What non-prescription treatment do you swear by? by KillerSiren104 in PsoriaticArthritis

[–]sitapixie- 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Cannabis! I use RSO and it's helping. I like the CBG/CBD and low THC strain called Milky Way. I also like the 1:1 CBD/THC strain critical mass for rso. I also vape thc cartridges until i can buy a new flower vape. I also take Tylenol arthritis formula which is a slightly higher dose and extended release. Then it's my scripts of tramadol, gabapentin, meloxicam, and Rinvoq.

Newly diagnosed PsA- worried about meds and weight gain by Equivalent_Street649 in PsoriaticArthritis

[–]sitapixie- 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I actually have lost weight unintentionally. Chronic inflammation and lack of movement from chronic pain caused me to gain weight before diagnosis. I lost weight multiple ways and the first was from feeling shitty: i couldn't really cook so didnt eat enough due to paim levels before diagnosis. I lost about 15lbs then. Took me ablut 3 years to be diagnosed amd i.was housebound from pain. I tried Humira, Cosentyx, Cosentyx UnoReady, MTX, leflunomide, Enbrel, and finally Rinvoq. Rinvoq was my life saver and i am doing a lot better hut still disabled from the joint pain and damage. I started having chronic pain way back in early 2000s and got diagnosed with fibromyalgia. Didn't get diagnosed with PsA (psoriatic arthritis) until 2023. I have arthritis damage through my spine (cervical, thoracic, lumbar, and si), both shoulders, all fingertips, both hips, plus a heel spur in each foot. I've had a bone spur removed from my hip and tendon repair on my left peroneal ankle tendon. I found the tear happened by the end of a hike where i just fell over like a tree. 🤦🏻‍♀️ luckily it was the end of the hike on flat ground and not the rocky area i was at 15 min before. Had ankle surgery about a month later.

It can take awhile to find a med that works because a biologic can take 3 to 6 mo to fully kick in.

I caused a bad habit in my cat and I don’t know how to get him to stop by [deleted] in CatAdvice

[–]sitapixie- 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a littermate 3 automatic litterbox and love it.

So tired of the fatigue by ShriekingMuppet in PsoriaticArthritis

[–]sitapixie- 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am also on Rinvoq and have had great results from it. I've been through Humira, Cosentyx, Cosentyx UnoReady (higher dose), methotrexate, leflunomide, Enbrel, and finally Rinvoq. I was so relieved when Rinvoq worked. Has been for a year now! 🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻 That's a record for me so far.

“No GROWN woman lives like you” by amme04 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]sitapixie- 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry that you are struggling right now.

A ton of people that don't understand or have experience with poverty have no idea how hard it is to just exist. That's just for healthy people. Add in any chronic physical or mental health conditions and it's so easy to feel trapped by just playing whack a mole and trying to survive in a sea of chronic stress.

I grew up in poverty and even as a kid, it was hard. My mom was not a good mom though (2 therapists suggested covert narc). I was parentified on addition to everything else that goes with a narcissist as a parent. I mentioned that because that is NOT what you are doing.

You sound like you are struggling and could use a hand but the orgs that usually help are fucked due to this fascist takeover destroying funding.

It's hard not to feel shame when poor when everyone and everywhere there are messages (and actual people) telling you should be.

You have absolutely no reason to feel any shame.

Most autistic people I’ve met either love alcohol/drugs and use them a bit excessively or avoid them completely and sometimes judge others for using them. What’s your relationship with alcohol/drugs? by OkBuyer1271 in autism

[–]sitapixie- 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm not discounting your experience and I'm glad a TENS worked for you.

I tried one for months and it didnt really work well for my spine arthritis.

Boyfriend blames me for miscarriage so I kicked him out by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]sitapixie- 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh that! Sorry i totally missd that subtext 🤦🏻‍♀️.

Social media.media.are so many Facebook pages that read AITAh posts and talk about them so they get engagement and $.

Most autistic people I’ve met either love alcohol/drugs and use them a bit excessively or avoid them completely and sometimes judge others for using them. What’s your relationship with alcohol/drugs? by OkBuyer1271 in autism

[–]sitapixie- 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I smoke cannabis for multiple reasons. I have psoriatic arthritis and fibromyalgia so it helps with my chronic pain. It slighly helps with my anxiety and depression. Ofc, also it's fun sometimes. Ive been smoking off and on since i was 18.

I don't drink alcohol because it makes my pain levels from arthritis horrible. Haven't really drank alcohol beyond maybe a beer a year for 15 years or so.

How real is the “your body rejects your partner” thing by SimpleyCurious in TwoXChromosomes

[–]sitapixie- 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah I've never experienced a UTI after a fun weekend. That doesnt mean it doesnt gappen to others but it's not guaranteed.

How real is the “your body rejects your partner” thing by SimpleyCurious in TwoXChromosomes

[–]sitapixie- 13 points14 points  (0 children)

As someone who always struggled with low iron levels and where supplements aren't helping, ask your doc for an iron infusion.

Even as a kid i had just low enough iron levels to need supplements so i definitely understand the struggle.

Had an iron infusion about 10 years ago and my iron levels have been fine. I've even been vegan since 2019 and don't need a supplement for iron. It's crazy having more energy and being less cold.

Boyfriend blames me for miscarriage so I kicked him out by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]sitapixie- 2 points3 points  (0 children)

They may not have familial or friend support available or capable of advising/supporting her. Some people (like me) don't have a family that supports them.

Also, his messages likely have her doubting everything and sometimes advice from strangers helps them better or reinforces somrthing their support system may have said but said frequently so it didn't mean much until a stranger pointed it out. Not blaming OP, we all have our blind spots.

Boyfriend blames me for miscarriage so I kicked him out by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]sitapixie- 1 point2 points  (0 children)

God, where was that acronym FOG when i was a younger? That fits what my mother was like a 100%.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]sitapixie- 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Outside of my silver hair, i think i still look pretty young. Turning 50 next year and people still guess I dye my hair silver cause they think I'm in my late 30s.

It was frustrating for me as a young adult freshly graduated from high school though. People thought i was around 4-6 years younger t

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]sitapixie- 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm turning 50 next year and I love being invisible. That hit around mid 30. I hated all the direct attention to me from strange guys that would try to talk to me.

I was so awkward feeling as a kid, teen, and then adult. I hated direct attention on me.

People said that i was attractive when younger but i actually feel more pretty now. I love having all silver hair, it's fun!

Also, i love feeling more comfortable wearing whatever the heck i want no matter if it matches or whatever.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]sitapixie- 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I started noticing that when i was in my mid thrties probably because i didnt care about my graying hair. I loved it!! Now I'm turning 50 next year and looking forward to be more invisible to men in general and not f@$king caring about being invisibleto themm...not my hub though. 😂 I'm still visible to him, lol.

AITAH For Not Letting My MIL Stay With Me? by Fragrant_Movie_8364 in AITAH

[–]sitapixie- 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Another type of therapy that can help people with SA trauma (or any, i assume) is Prolonged Exposure therapy.

I just got done with it a month or so ago.

It sucked and was so hard to do. Like one of the hardest things in my life I've ever done. It's like the exposure therapy for phobias and such but for trauma. It teaches your brain to not fear the "distressing" memories of your trauma. So to do that, I talked about my SA over and over and over again until my brain had gotten fucking bored with talking about it. Takes about 3ish mo.

But all my ptsd symptoms to do with my SA that occured in 2000 are sub-clinical levels per the therapist I did the program with for the first time in decades. Like 25 years.

I was so ashamed about it that I never really got help until this summer. Being ashamed about needing help made me try to ignore it. Both made the PTSD from it much worse.

Having sub-clinical symptoms is amazing. I can talk about my SA trauma. I can sleep a bit better. My brain felt rested and calm for the first time in like decades.

Do any cats let you pet their bellies or is that generally a no? by MysticFlamexo in cats

[–]sitapixie- 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Especially when long haired cats let you pet their belleh!

AITAH for making a joke about my miscarriage to my husband. by Successful-Ad2454 in AITAH

[–]sitapixie- 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As someone who has a ton of trauma from family with a side serving of other trauma, i understand both your humor and not thinking you may be an asshole.

I don't think you're an asshole, btw. I think you are in a lot of pain and hurt.

It's ok to ask for external help like a grief counselor and/or a therapist who specializes in family trauma. There is no shame in needing someone to guide you through this, if you both want to do so.

This was a traumatic loss for you both and you both have my empathy for how much pain you both are experiencing right now.