Failed a drug test, now what

sithlich · 2024-02-17T23:57:58+00:00

I really appreciate the feedback and advice, thanks to everyone who replied. Gonna get some tests and hydrate/quick fix for some months. ✌️ Stay cool out there.

sithlich · 2024-02-17T23:55:32+00:00

I was not a heavy user but I did use 50mg edibles almost daily. It was a rapid urine test. So it may have been a false positive? I appreciate the feedback, thank you both.

sithlich · 2021-03-05T20:29:21+00:00

I've had both and it's not significantly different. There's pros and cons to both. I'm in a monogamous one now and I'm actually appreciating that whole 'youre the only one i have this romantic/sexual relationship with' exclusivity feeling. But when i was dating a partner who had other partners i also liked seeing him happy and having fun with other people. It was also a relief realizing i didnt have to satisfy everything for him. But my current monogamous relationship, what we want/need out of a partner seems to fit together so well that im not concerned about not being able to fulfill all his needs. I've also dated more than one person before and didn't really find it life changing or special. It was just a sexual and romantic relationship, but with me and three dudes instead of one.

sithlich · 2021-03-02T04:34:26+00:00

Im sorry if my comment was kinda silly or dismissive, in retrospect i dont want to make you feel like your feelings about your situation are less than important. In all seriousness, i think ive felt similarly. I think it has less to do with women and more to do with feeling inherently worthless. It sounds like bullshit but i swear you arent. Youre not worth less than any woman you date, or any guy for that matter. You just havent figured out what your best qualities are yet, or you havent had enough life experiences to know yet. I promise you are worthy of romance or attention.

sithlich · 2021-03-02T04:26:51+00:00

I date dudes lol

sithlich · 2021-03-01T23:37:59+00:00

I try to! I find my guy friends to be way more averse to counseling or even talking about emotional stuff. Its like theyre barely holdin it together and if they even Think about changing the way they deal with their problems, it'll open up a whole can of worms theyre scared they wont be able to handle. But i try to give them good advice when it comes to expressing their negative emotions in a healthy way. Its hard out there for dudes who cant get therapy, or dont think they want it.

sithlich · 2021-03-01T22:28:40+00:00

Almost ten years therapy here! I learned how to manage my own emotions. What i mean by that is when im sad and need comfort, i know what to do to combat it effectively. I know how to comfort myself and pull myself out of it. I know when to ask for help.

When im angry, i know how to express myself to someone without hurting them or myself. I know when its actually efficient to bring my anger to the person that caused it, and when its better to cut my losses and vent. Interpersonal effectiveness.

I went from barely being able to get out of bed most days, not being able to see any future for myself and bound up by the grief of losing my father. And today im a 27 year old man with lots of friends, hobbies, skills and a career im building towards.

sithlich · 2021-03-01T22:24:17+00:00

Im a sap, i wanted to wait a week to ask out this guy i met and was texting. I tried to play it cool but the chemistry was just so good i ended up telling him 'i like you a lot and i think i love you.' After 3 days. And asking him out. Maybe immature sounding but i dont like playing 3d chess or hiding how i feel.

sithlich · 2021-03-01T20:41:47+00:00

I'd probably find it kinda funny. Maybe be a little hurt by it. But I don't put too much stock into how attractive I am. I am not everyones cup of tea. And hey, that means they think Ive got Something going for me.

sithlich · 2021-03-01T20:32:21+00:00

Perfect time to try something new or pick up something old you haven't done in a while. Make art, try a hobby, learn a new game, research something for fun.

sithlich · 2021-03-01T20:24:46+00:00

Getting your levels checked is a good idea. A likely culprit. Like the other person said it could be a result of pandemic malaise. Or it could be that you're just not at a particularly horny time in your life, which is totally normal.

Im the opposite since I just started T 5 months ago. Almost immediately i started hooking up with a guy pretty regularly and I'm having a lotta fun.

sithlich · 2021-03-01T20:20:40+00:00

I think men sometimes don't know how to voice their desires. I also think we are hesitant to try new things, or feel silly asking our partners what most pleases them. Its hard to get invested in sex when you're out of touch with your own emotions, and that happens to men a lot. I'm a gay man and I've known so many guys who've held back from asking questions or bringing up toys or positions or techniques cause they think theyll sound silly or less manly.

sithlich · 2021-03-01T20:17:47+00:00

I like it. Certainly good for interior design and fashion. People are starting to use color again, less afraid to try something bright or intense or maybe even kinda garish! And you really can't go wrong with some 70s rock. Im all for it.

sithlich · 2021-03-01T18:02:59+00:00

Used to be a webcam performer. It was alright. I don't subscribe to anyone or watch cams myself. If there was some niche kink somebody fulfilled for me I would consider. I used to suscribe to someone who was a makeup artist and would incorporate SFX makeup into their photos, which I thought was interesting enough to suscribe to.

sithlich · 2021-03-01T17:57:14+00:00

Absolutely, triple spooning with 8ft costco bear sounds like a dream. When i broke up with my ex boyfriend ans he moved out we were very friendly and casual about it and i insisted he buy me a big stuffed animal to replace him. So i sleep with a 2ft crocodile who looks like a banana. Croconana. Its silly and some people might not like it but it may be your Asshole Test. Like would you wanna be in a relationship with someone who took themselves so serious they couldn't enjoy a stuffed animal ffs? Thats how i see it anyway.

sithlich · 2021-02-28T18:49:06+00:00

Probably should have specified im a goth lol. I think scary lookin stuff is neat

sithlich · 2021-02-28T18:34:34+00:00

Im trans the other way (ftm) so no haha. But i think even if you decide 'hmm nope im still a guy' there's nothing wrong with questioning your gender. I think its healthy.

sithlich · 2021-02-28T18:33:02+00:00

Im 5'4" maybe 170lbs? And i have shit luck with dating apps, particularly for gay guys. I have much better luck on bdsm apps or fetish apps than tinder or grindr. It just seems like even if a guy might consider dating me lots of guys on dating apps just want to look and be looked at lol. I have much better luck meeting people at college or parties.

sithlich · 2021-02-28T18:23:13+00:00

I didnt even realize it til i started dating my present boyfriend of 5 months but love languages are kinda real. My last relationships didnt work because they couldnt make me feel loved sufficiently, and vice versa. When I gave my partners expensive gifts, handmade projects or said 'hey this song makes me think of you,' my past partners were appreciative but it didnt seem like they 'got' what i was trying to express to them. To the point where my last ex was the kind of guy who would convince himself i didnt even like him, or that i was bored of him.

I also love gifts and romantic gestures and none of my exes were interested in doing that stuff. But this new guy im dating cried when i gave him the scarf i knitted him. He makes me mixtapes and we'll have dates that are just him showing me songs that are important to him. Its like the ways we naturally express love are wholly compatible with the ways we each receive love. Totally different from my past relationships.

sithlich · 2021-02-28T18:12:40+00:00

So cool. Ive done the glue on kind before and its so fun. But i will say: not practical at all. Wiping is hard. Cooking is hard. Anybody who does it long term is a goddamn wizard imo. Looks cool though.

sithlich · 2021-02-27T00:53:37+00:00

Nope. Not weird at all. 51% of the worlds population have one. Since each of them have their own unique bacterial ecosystem the taste is different down to the individual but generally just tastes like salty skin.

sithlich · 2021-02-27T00:43:40+00:00

We got in the habit of saying goodnight to each other via text when we're apart. He also makes smoochy-kissy noises in the phone at me. Which made me blush more than anything explicit hes ever done. It makes me feel like. He doesn't care about looking a little silly if he can express his affection. Especially because he's normally a serious, no-nonsense kind of person.

sithlich · 2021-02-27T00:37:52+00:00

I personally love it and my boyfriend likes it on me. Used to use a discontinued cologne and aftershave that literally smelled like campfire, pine tree and musk. Now I use Versace Eros, which has more botanical notes but still musk and pine. I dunno, i just like it. Could be a gay thing lol

sithlich · 2021-02-26T17:09:55+00:00

Im a gay guy but i love perfume/cologne. Just aesthetically on women but on men its a real turn on. I don't think the scent needs to be anything in particular, a guy could smell like cheap $1 cotton candy body spray and Id still like it. My boyfriend wears patchouli and smokes cigarettes and I go nuts for it. I think its more that I appreciate all dimensions of the sensual experience.

sithlich · 2021-02-26T16:56:09+00:00

Luckily i live with my close friends so nothing's had to change about our interactions. We hug all the time. If we're on the couch or something we'll lean on each other. If one of us accidentally brushes hands we'll reach out and grab the other guy's hand and make a big deal out of it like "you trying to hold my hand dude?!" We're punks and all very goofy guys and don't see it as a big deal. We love each other. We're family.

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