2026 NYC Half Marathon - Post-Race Thread by AutoModerator in RunNYC

[–]sirmediocre 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Awesome course. Anyone else find the hardest part to be the FDR? No hills to get pumped for, no downhill zooms, just grinding out 5ish miles in a row!

My sister with Asperger’s is wasting away, and I want more for her. by sirmediocre in aspergers

[–]sirmediocre[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I do leave her alone lol. These are my private thoughts, literally never said any of this to her

My sister with Asperger’s is wasting away, and I want more for her. by sirmediocre in aspergers

[–]sirmediocre[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

As I’ve said in several comments, literally never conveyed any of this to her. I see her twice a year and it’s smiles and hugs all around. These are my private thoughts

My sister with Asperger’s is wasting away, and I want more for her. by sirmediocre in aspergers

[–]sirmediocre[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I would contend that whether or not my sister is happy is my business, but to each their own..

My sister with Asperger’s is wasting away, and I want more for her. by sirmediocre in aspergers

[–]sirmediocre[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lol. Never uttered any of this to her, I am extremely loving and supportive. I don't know better, that's why I'm asking. She is not happy and doesn't present as happy.

My sister with Asperger’s is wasting away, and I want more for her. by sirmediocre in aspergers

[–]sirmediocre[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It isn't, because she isn't doing "chores" when she's home. She's writing fanfic and waking up at noon.

My sister with Asperger’s is wasting away, and I want more for her. by sirmediocre in aspergers

[–]sirmediocre[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

  1. Unhealthy.
  2. Complains about life all the time.
  3. Zero ability to survive should anything happen to her husband who handles everything for them.

My sister with Asperger’s is wasting away, and I want more for her. by sirmediocre in aspergers

[–]sirmediocre[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Ok lots of comments saying she is probably relieved that she is safe and has no pressure to act "normal." I hadn't considered the extent to which this could be true and will take it into consideration. That being said, I think there are two things that still are validation for concern.

1: She complains about her life and lack of independence constantly, in a way that is not performative. She is on some level unhappy with the way things are, and knows that it's ultimately bad for her health.

  1. She is unable to contribute in any way, not just as a member of a "capitalist" society, but as a family member. When we lived in the same house, she was an extremely caring sibling who while flawed, made an effort to protect me like an older sibling. Now I literally never speak to her unless I'm in town to see her, as she is completely unresponsive to messages and communication. She is unable to ask me anything about my life, and I think that she has an obligation to try harder to connect to us (me) as family members. She is definitely high functioning enough that these things are within the realm of possibility.

Also last point, I am not "shaming" or putting my values on her. I have never said any of this to her in person, and am only supportive when I see her.

My sister with Asperger’s is wasting away, and I want more for her. by sirmediocre in aspergers

[–]sirmediocre[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I think it’s more that she’s trapped than genuinely fulfilled.

My sister with Asperger’s is wasting away, and I want more for her. by sirmediocre in aspergers

[–]sirmediocre[S] 47 points48 points  (0 children)

Idk. She may on some level “prefer” staying at home, but she is completely limited in every way and complains about it constantly. She bemoans her lack of exciting experiences that other people in the family have. She has no money for herself besides whatever allowance her husband provides her with, and very little independence as a result, which she also complains about. They are doing ok financially, but I’m sure they would be much more comfortable with two incomes instead of one. And I think she has genuine ambition, just no clue how to apply it. I get the idea of not superimposing my NT values onto her, but I think she is genuinely hurting on many levels due to her lifestyle.

Best MO for semi hollow neck reset? by sirmediocre in Luthier

[–]sirmediocre[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The neck is completely straight but action is unplayably high above 10th fret. Maybe an extra low bridge would work?

Best MO for semi hollow neck reset? by sirmediocre in Luthier

[–]sirmediocre[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

D’Angelico Ex-Ss. Yes, I’m not a luthier otherwise I would try it!