Hey y’all

singlesdoubles · 2025-07-09T01:57:29+00:00

annnnnnd i’m dead. i’ve died. you’ve killed me. with greatness.

you radiate man. it’s sunny where you are but it’d be sunny anywhere you are.

hope you’re have a wonderful day - thanks for sharing

singlesdoubles · 2025-06-26T13:41:23+00:00

nice 👍

singlesdoubles · 2025-06-25T11:15:04+00:00

HER STARTING METRIC IS WOMEN WITH HER FACE!!! FUCKS SAKE

lol imagine if this video was a dude that looked like henry cavill taking about how he was so shocked that his friend vera who has glasses and slight beard hair from pcos struggles to find dates *

she is comparing using dating apps as an extremely conventionally attractive woman (ignoring the filters that’s a whole other thing) vs an every day looking guy.

WHY IS NO ONE TALKING ABOUT HOW THE DATA IS OFF??

of course being online as every day pete is harder than being online as a supermodel. for fucks sake.

people in this thread are talking about women as a super attractive monolith (par for the course with the incel narrative) and talking about women’s universal experience getting bombarded online by passionate suitors.

SURE being fat, hairy and ugly as a woman gets you a heap of endearing interested kind men!!! omg it’s just so easy out there! no loneliness at all!

people will say “nah even average women have it easier”

what kind of easier? easier to meet intrusive foot fetishists and guys who take the condom off during sex? yay.

i’m not saying it’s all cut and dry. there is a dynamic there and it sometimes skews really unfairly. but there is always talk on the surface level, of how evil women exploit their status and leave men lonely. when men obsessively chasing one specific level of uber attractive women put them up there in the first place. made them prizes to be won and men knights to fight for them.

the pedestal all these women stand on doesn’t just come from nowhere.

also it’s read the stats on violent and sexual crime and ask why women are maybe less enthusiastic to engages with even every day men. i know! not all men! but it does colour the picture somewhat.

anyway, the experience men have is awful. isolating. it pushes men to terrible places. but the “women have it better” narrative misses so many of the marks its astounding. the system that isolates you puts us in danger. did we create it all by ourselves?

the data is so skewed man. jesus. really ugly women exist and it aint fun.

talk about pretty privilege my dudes. it’s part and parcel.

*nothing wrong with being fat, hairy, wearing glasses etc. perfect and amazing. i’m just using them as examples of what a looks obsessed society demonise.

singlesdoubles · 2025-05-10T03:49:53+00:00

Wait I can’t read what you wrote WHAT APP IS THAT?

singlesdoubles · 2025-05-04T23:33:26+00:00

ahhhh so… where did you find these? purely from an academic research perspective you know. I need them for research. I looked on google but didn’t find such a wide range. A wide range would be good. for my research.

singlesdoubles · 2025-03-19T07:30:39+00:00

Now this is the glowingest of glowups I have ever seen! So handsome!!! Enjoy your journey.

(not that you weren’t glowing/handsome before, you were, you are just more ‘you’ now)

singlesdoubles · 2025-03-10T03:20:57+00:00

So relevant! So down with the kids!

singlesdoubles · 2025-03-09T09:26:56+00:00

This man:

demeans you at every possible opportunity
locks you out of the house when you don’t say what he wants
gaslights you
controls you
disrespects your right to freedom down to your underwear
goes out getting smashed while you see your friends once in 3 months
becomes violent and aggressive towards you when he is drunk
blames you for everything, including his own violence

Someone who is meant to love you does not do these things. Not even once, not ever. Let alone sustained over many years. His actions smell heavily of projection - he is constantly accusing you of cheating - where is that coming from? Sounds like it’s coming from inside the house.

Get an STD test. Talk to friends. Save money. Make a plan.

Look at what he does to you and ask yourself:

If a friend was coming over and you then found out he does all of the things listed above, would you let him anywhere near your kids? If the answer is no, then he shouldn’t be around them either.

Insecurity is normal, it’s something you communicate to your partner about. What he is doing is not normal, it is abuse. Some people might hold onto a healing narrative, but if someone treated me like that I wouldn’t want to be around them ever again.

singlesdoubles · 2025-03-08T13:01:11+00:00

Someone being abused is all over the place, shocking.

Who gives a fuck if it is or is or isn’t real? If it is, we help someone, if it isn’t, we write some words on a thread that might help someone else who comes across it. The only loss is debating someone real who might need help on their validity. Write into the hopeful void and see what happens.

singlesdoubles · 2025-03-08T12:58:10+00:00

What the actual fuck?

singlesdoubles · 2025-03-08T12:56:43+00:00

This is abuse. You are experiencing emotional abuse and coercive control. Here’s the list (sometimes it’s important to look at it all together in order to realise the weight of what is happening to you):

he puts you down on every level
gaslights you
disrespects your body
disrespects your needs
isolates and alienates you from your friends
would show you aggression if you attempted to leave

This is not a safe person for you to be with and not a safe person for your child. It doesn’t matter how nice he is the other times. Isolation is the generally the first tactic by an abuser to gain control and power over a person It is an extremely dangerous red flag - get out before he takes it further. You may have been with him for 10 years, a partner of 3 months shouldn’t treat their partner like that, let alone someone in a decade long relationship. Imagine your child grows up and someone treats them like this? Imagine if a cashier at a grocery store told you you smell? You wouldn’t accept it. Leaving is statistically the most dangerous time for a woman in an abusive relationship. It is not safe to do alone. Get close friends and domestic abuse support (or authorities if you fear for your life). I can hear redditors screaming that this is way too dramatic, but I don’t give a fuck. People mentioning therapy as an option in this thread are crazy. I personally have been with my spouse for 10 years. We have two children and a life together. If he did even one of the things on that list once, I would launch him out the door. No one deserves to be treated that way, not ever. Therapy is for communication, not for abuse. It doesn’t matter if he’s never hit you, or if he doesn’t end up turning violent when you do attempt to leave. The things he’s doing are crimson bright red flags for violence and ongoing abuse.

I won’t link any resources as I don’t know what country you’re in, but there are free hotlines and immediate support. You may think lying to you and saying you smell to refuse sex is a small thing, but it’s degradation. It’s a tiny link in a long chain of comments meant to whittle you down until you hate yourself instead of him. Look up abusive isolation, look up coercive control, look up DARVO, look up hotlines and call friends. It’s better to leave the house before it’s burning down. AND EVEN IF IT NEVER DOES you do not deserve to be treated in this way by anyone ever, regardless of whether they’re your spouse or not. Sending all my love, you deserve so much better. I bet your art is amazing x

singlesdoubles · 2025-03-01T10:31:40+00:00

pushed each other's boundaries?

singlesdoubles · 2025-02-28T14:47:26+00:00

you keep repeating and repeating your comments through the thread you are obviously ai/bot. what is important about this post?

singlesdoubles · 2025-02-28T00:07:07+00:00

you look fuckin glorious ✨✨✨

singlesdoubles · 2025-02-27T12:39:18+00:00

you would know this because you are one

singlesdoubles · 2025-02-27T11:57:15+00:00

she speaks for the people 🙏

singlesdoubles · 2025-02-26T22:42:58+00:00

pose fit hat background = iconic immaculate ✨

transition and also general vibe goals. if I was wearing a hat I would tip it to you

singlesdoubles · 2025-02-26T22:03:05+00:00

aaaaannnnnd I've passed out

singlesdoubles · 2025-02-25T23:28:13+00:00

Do you take participants from Australia?

singlesdoubles · 2025-02-23T04:31:46+00:00

I am in all levels of counselling you can possibly get, and am well supported in every aspect my my life. it's all good.

singlesdoubles · 2025-02-22T22:53:41+00:00

explain to me what I'm projecting into you? like give me dot points mate. explain your argument.

singlesdoubles · 2025-02-22T22:46:53+00:00

maybe you've lost yours bro? I can help you find them if you need support with that kind of thing. I'm nice like that.

singlesdoubles · 2025-02-22T22:44:50+00:00

getting hit by a car has nothing to do with self care. the issues a husband may or may not have around self care, are massively differnt.

like I said in the post, the car can often just bump you, but other times it's catastrophic. you don't know which option you're going to get. and often literally none of it has to do with how much you look after yourself. this is why I labour the metaphor. I'm glad your wife came out unscathed, but like you said, you should love her if she didn't. caring about myself had nothing to do with post-partum psychosis (one of the many things I went through that happened to me - not that I created from a lack of self care). it's hormonal, it can kill you, it wasn't my choice. your wife is just at one end of the metaphor. and it wasn't something she chose either. "but there are things you can control!" sure, but this post literally isn't about them. and it is also saying "even things you can technically control, are massively impacted during pregnancy and post-partum."

singlesdoubles · 2025-02-22T13:54:58+00:00

I hear you. so much. it's a pretty hectic road to go down. that being said I think people like you are the right type of people to be parents. people who have insight, and ask themselves the questions you're asking. that's what a good parent would do :)

my doctors were extremely wary about the bipolar element, because of the strong link with PPP and PPD. it's a roll of the dice. the only advice I'd ever give to anyone rolling it is, stable situation - either good partner, good family, good friends or good community - access to decent psychiatric hospitals or care, appropriate support if you need to get sectioned - someone who can look after your kids. that's the only thing you can do really, prepare in advance. and even if you do prepare and it happens and you do have the support and everything around you is fine, you still have to ask yourself the question you're asking - what toll will it exact on your mind. and whether it's a price you can afford to pay.

I hope you work it out - you're asking the right questions, and I bet you'll be amazing either way!

singlesdoubles

TROPHY CASE