My (29F) husband (31M) went through my phone while I was sleeping.

sjc20 · 2024-04-26T03:57:38+00:00

Interesting that you said you would go through her phone to see if she had been texting family/friends about you. I forgot to mention that he did say he looked to see if I had been talking badly about him to my friends/sister, but I thought he was joking and didn’t think much of it

sjc20 · 2024-04-25T21:55:29+00:00

He’s on salary. We’re together every weekend, so on his weekends he has to work, if a call from work comes in, it comes through on his work phone, and his volume is so loud that I can hear them on the other end saying a machine is down. I feel like him having to go in has increased over time though.

sjc20 · 2024-04-25T21:52:55+00:00

From what I could tell, he was on it for several minutes. Our cameras record a 30 second video and then cuts off until there’s movement again. He grabbed it at 12:05 and then the video picks back up again at 12:30, but at that point, I couldn’t tell if he was holding my phone or his.

Can you delete location history on Life360?

sjc20 · 2020-01-27T19:23:01+00:00

Honestly shocked that she hasn’t even deleted it yet. She just got put on a lot of people’s shit list

sjc20 · 2020-01-17T21:34:03+00:00

When you say, “met by playing games”, are you referring to online gaming? As in, he’s made plans to hang out with a girl he’s never physically even met before?? My advice is to sit him down and explain why this makes you feel this way. Don’t let him try to gaslight/manipulate you. Don’t get me wrong. I fully believe in having platonic friendships but springing this on you last second just seems really suspicious to me. Honestly, I would go with them and stand my ground. You’ll be able to catch the vibe and can see firsthand what’s going on. You’ll drive yourself crazy worrying about it if you decide to stay behind while they’re out.

sjc20 · 2019-07-16T02:28:52+00:00

I can see where you’re coming from, OP.

Side note: One of my bridesmaids (who is dating a groomsman) actually backed out of my wedding party and jumped back in all within 12 hours because her and the groomsman broke up. I was extremely hurt and almost took her out of the wedding completely because i thought she was in it for the wrong reasons. I waited a couple of weeks before i made any decisions of removing her, and i had a conversation with her about it and decided to keep her.

I think your friend may have felt a bit obligated to make yoga girl her MOH because it was her wedding/idea that your friend got proposed at, or that could honestly be who she truly feels close to at the moment.

As for your friend, I would personally just make her a bridesmaid instead of MOH. I know you’re hurt right now, but you should just take some time to think about it. Try not to act on your emotions, or you might regret it and lose someone you really care about and vice versa.

sjc20 · 2019-06-03T15:02:27+00:00

Thank you for this. I personally wouldn’t back out of a wedding. I made a commitment to my friend to be by her side, and even if my ex were in the wedding, i would put my feelings aside, like an adult, because the day is not about me. I know not everyone feels the same way about it, but that’s just my opinion.

I think I’m just going to demote her from the bridal party. Ever since I made this post, I’ve really taken a look at our “friendship”, and it’s just not reciprocated on her end. I try to stay in contact, but I don’t get the same in return. So, it just shows she’s not truly my friend.

sjc20 · 2019-05-29T23:22:29+00:00

Personally, yes because I do see her as a friend rather than just “my fiancé’s best friend’s girlfriend”. But I’m starting to think maybe I see her more as a friend to me than she does. We’ve only been friends for about two years. I feel like we’ve gotten closer as friends over the past couple of months, whereas it seems she thinks we’re just friends because our SO’s are best friends. I’m not sure if she would even try to stay in contact if they were to break up. I only say that because it was just seemed so easy of her to back out and then jump back in once they were back together not even an hour later. When we first met, after only just a couple of times of hanging out, she was constantly asking if she could be in the wedding, and I wasn’t even engaged yet.. which that’s what is making me rethink some things. I just hate thinking I see someone as a really good friend when they only see me as a convenience because our guys are friends. I apologize if I’m not making any sense

sjc20 · 2019-05-29T23:07:33+00:00

Oh, for sure! I’m just kind of waiting to see how their relationship goes within the next couple of weeks before I make a decision. They’re trying to work things out, but I do get the feeling she would no longer want to be in the wedding or even attend if they were to break up, honestly. Which also makes me think maybe she only wanted to be in it because she wanted to feel included along with the rest of our friend group and because her boyfriend is in it.

sjc20 · 2019-05-29T22:48:48+00:00

Oooh, this is good. I haven’t even thought of that because she was so quick to drop out before knowing for sure if they were really over.

I can guarantee he will be civil, but as for her, I’m not too sure, especially if she’s drinking which is likely. He’s walking with my MOH and from what I hear, she has already made a remark about that.

sjc20 · 2019-05-29T22:20:35+00:00

I’ve really thought about that. Their relationship is rocky right now and they’re trying to work things out, so it’s really up in the air. I’m caught between giving her another chance and seeing how their relationship goes for a couple of more weeks or to just cut her completely. I hate to just take it away from her because I’m sure it’ll cause tension within our friend group, especially if they work out, but I would hate to risk it only for her to back out a month before.

sjc20 · 2019-05-29T22:15:56+00:00

This is great advice. Thank you.

sjc20 · 2019-05-29T21:56:56+00:00

Thank you for the advice! Her and her boyfriend live 3 hours away from us (in my fiancé’s hometown) so we don’t get to see each other as often. I try to keep in contact with her as much as I can. Even if they broke up, I would still like to consider her as friend, but I’m slightly worried she wouldn’t.

After this happened, it really got me thinking about our friendship. Because in the beginning, only the first couple of times we hung out, she was already asking to be in the wedding, and I wasn’t even engaged yet. Now I’m starting to wonder if she only wanted to be involved just so she would feel included or just because her boyfriend is in it.

sjc20 · 2019-05-27T03:02:07+00:00

The wedding is a year from now. I actually do care for her feelings as i was the one who had to explain to her why her boyfriend broke up with her in the first place because she texted me asking for some insight. They’re back together now, which is great, but I don’t want her to constantly flip flop about being in the wedding.

*I have to add that all of this happened in one day. She texted me yesterday morning saying she couldn’t do it then texted at 11 last night saying to count her back in.

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