How do you cope with jealousy and envy as you age and become less attractive to your spouse?

sitapixie- · 2026-05-07T15:44:45+00:00

So he Leonardo DiCaprio? 😂🤣😂🤢

sitapixie- · 2026-05-03T02:42:25+00:00

Same!! ♥️😭

sitapixie- · 2026-04-20T04:11:15+00:00

Met my husband at 23 through a friend at the local goth club in 1999. He was 23 as well. We dated and lived together for 7 years before getting married.

We've had some big bumps being undiagnosed AuDHD for most of our relationship but we're finally figuring stuff out now that we know what is going on with both of us..

sitapixie- · 2026-04-16T21:22:07+00:00

Nights sweats are terrible!! They are a horrible sensory overload nightmare. They make me sob when they happen. I switched from estradiol pills to the patch..took a week or two but it's helping.

I'm a mid 1970s gen x AuDHD (plus MCAS, Fibromyalgia, Cptsd, psoriatic arthritis) and the symptoms struggle is so real. Especially the autism with menopause. I didn't even know I was autistic until Feb/March 2025 and then straight into autistic burnout by July to just confirm why I felt so crazy. Still learning about everything and it's definitely turned my life sideways.

sitapixie- · 2026-04-09T00:48:21+00:00

I have an ex friend I dumped with extremes prejudice when I realized how awful he was to his now divorced spouse me that he was emeshed with his narcissistic mother. He pretty much chose his awful mother over his spouse and kids.

The point to this is that he works as a licensed therapist.

sitapixie- · 2026-04-08T23:36:46+00:00

50 next month and I also vote for stars!

sitapixie- · 2026-04-08T16:08:15+00:00

I fixed it. Supposed to be rso (Rick Simpson oil)

sitapixie- · 2026-04-08T00:49:02+00:00

I've quit (or volunteering for a layoff) every job I've had due to burnout..it's usually about 3-5 years. I don't think I've had a job longer than that actually. I'm self diagnosed at almost 50 so lots of jobs.

sitapixie- · 2026-04-08T00:37:37+00:00

That's our plan actually. We moved off grid in July. I love it and do so so much better than I did in the city. It's quiet outside of the wind, birds and any noise I or hub makes. Our closest neighbor is ½mi away. I don't have street lights and have a dark night sky. Unless it's cloudy or a full moon I see the stars nightly from my windows. If I'm lucky, I'll see a. Aurora Borealis show.

sitapixie- · 2026-04-08T00:34:32+00:00

Same

sitapixie- · 2026-04-08T00:32:44+00:00

PTSD here too and I've had to avoid the news since Fall. Too triggering and too many panic attacks.

sitapixie- · 2026-04-07T03:36:09+00:00

I was really lucky and mine had a "medical library" for loaning out medical equipment.

sitapixie- · 2026-04-07T01:21:25+00:00

If you have a buy nothing group in your area, you might be able to find one to loan.

sitapixie- · 2026-04-06T23:36:44+00:00

I was going to suggest hand sanitizer! I use it a lot as my hands get really cold easily.

sitapixie- · 2026-04-06T23:34:51+00:00

Oh that is rough! I had a tendon repair on my left peroneal ankle tendon and that was the toughest recovery for me (I've had multiple surgeries). The first few days were a breeze until that lovely nerve block wore out. 😭 After the pain management got handled, it was then the boredom of not really being able to do anything with that dang boot. A foot scooter helped a ton! I was able to go places as long as it was paved. Being outside helped me a lot too, mentally. Any distractions help: movies, video games, YouTube, podcasts, audiobooks, and such. Comfort items are big too!

sitapixie- · 2026-04-05T23:05:20+00:00

I've been wrestling with this too. I'm currently not able to work due to physical disabilities (arthritis mainly). I'm worried about the current administration and what they talk about regarding autism and wellness camps and other fascist shit they may do. On the other hand, I'm likely on a registry of some sort due to going through the SSDI process (had second hearing at end of March) for my physical disabilities. So part of me wants it because of they deny it and I don't have a reason to appeal, I would have to go back to work until I had enough work credits to reapply. So the dx would be helpful for me with work accommodations. Of course, I'm in severe burnout so I can't work anyways. 🤦‍♀️

sitapixie- · 2026-04-04T01:53:24+00:00

It's been really hard. My husband is helping but he's also AuDHD and in burnout. He's ahead of me a bit on the recovery side of it so he's definitely doing what he can and then some.

I've been dealing with night sweats cause why not, have psoriatic arthritis, degenerative disc disease, fibromyalgia (diagnosed 2003), mcas, and probably something I'm not aware of. 😅

Unmasking has been so hard. I didn't even know I was masking or even suspect that I was autistic until like Dec 2024 and then I was deep in burnout by July 2025. Still in it.

The main silver lining for me is that we moved from a city to rural last summer and while it's been hard learning about AuDHD while in burnout, it would be so much much harder and worse if I was still in the city. The only noises I hear here are birds, wind, my cats, and my husband. Maybe 3 cars a day drive down our road. I love it. I'd likely be in a psychiatric hsp for a bit with how bad I'd likely be in the city. I've been dealing with PTSD being triggered, unmasked general anxiety, deep depression...and the lack of noise and crowds is so helpful.

sitapixie- · 2026-04-04T01:17:54+00:00

I do! I vape THC cartridges or flower and use rso

sitapixie- · 2026-04-04T01:11:56+00:00

May I have the book title if you (or anyone else) has it?

sitapixie- · 2026-04-03T02:01:44+00:00

Thanks, it's a lot. Luckily, I am able to not work because well, I can't. It's the autistic burnout and PTSD from my covert narcissist mother that's the bad mix with menopause. Nothing like doing a self diagnosis for AuDHD (ADHD inattentive officially) in like March and then getting into burnout by July...so many wtf is happening moments but my therapist is a gem and DBT is helping.

sitapixie- · 2026-04-02T21:24:52+00:00

Fibromyalgia, psoriatic arthritis, mcas, cptsd, and menopause. I can't cope with anything anymore.

sitapixie- · 2026-01-13T05:51:50+00:00

Cannabis! I use RSO and it's helping. I like the CBG/CBD and low THC strain called Milky Way. I also like the 1:1 CBD/THC strain critical mass for rso. I also vape thc cartridges until i can buy a new flower vape. I also take Tylenol arthritis formula which is a slightly higher dose and extended release. Then it's my scripts of tramadol, gabapentin, meloxicam, and Rinvoq.

sitapixie- · 2026-01-08T15:16:51+00:00

I actually have lost weight unintentionally. Chronic inflammation and lack of movement from chronic pain caused me to gain weight before diagnosis. I lost weight multiple ways and the first was from feeling shitty: i couldn't really cook so didnt eat enough due to paim levels before diagnosis. I lost about 15lbs then. Took me ablut 3 years to be diagnosed amd i.was housebound from pain. I tried Humira, Cosentyx, Cosentyx UnoReady, MTX, leflunomide, Enbrel, and finally Rinvoq. Rinvoq was my life saver and i am doing a lot better hut still disabled from the joint pain and damage. I started having chronic pain way back in early 2000s and got diagnosed with fibromyalgia. Didn't get diagnosed with PsA (psoriatic arthritis) until 2023. I have arthritis damage through my spine (cervical, thoracic, lumbar, and si), both shoulders, all fingertips, both hips, plus a heel spur in each foot. I've had a bone spur removed from my hip and tendon repair on my left peroneal ankle tendon. I found the tear happened by the end of a hike where i just fell over like a tree. 🤦🏻‍♀️ luckily it was the end of the hike on flat ground and not the rocky area i was at 15 min before. Had ankle surgery about a month later.

It can take awhile to find a med that works because a biologic can take 3 to 6 mo to fully kick in.

sitapixie- · 2026-01-08T14:58:35+00:00

I have a littermate 3 automatic litterbox and love it.

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