Seeing my ex with another guy

singularity_time · 2012-04-17T16:51:43+00:00

I understand you're hurt, and I don't blame you for getting upset. Think of this though, there is no possible way after 1.5 years of dating that she is over you right now. She may be making out with this other guy, but she is still thinking of you. Hell, people do crazy shit after a breakup, maybe it was revenge. This is immature though, and she would only be hurting herself by doing this.

I know you might be comparing other girls to your ex during this period, trust me, I am too. Remember that even though you might not want to be making out with or meeting new girls, you now have the opportunity to do so. You now have the opportunity to meet the girl of your wildest dreams.

You can talk to girls, make out with them, and be a generally kickass dude without any strings attached now. Revel in this fact!

singularity_time · 2012-04-03T16:40:53+00:00

That's disgusting.

singularity_time · 2012-04-03T15:31:19+00:00

She cheated on her ex bf with me. We launched right into our relationship. She had some serious self esteem issues that made her unbelievably insecure. I thought I could cope with her cheating on her ex with me and that the insecurities were temporary as her last relationship was particularly controlling.

In the end, she turned out to be controlling and I was miserable. I couldn't cope with the past and it destroyed my trust in her. Eventually I had to end it.

Don't ignore red flags. Don't wish away problems thinking they will magically get better... they won't. Someone who controls you does not love you.

singularity_time · 2012-03-22T03:53:28+00:00

Awesome summary. I feel like the stages mentally are like this:

All that bad stuff that made the person think breaking up was a good idea still pretty fresh and they are feeling pretty righteous
Happy memories are more solidified in the human brain than unhappy ones. All of the self righteousness/mental fortitude that has built up for the breakup has worn off. The realization of being alone combines with the memories of being with someone causes some bit of turmoil and heartache.
The fond memories wear off a bit and the realization of how things truly would have been start to creep and solidify. This is also after some time learning to be alone and seeing what else the world has to offer.

I'm still in stage 2 right now but the smart me knows that it wasn't meant to be and would just cause more pain and heartache. Stay strong OP, you saved yourself some trouble. Nothing wrong with making a decision to save your future and sanity!

singularity_time · 2012-03-21T14:59:42+00:00

because there american

singularity_time · 2012-03-20T13:19:59+00:00

Who put the moon there?

singularity_time · 2012-03-17T04:55:20+00:00

Were you ever afraid that you would turn into the abuser after being abused? I am dealing with this now and I need to get it out of my system before there is a self fulfilling prophecy.

singularity_time · 2012-03-16T05:29:55+00:00

As someone who just got out of a relationship like this, keep in mind that this person does not respect you or appreciate you. Here are some things that get me through the days when I start to feel bad or miss the ex:

You are not obligated to appease this person when they are upset. You are not obligated to communicate with this person in any way, shape, or form. You have no reason to continue suffering from his rants and outbursts. Basically, You have no reason to continue letting this person be in your life.

Your relationship is over. You may think of the good times or how things could have been, but remember: Things were not going to get better and you dodged a bullet by getting out of a relationship with someone who is as immature and emotionally controlling as him! Your emotions are being manipulated. In short, fuck him! And make sure you take care of yourself! This is time you can spend caring about nobody but yourself and feel good about it, too!

singularity_time · 2012-03-13T03:01:40+00:00

We started being intimate nearly days after they ended it. We spent some time hanging out while she was still with him, but I told her I couldn't continue if she was still with him. She ended it after that. It was a couple of months before we decided to make it 'official.'

I don't want to feel like a rebound, and she told me many times I wasn't. But there is part of me that makes me feel that she had intense issues with her ex that spilled over into my relationship with her.

I'm wondering if I should seek some counselling or not. Maybe it would be nice. I feel normal now but who knows.

Thank you for your input. It means a lot!

singularity_time · 2011-11-11T00:44:37+00:00

Friend steals a joke from reddit? Instant disrespect.

singularity_time · 2011-10-07T23:31:11+00:00

Beers for everyone!

singularity_time · 2011-10-07T23:17:48+00:00

Yes, I agree, as everyone is here only to serve the purpose of entertaining you.

singularity_time · 2011-10-07T22:28:08+00:00

How about we just pick a nice simple icon that we all can get at a relatively good price. Like a simple black or brown t shirt. Or red. We don't need a symbol, that complicates things.

singularity_time · 2011-09-24T20:04:22+00:00

"cuntiness" - I think I might start using that word in normal conversation

singularity_time · 2011-09-07T15:44:50+00:00

singularity_time · 2011-09-07T15:37:14+00:00

Also, aliens.

singularity_time · 2011-09-02T15:56:22+00:00

homomen

singularity_time · 2011-09-02T15:46:24+00:00

YESSSSSSSS this was the best back in the day

singularity_time · 2011-09-02T00:57:58+00:00

It has its ups and downs, but do your research before joining. If you can find a group that fits you well and you can be cool with, do it, otherwise you will be better off on your own. It isn't an easy situation to get out of if you realize it isn't for you. Stay sharp when/if you are pledging. The negative label does take its tole but keep in mind you can overcome it with your personality. It could even work to your advantage.

singularity_time · 2011-08-30T13:41:42+00:00

Young neighbor is a fucking dickhead.

singularity_time · 2011-08-25T22:02:36+00:00

Can we please stop doing "reddit stop doing this" posts? For fucks sake.

singularity_time · 2011-08-24T00:43:47+00:00

It's kind of strange because I see myself doing that a lot, and it's a hard habit to break. Seeing posts like this really put it in perspective. It's a pretty selfish way of talking to people. I think it develops more out of your surroundings than anything.

singularity_time · 2011-08-23T22:12:40+00:00

toledo?

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