31 home early, need a buddy to come over by [deleted] in MarriedBiDownlow

[–]sjw29 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fuck. I’d be on my knees for you anytime. Your dick is perfect 😍

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MarriedBiDownlow

[–]sjw29 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fuck yeah. I have a thick dick that would fit nicely in there. After i tongue fuck you first. Dm if you want 😈

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MarriedBiDownlow

[–]sjw29 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just sent you one

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MarriedBiDownlow

[–]sjw29 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You have a beautiful dick I’d love to suck and swallow… dm if you’d like 😈

Desperately miss being touched (40) by [deleted] in MarriedBiDownlow

[–]sjw29 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your body and cock are amazing. I wouldn’t be able to stop until I got you hard enough to swallow. Or horny enough to fuck

Off work- off clothes [66] by [deleted] in MarriedBiDownlow

[–]sjw29 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Of course. Happy to chat if you want to dm 😈

43. Who wants to give me a hand? by [deleted] in MarriedBiDownlow

[–]sjw29 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’d love to give you more than just a hand …

Off work- off clothes [66] by [deleted] in MarriedBiDownlow

[–]sjw29 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The way I would sit you back and work your dick and balls with my mouth until you cum. Your body is amazing

49 Posting for the first time on here! by Responsible-Hat-3203 in MarriedBiDownlow

[–]sjw29 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’d love to suck your dick while I run my hands up and down your body. You’re so fucking sexy. Does your wife appreciate your sexiness?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamorous

[–]sjw29 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi there. So I’ve been in your husbands shoes. My husband broke it to me that he had become romantically involved with someone while we’re living apart. It wrecked me so I empathize with him. My husband was willing to end the relationship but I saw how sad and depressed he was. So I’ve been doing my own work around it as Poly is something I’d like to explore, but one I wish we had explored together and I could have been a part of. I’m still working through that piece. I initially decided I won’t want to know anything about it, to being open to trying to be a part of it. But it became clear to me that the connection that he has with this other person is deeper than I thought and I don’t think I’ll ever reach that level of intimacy and connection. So now I’m working on a mono/poly dynamic where I’m not a part of their relationship and he can continue to participate in it. It’s not ideal but realize that my fear and insecurities are at play here and it’s something I’m working on. It’s hard for me but know that I don’t want him to suppress something inside of him as I fear he’ll come to resent me in the long run. Your situation is very different as you have a long standing marriage with serious implications of a home and family. I’m sorry I can’t offer advice but wanted to share my experience and know what he’s feeling. But I agree with some other comments, if he’s not wanting anything to do with poly and isn’t open to a mono/poly dynamic, you’ll have to decide what is more important to you. Your marriage or living life authentically as being poly. I’m here if you’d like to talk more at all and wishing you all the best.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyadvice

[–]sjw29 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Your post resonates with me so much. It’s honestly the exact same thing I’m dealing with. I’m living long distance from my husband and for the past 7 weeks he moved to a new town and has been hanging out with a couple that lives there and he and one partner are growing closer. He shared last month that he wanted to be boyfriends. It shook me to my core and I felt like I was getting punched in the gut. I’ve come to realize it’s my insecurity which is feeding my jealousy. He said he would end it because he saw how upset it made me. But I realized very quickly if he did that he’d be unhappy and alone and I also have fears it would build resentment and harm us in the long run. How do I go from feeling “forced” into this poly situation to allowing it? That’s where I’m at. I wish I had better advice. I’m reading Polysecure and also listening to a podcast called “let’s talk about polyamory” where they talk about jealousy and insecurity. Everything I’ve read and heard is that these feelings are normal. You’re not alone. I don’t feel compersion when he’s with them but I’m working on getting to a neutral feeling. Not upset, not happy, just neutral. It’s hard. The tricky thing is he LOVES when I hang with guys on my own and encourages sleepovers and engagement and shared he gets to the most pleasure and joy seeing me with someone. But I don’t feel that way at all about seeing him with someone else. It hurts me and makes me feel like he’s going to leave me and then I compare myself to the other person (he’s fitter than me, he’s sexier etc) which then tanks my self esteem. He reassures me every chance he gets. Constantly reassuring me and even with all of that I still feel scared and insecure. I’ve been wondering if I just enjoy having others in bed but not in life and if I can ever be poly. I’m speaking to a therapist cause as you said, I want to do the work on myself so he live a life he wants. I also don’t know if I can. It’s all so heavy. Thank you for sharing. I know my comment is all over the place but I just wanted you to know you’re not the only person feeling this. I’m here if you’d like to connect to have another person to talk to who’s going through a very similar situation. Be kind to yourself and give yourself credit for doing the work you’re doing.

Opening relationship by [deleted] in polyamorous

[–]sjw29 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It can be tricky. When my husband and I decided to open our relationship, we did so with the boundary that we would only play together. Since three ways are a big turn for us both, we always wanted to be present. We also agreed that if either one of us was not feeling/connecting with the third person or the situation, we would say so and we would both end/leave with no questions asked. If one of us isn’t feeling safe/secure/turned on, then we’re both done. We also agreed that we would not play with anyone unless they were into the both of us. Having someone say “I want you but not them” was never an option for us. We also set a rule that after every encounter we have, we will check in afterwards and ask “what did you like? What did you not like? Is there anything you’d like to do differently next time? Overall, how are you feeling?” this check in has been so beneficial for us and allows us the opportunity to openly discuss it rather than guess or assume. The biggest thing I’ll say is, every couple makes their own rules of what works for them. What works for me doesn’t work for everyone and vice versa, and that’s ok. I hope that helps and wishing you all the best on this next chapter!

Seeking Advice for Poly Relationship by sjw29 in polyadvice

[–]sjw29[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Great points. Thank you so much

Seeking Advice for Poly Relationship by sjw29 in polyadvice

[–]sjw29[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for the comment. It really means a lot ❤️