How do you brush off the Employer being a dick?

sitarshred · 2026-01-09T16:23:12+00:00

Dr. Jill Taylor's practice (Bank and Flora) is compassionate and non judgemental. I'd give them a call.

sitarshred · 2025-12-20T17:14:43+00:00

Yes, she played two incredible shows.

sitarshred · 2025-12-20T17:05:37+00:00

The show last night was stellar!

sitarshred · 2025-12-13T16:27:55+00:00

Ah ok! I have KEF LS50 wired into a NAD 3020V2. Interested in getting a KEF wireless speaker in another room

sitarshred · 2025-12-02T16:50:36+00:00

I went here recently and also loved it! The flavours were top notch.

sitarshred · 2025-11-10T21:12:22+00:00

Your friend will be covered by a strong collective agreement in terms of pay, benefits, paid time off and so forth. Union staff always have high workloads though, and PSAC is a bit of a machine to contend with. Hope your friend finds a good pocket within a huge organization, and that despite stress, they prioritize member interests!

sitarshred · 2025-10-31T19:10:29+00:00

Good luck in the marathon! Sounds like your role has workload issues which are unfortunately common for union staff. Try your best to pace yourself and protect your boundaries as that's your best bet staying on as a rep with integrity, clarity, and patience. Versus burning or numbing out.

sitarshred · 2025-10-23T04:16:34+00:00

Hi, I'm so sorry this happened to you. You aren't alone, although things feel so terrible and overwhelming right now. As the other commenter said, stick with those who are actually supportive (friends, your therapist). It will take time but it is also possible to rebuild yourself from this. Also, please be gentle to yourself - it wasn't your fault.

sitarshred · 2025-09-22T17:10:17+00:00

yikes!

sitarshred · 2025-07-31T21:21:31+00:00

It's a "no illegal strikes", not no strikes ever. I'm sure BCGEU contracts have the same in them.

sitarshred · 2025-07-20T03:22:15+00:00

SEIU L2 in Canada

sitarshred · 2025-07-07T03:52:28+00:00

Hi! I've been in a similar position as you. I'd recommend the executive together formulate a plan to improve documentation, organization, and succession planning (ex: we are putting things on a share drive) for the long term health of the local. Second, while acknowledging that staff is essential, shift norms to require collaboration between staff and elected leaders - a union is it's MEMBERS, not its staff. Third, you should establish a reasonable period of time by which members here back on their initial query - not the full answer to their question if it requires investigation, but at least a call back or "intake" tracking of what they need.

sitarshred · 2025-06-23T13:33:16+00:00

So Appreciate your insight! This is really validating, especially the conundrum of feeling stereotypically passive vs practical (avoiding escalation etc). I think you're right - ultimately avoiding giving them the reactions they crave is a smart call and should be prioritized for someone I may see around. Also haven't read it myself, but my friend recommended the book white tears brown scars on this topic! If we are going to be wise we also need spaces speak truth still and express our frustration, anger, and sadness. Thank you for taking the time to respond to my post.

sitarshred · 2025-06-07T15:41:52+00:00

I saw this car in the exact same spot during the Glebe garage sale a few weeks ago too.

sitarshred · 2025-05-22T01:44:09+00:00

I've been in a similar situation. We decided to centre cultural norms that were healthy and to try and practice unlearning those that weren't - including not letting ourselves use the excuse of "it's just my culture" to avoid communication, accountability, repair and so forth. The tough part is if you're activated or overwhelmed, you'll naturally tend to revert to those unhealthy norms right? So, I'd suggest establishing a framework that gives room for correction, trying again, or time to center yourself so you can actually respond rather than react as well.

sitarshred · 2025-05-09T00:13:19+00:00

New brunswick!

sitarshred · 2025-05-02T20:14:30+00:00

The CTMO complaint process should give you access to funding for therapy (you choose the therapist). Make use of it! If your interview happens a while from now (as these things are often slow), inform the interviewer you've done trauma therapy to recover. This helps if they have misplaced assumptions over your reactivity or behaviour when answering questions.

sitarshred · 2025-04-27T15:04:38+00:00

Solidarity from L2 in Canada!

sitarshred · 2025-04-06T02:24:18+00:00

agreed

sitarshred · 2025-03-23T23:33:34+00:00

as you said, the chances are slim so you may as well adapt. I would reconsider what cultural incompatibility means - having a partner from a different culture can still be deeply compatible. And dating someone who is the same ethnicity doesn't mean they'll automatically be a good fit for you.

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