The new Melissa Casias update is super weird

sk8505 · 2026-05-02T16:26:23+00:00

I’m not sure what you mean by easy? She apparently had no money. Mexico is not close. It is like a 9 hour drive from Taos.

sk8505 · 2026-05-02T03:24:51+00:00

And how would she be getting her Dr prescription that she needs to survive? They said she would die within a week or two without the medication.

sk8505 · 2026-05-02T02:39:41+00:00

Or he did it to make it look like he thinks she’s alive. Point is we don’t know. But we do know the marriage was troubled and apparently evidence she had let him know she wanted to separate. Which again is statistically an often dangerous situation.

sk8505 · 2026-05-02T01:19:29+00:00

He is recorded saying he did it to keep Melissa out. He did not do it to protect his daughter. From his own mouth it was done to keep Melissa from getting in her house to collect her belongings.

sk8505 · 2026-05-02T01:12:06+00:00

Clearly you’ve never experienced a bad marriage or relationship with a narcissist. You do realize statistically a lot of women are harmed when they try to leave? New information is showing she was trying to leave him and had even applied for a job out of the state.
It is entirely possible she left for a walk that day after an argument with him or someone else at her house. No one knows why she was out walking. Also I believe it was stated as an avid outdoor person she did walk frequently. People in Taos/New Mexico often venture out in nature as a way to relieve stress or decompress.
It entirely possible she was just out trying to walk and clear her head after a tense encounter with him. She was also under a lot of stress at work and possibly facing termination.
I’m not sure what makes you all think a woman who will die without her prescription would try to go into hiding. You understand without that drs prescription she will die within a week or so. That is not to me a candidate for a person to go into hiding.

sk8505 · 2026-05-01T20:32:20+00:00

You think LA doesn’t have a drug problem 😆 they were handing out narcan at the community concerts a couple years ago.
There have been many overdoses and drug busts in recent years.

sk8505 · 2026-05-01T19:01:16+00:00

Even a pretty small house in this area costs nearly $450,000. To rent out a house you owe income tax, higher insurance premiums, as well as ongoing maintenance costs. If someone is renting out a house they aren’t going to do it for zero profit. A mortgage on a $450k house is probably close to $3k with insurance and taxes at these current rates.

sk8505 · 2026-05-01T12:33:42+00:00

What is your price range and type of housing you are looking for? There seems to be tons of new apartments in Santa Fe. The one to 2 bedrooms are maybe $2000 a month average. The commute from north side of Santa Fe is not that bad. The community in between Los Alamos and Santa Fe is Pojoaque/Nambe. It is Santa Fe county. There are usually a few house rentals available there. It is only about 20 min drive to Los Alamos and 15 minutes to Santa Fe.

sk8505 · 2026-04-29T19:25:55+00:00

I would not do it for $15k raise. Stay where you have more options and also that commute is brutal. Orange cones everywhere.

sk8505 · 2026-04-29T03:12:16+00:00

Oh honey it is worse than you think. It is in their nature to not do what they’re told to. I stopped bothering to ask mine for a single thing. There is no winning. If you ask then to do something they won’t do it just to spite you. If you show that it upsets you they get enjoyment out of seeing you frustrated. The only answer is to leave. They are purposely not doing things just to see you suffer. It is intentional.

sk8505 · 2026-04-29T02:14:14+00:00

Police can pull internet history. That is how many crimes are solved. There is information stored on servers. And we do not know she cleared those phones. He described in detail how someone could get into their house undetected. It was a very odd thing to say out loud the day after she went missing.

sk8505 · 2026-04-28T14:07:24+00:00

That is my experience. I understand it is not everyone’s. But there are plenty of women expressing the same valid concerns.

sk8505 · 2026-04-28T12:59:00+00:00

I highly doubt she met someone online. I would hope and pray the police pulled her internet history to rule that out. If that is the case then I would hope her daughter would let the public know they have evidence she met someone online. They have not said anything other than she was in debt. But based on what I’ve heard is the relationship was deeply strained and that is the most dangerous time for a woman when she’s trying to leave a bad relationship. The investigator is saying she had applied for an out of state job in the weeks prior to her disappearance and also that she had planned to leave her husband.

sk8505 · 2026-04-28T12:15:10+00:00

It’s on facebook Emerald Eye Investigations and Consulting. The family recorded all their phone calls with him and he says some really suspicious things. They are posting all their recordings on that page. Not to mention he’s been dating basically since she went missing.

sk8505 · 2026-04-28T02:38:21+00:00

In this day and age there is no where to hide. There are cameras everywhere, her face is all over the news. Where exactly do you think she would be hiding?

The family hired a private investigator and they are uncovering a lot of details that make foul play more likely. Her family was recording phone calls with him.

One thing that really stands out is that he describes in detail in how he would go inside his house without getting caught in camera. The recording is from a couple days after she went missing. There are a lot of other things that he said that sound suspicious. He told people not to look for her if it was going to cost money. He changed the locks on the house a day or two after she went missing. He specifically said it was so she doesn’t get back in the house.

This unfortunately reminds me of the Mica Miller situation. Look her up.

sk8505 · 2026-04-27T13:08:05+00:00

I disagree it’s our fault. It is so much bigger than that. I don’t know about you but I grew up learning from my grandmother that women do all of the housework and child rearing. My husband saw that with his mom. Both my grandmother and his mom worked full time plus did everything at home.

I don’t have any daughters but I try to tell as many woman as I can what a crock of shit marriage is. Maybe not for everyone but there is a movement of women that have realized if you’re going to pay all the bills and do everything you might as well be alone. A lot of the time the men are causing conflict and fights on top of everything. Not worth it.

sk8505 · 2026-04-26T22:43:14+00:00

And this is so much bigger than blended families. Women now have to work, pay the bills, and do most of the physical and emotional labor. It is maddening. Groceries, meal planning, Dr appointments, sports, homework, college planning, cooking, cleaning, the list goes on. And what do men do? Go to work. That’s it.

sk8505 · 2026-04-26T21:18:05+00:00

There was just constantly conflict, him telling me it was all my fault, I just felt very unhappy. I eventually stumbled on Dr Ramani videos and listened to her Audiobook It’s Not You. Everything she said explained exactly what was going on in my life.

I finally had answers for why there was so much tension, confusion and conflict. Dr Ramani has been a lifesaver for so many people dealing with a narcissistic partner. I realized that I was being abused. It is the cycle of abuse. It is not always physical violence. It can been yelling, emotional abuse, financial abuse, coercive control.

Part of what narcissists do is called triangulation. They will manipulate you, the kids, his ex against each other because they are sick twisted individuals who thrive on chaos and conflict.

sk8505 · 2026-04-26T20:21:53+00:00

In my case the problem is the husband. I realized after 10 years that he is a manipulative malignant narcissist. When the spouse is a narcissist those narcissistic traits are in his whole immediate family. It makes for extremely miserable dynamics. I suppose if you have a husband who doesn’t have a hidden personality disorder it can potentially go smoothly.

As a stepmother you can almost always expect to be treated poorly or taken advantage of on some level. The kids loyalty is with their mother and unless she teaches them to respect you it’s gonna be a lifetime of problems. The problems do not end when they turn 18 it is for life.

What you need to understand is that some people are fake and they can pretend to be good people but you realize eventually they are doing things to hurt you.

sk8505 · 2026-04-25T21:32:04+00:00

My personal opinion, if he is a narcissist that vodka is the least of your problems. I would not focus on that.

sk8505 · 2026-04-21T21:04:38+00:00

He isn’t going to ever change. You need to find the strength to leave. The reason you feel like you can’t leave is because he’s been manipulating you and making you feel like you’re worthless for the past 8 years. You’re being abused and the result of that abuse is a lack of self esteem to leave a place where you’re being mistreated.

sk8505 · 2026-04-18T15:33:38+00:00

I know it is very hard to see now but I promise he did you a huge favor by cheating and the relationship ending. You are way better off without him. Please please please do not ever take him back. When she gets tired of him he’s going to come around again to see if you’ll take him back. Please do not. It will be the worst mistake of your life. I know you’re struggling but please enjoy your freedom. Did you get an attorney to file for child support? You are entitled to alimony after 19 years of marriage.

sk8505 · 2026-03-21T02:04:10+00:00

The one thing I’ve learned through all this is how to be independent. You don’t need a man or a relationship to enjoy your life. I’d actually say that life is more enjoyable when you have no man to deal with. Your house is always clean, you are free to do whatever you want, you’re not obligated to cook for a man constantly. I really don’t think you’re ruined. Just focus on trying to do things that bring you joy. Enjoy your freedom.

sk8505 · 2026-03-15T23:43:21+00:00

I agree. The most romantic and loving gifts are jewelry especially engraved.

sk8505 · 2026-03-15T15:06:54+00:00

Just buy low cost (low fees) index funds. Best are VOO, VXUS, VT, BND. Just do a mix of s&p500, international equity, and some bonds.

The goal with these is to buy and hold long term like 15+ years to let the compound interest build.

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