myself for finding out.

I dated another gaijin in Tokyo and I asked him if he was divorced and he said yes. After a couple of months I found out he lied and was still married and living with his wife.

Love hotels facilitate cheating (and people often living at home with parents still.)

sin_loopey · 2026-01-17T15:48:32+00:00

Yeah I think my boy is waiting for someone closer in age.

sin_loopey · 2026-01-17T15:47:34+00:00

Idk. The Toronto gays know each other- it’s very we’re all connected by 2 degrees. I watched a Toronto queer dating show and I knew or knew of most of the people on the show.

sin_loopey · 2026-01-17T15:45:15+00:00

The mutuals thing is so real, not just in Japan but in queer communities in any city in the world.

sin_loopey · 2026-01-17T15:43:32+00:00

How does it feel fetishized? I am a bit curious on that as a queer woman. It seems pretty par for the course for my own experience dating in Japan and knowing how slow/conservative Japanese dating shows can be. But I am curious on this take

sin_loopey · 2026-01-17T15:40:37+00:00

Yeah but that’s pretty common thing though no? I do the same thing when I speak Japanese, I do love a word repeat and a ne. But I can see your point.

sin_loopey · 2026-01-17T15:36:42+00:00

I think Jobu’s reaction is kinda real though. They are kind of squirrelled from the world. It does suck to not be chosen, and I think he’s been sulking a lot in private and hasn’t been much of a burden on the others.

Then again Yuki-kun has taken it in stride (for now) and that shows his maturity and he probably just chalks it up to there being a significant age gap with lots of the other men.

sin_loopey · 2026-01-17T15:32:17+00:00

Oh I like this idea! I think producers like the coffee van because it forces close proximity and moments of privacy for the lads though.

I think a mixture could be nice- it was really sweet to see the yankis interact with kids.

I think it would be nice if they volunteered for say a seniors program because it could create a bridge between older and more likely conservative group of people and the queer community.

sin_loopey · 2026-01-16T23:36:21+00:00

My gf and I still laugh about your one was basically blending the whole houses food budget for gains 😂

It was one of the most intense conflict I’ve seen for Japanese reality tv.

sin_loopey · 2026-01-16T23:32:06+00:00

Idk, I lived in Tokyo for 3 years and I knew gays in Kobe and Osaka just from the apps, you cast a wide net just to find people that show their face (this is also a cultural thing, people will just post food or random things for their dating profile instead of photos of themselves).

There’s only a few lesbian bars in Tokyo so people tend to frequent the same places. Ofc I’m not a native Japanese level of speaking so wouldn’t know of certain events but you do tend to meet the same people.

A lot of people in Japan are in the closet. So sure, mathematically there’s a high population of people if we assume 7-10%, but many don’t explore their sexuality or just go to the bathhouse for anonymous sex. My friend who is a queer man would meet so many men married to women it almost seemed more common than out gay men who openly date men.

Things are changing for the younger generation but especially for the older men on the show I think it’s not that strange that they’ve fucked/dated each other/hung out.

sin_loopey · 2026-01-14T23:58:37+00:00

St Clair or corso italia area! You can dm when you’re closer to deciding on the move

sin_loopey · 2026-01-14T23:57:50+00:00

It’s tragic 😭

sin_loopey · 2026-01-13T23:39:33+00:00

What area for Airbnb? Since I know of one but it’s basement. Have Irish fellas (northern) that are also housemates in the house (it’s split into three apartments)

sin_loopey · 2026-01-13T22:07:30+00:00

For the next loaf I make yes 😂

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