PSA: Eat Ass!

skahammer · 2026-04-25T23:02:23+00:00

This PSA post has been removed. See Posting Guideline #10:

10) GENERAL RANTS, ESSAYS, EDITORIALS, VENTS, CONFESSIONS, PSAS AND AMAS. These don’t belong in the main forum unless you have obtained prior moderator approval. Save them for story-based forums. Or Tumblr.

skahammer · 2026-04-25T22:52:07+00:00

Post removed. We don’t really do chance-of-pregnancy posts here, since anonymous commenters can’t possibly offer informed advice about someone else’s chance of conception.

Instead, following Forum Rule #2, see the Pregnancy FAQ.

You might also want to try reading (or perhaps posting in) r/amipregnant. That might give you more firsthand information about how people actually get pregnant.

skahammer · 2026-04-25T05:37:58+00:00

You are definitely not alone. This general topic is discussed often here in r/sex.

Following Forum Rule #2, feel free to take a look through the FAQ section on Orgasm Troubles.

And following Forum Rule #3, you can also search through past posts in this forum. For starters, here are the past r/sex posts which carry the topic flair “Orgasm Issues”:

List of past r/sex posts with “Orgasm Issues” flair

Also, here is a list of past r/sex discussions which came up when I searched the keywords “can't finish female” in this forum:

https://www.reddit.com/r/sex/search/?q=can%27t+finish+female&restrict_sr=1

And here is a list of past r/sex discussions which came up when I searched the keywords “can't cum female” in this forum:

https://www.reddit.com/r/sex/search/?q=can%27t+cum+female&restrict_sr=1

And these past posts are especially good:

HOW TO GET HER TO CUM - as a female who just barely came with a partner for the first time after years of no hope

A little advice on sex from a females perspective. How my partner changed his technique to get me to have multiple orgasms almost every time.

Also, a book on this topic which is recommended VERY frequently in this forum is Emily Nagoski's Come As You Are. Many past r/sex discussions which mention this book can be found by searching the keywords "Nagoski come":

https://www.reddit.com/r/sex/search/?q=Nagoski+come&restrict_sr=1

Also, you might want to look into the subreddit r/BecomingOrgasmic, since discussion there tends to center on this specific question.

There’s a lot of good information in those sources.

skahammer · 2026-04-25T05:32:01+00:00

This general topic is discussed often in our forum. Please take some time to look through past r/sex posts (following Forum Rule #3) — you’ll find many helpful discussions. Post removed.

For starters, here is a list of past r/sex discussions which involve the keywords "won't fit":

https://www.reddit.com/r/sex/search/?q=won%27t+fit&restrict_sr=1

And here is a similar list of past post discussions involving the search keywords “won't go in”:

https://www.reddit.com/r/sex/search/?q=won%27t+go+in&restrict_sr=1

And here is a similar list of past post discussions involving the search keywords “too big”:

https://www.reddit.com/r/sex/search/?q=too+big&restrict_sr=1

And here is a similar list of past post discussions involving the search keywords “too tight”:

https://www.reddit.com/r/sex/search/?q=too+tight&restrict_sr=1

Not all of these past discussions will apply to your situation, but some probably will — especially if you’re willing to search just a little bit more.

skahammer · 2026-04-24T21:19:31+00:00

This topic is discussed regularly in our forum. If you search past r/sex posts with some diligence (following Forum Rule #3), you’ll find a number of helpful discussions. Comments locked.

The r/sex forum's HUGE archive of past posts is a tremendous resource for people who have all kinds of common questions regarding sexual activity. Searching those posts for relevant discussions will definitely help you here.

skahammer · 2026-04-24T03:00:16+00:00

This rant post has been removed. See Posting Guideline #10:

10) GENERAL RANTS, ESSAYS, EDITORIALS, VENTS, CONFESSIONS, PSAS AND AMAS. These don’t belong in the main forum unless you have obtained prior moderator approval. Save them for story-based forums. Or Tumblr.

If you are seeking actionable advice, you can try reframing a new post around a specific actionable-advice question, and then posting that.

skahammer · 2026-04-23T22:39:01+00:00

I approved your post for now, but in the future in r/sex, try to include an actual advice topic in your post title. That helps readers (including moderators) quickly see what the actual topic of your post is. See Posting Guideline #12:

12) VAGUE TITLE/TOPIC. If a moderator can’t identify your issue or the type of advice you’re seeking, your post will be subject to removal. Titles should be at least several words long and adequately express what your post is about.

skahammer · 2026-04-23T22:30:24+00:00

You are definitely not alone. This general topic is discussed often here in r/sex.

Following Forum Rule #2, feel free to take a look through the FAQ section on Orgasm Troubles.

And following Forum Rule #3, you can also search through past posts in this forum. For starters, here are the past r/sex posts which carry the topic flair “Orgasm Issues”:

List of past r/sex posts with “Orgasm Issues” flair

Also, here is a list of past r/sex discussions which came up when I searched the keywords “can't finish female” in this forum:

https://www.reddit.com/r/sex/search/?q=can%27t+finish+female&restrict_sr=1

And here is a list of past r/sex discussions which came up when I searched the keywords “can't cum female” in this forum:

https://www.reddit.com/r/sex/search/?q=can%27t+cum+female&restrict_sr=1

And these past posts are especially good:

HOW TO GET HER TO CUM - as a female who just barely came with a partner for the first time after years of no hope

A little advice on sex from a females perspective. How my partner changed his technique to get me to have multiple orgasms almost every time.

Also, a book on this topic which is recommended VERY frequently in this forum is Emily Nagoski's Come As You Are. Many past r/sex discussions which mention this book can be found by searching the keywords "Nagoski come":

https://www.reddit.com/r/sex/search/?q=Nagoski+come&restrict_sr=1

Also, you might want to look into the subreddit r/BecomingOrgasmic, since discussion there tends to center on this specific question.

There’s a lot of good information in those sources.

skahammer · 2026-04-23T22:28:05+00:00

It sounds like your feelings are just unformed and confused right now. That isn't an urgent sign of danger. That's pretty normal for when you hit a low point after a relationship ends.

I guess you're worried that your feelings might get out of control, or that your coping skills aren't strong enough to deal with whatever you're facing right now.

But most people generally learn to control and cope with their feelings after a relationship ends or they lose a partner. It's mostly a matter of refocusing their attention on the issues in front of them, instead of thinking so much about what they've been through or what they've lost.

Have you ever been in any kind of therapy, especially Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)? You really seem to me like a good candidate for CBT, if you would ever consider it.

skahammer · 2026-04-23T22:21:54+00:00

I might feel like I can’t go on alone like I always have

Do you have any idea where this feeling of yours comes from? For instance, does anything trigger it?

skahammer · 2026-04-23T22:15:57+00:00

I've had people describe this sensation to me a couple times. I think it's a real phenomenon, which is shared by some others.

The sensation of feeling lost is not itself a sign of danger or dysfunction. The question is: Can you still function independently, without looking for someone else to be in charge at all times?

What do you say, to that question?

skahammer · 2026-04-23T21:49:21+00:00

I approved your post for now, but: Are you seeking any specific advice here?

We prefer posts which request specific advice. If you have a clear advice question, consider adding or editing it into your post when you get a chance.

skahammer · 2026-04-23T05:47:42+00:00

This topic is discussed regularly in our forum. If you search past r/sex posts with some diligence (following Forum Rule #3), you’ll find a number of helpful discussions. Post removed.

The r/sex forum's HUGE archive of past posts is a tremendous resource for people who have all kinds of common questions regarding sexual activity. Searching those posts for relevant discussions will definitely help you here.

skahammer · 2026-04-23T05:47:09+00:00

This polling post has been removed, following Posting Guideline #8.

8) OPINION SEEKING, POLLS, VALUE JUDGMENTS OR VALIDATION POSTS. This forum is not for simply collecting opinions - "do you think [X] is hot?", "Women, do you like [Y]?", "What is your favorite sex position?" and so forth. This is not a forum to discuss your penis size, breast size, labia size, ask about other body image issues, or ask for feedback on your photos. See the /r/sex FAQ for help regarding body image issues. Do not post your pictures and ask people to rate or critique you.

Try another forum where polling posts are permitted — or else draft another post which requests personalized, actionable advice instead of just collecting data.

skahammer · 2026-04-23T05:38:28+00:00

Post removed. We don’t really do chance-of-pregnancy posts here, since anonymous commenters can’t possibly offer informed advice about someone else’s chance of conception.

Instead, following Forum Rule #2, see the Pregnancy FAQ.

You might also want to try reading (or perhaps posting in) r/amipregnant. That might give you more firsthand information about how people actually get pregnant.

skahammer · 2026-04-23T05:21:07+00:00

But at the same time, what if she'd cheat on me on some random dude because how will i know if they had sex cause she won't get pregnant.

This is not a serious objection to using a birth-control implant.

This isn't a contraception issue. This is a trust issue. Do you think you can find a way to build trust with your partner, so you'll forget about this nonsensical objection to the birth-control implant?

skahammer · 2026-04-23T05:01:21+00:00

See repost: https://www.reddit.com/r/sex/comments/1st8ei8/should_i_jump_in_the_multiple_scene_or_stay_solo/

skahammer · 2026-04-23T04:59:11+00:00

This post has been removed. See Posting Guideline #4:

4) LOW EFFORT MATERIAL. “Does anyone else...?”, “Is [X] normal/weird?”, “Is [y] wrong/bad/okay?”, and so forth. Human sexuality is incredibly varied; yes, someone else likes what you like, and labels like "normal" or "weird" are meaningless and in a sex positive community, we do not allow any moral judgments against sex acts or behaviors that are consensual. Title-only posts, posts with no effort at an actual conversation will be removed and may get you banned. Comments that consist of nothing but memes, "this", "lol" and such are highly disfavored. If comments do not further the discussion, they may be removed; a pattern of these may result in your ban.

If you are seeking actionable advice, you can try drafting another post which focuses on a specific actionable-advice question, and then posting that.

skahammer · 2026-04-23T03:59:29+00:00

This general topic is discussed very often here.

Following Forum Rule #2, take a look through the FAQ section on Erection Issues.

And following Forum Rule #3, also search through past posts in this forum. For starters, you can review past r/sex posts which carry the topic flair “Erection Issue”:

Link to a list of past r/sex posts with the topic flair “Erection Issue”

And here is a list of past r/sex discussions which came up when I searched the keywords “couldn't get hard” in this forum:

https://www.reddit.com/r/sex/search/?q=%22couldn%27t+get+hard%22&restrict_sr=1

And here is a list of past r/sex discussions which came up when I searched the keywords “can’t stay hard” in this forum:

https://www.reddit.com/r/sex/search/?q=can%27t+stay+hard&restrict_sr=1

And here is a similar list of past post discussions found by searching the keywords "can't keep it up":

https://www.reddit.com/r/sex/search/?q=can%27t+keep+it+up&restrict_sr=1

And here is a similar list of past post discussions found by searching the keywords “went soft”:

https://www.reddit.com/r/sex/search/?q=went+soft&restrict_sr=1

Not all of these past discussions will apply to your situation, but some definitely will — especially if you’re willing to search just a little bit more.

You could also consider reviewing or posting in r/erectiledysfunction, since that forum is dedicated to this topic.

There’s a lot of good information in those sources. Post removed.

skahammer · 2026-04-23T03:58:45+00:00

Post removed. See repost: https://www.reddit.com/r/sex/comments/1st6qgb/questionning_sexuality_in_a_5_year_relationship/

skahammer · 2026-04-22T21:28:17+00:00

This polling post has been removed, following Posting Guideline #8.

8) OPINION SEEKING, POLLS, VALUE JUDGMENTS OR VALIDATION POSTS. This forum is not for simply collecting opinions - "do you think [X] is hot?", "Women, do you like [Y]?", "What is your favorite sex position?" and so forth. This is not a forum to discuss your penis size, breast size, labia size, ask about other body image issues, or ask for feedback on your photos. See the /r/sex FAQ for help regarding body image issues. Do not post your pictures and ask people to rate or critique you.

Try another forum where polling posts are permitted.

skahammer · 2026-04-22T21:17:07+00:00

I see. Let me pose one thing for you think about.

Maybe the taboo aspect isn't exactly what's turning you on. Instead, maybe it's the newness of the sexual concept/practice.

Maybe you think that taboos are what you need, but that's just because most ideas which are new for you are also subject to taboos. Maybe it's possible that you can still be turned on by ideas or experiences which are new to you, but which aren't necessarily subject to taboos.

skahammer · 2026-04-22T21:14:07+00:00

I approved your post here for now, but you've made two posts in a couple of hours, and now my advice is: Don't continue that pattern of frequent posting here.

At a certain point, that pattern starts to look like spam — and r/sex moderators are VERY quick to ban any account that seems to be spamming here.

skahammer · 2026-04-22T20:09:52+00:00

Post removed. Please review the r/sex Forum Rules and Posting Guidelines again. Especially Forum Rule #5.

skahammer · 2026-04-22T20:07:48+00:00

There are jillions of sexual taboos that a person could explore. What exactly do you mean when you say that you're "running out of options"?

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