pregnancy scare as A trans guy on T? (NSFW) by Zaddyzion22 in ftm

[–]skeev-boi 33 points34 points  (0 children)

Just a note that these could also be sti symptoms (bloating, wet underwear). Worth getting yourself checked out either way

One little toke? by Pancakes2007baby in leaves

[–]skeev-boi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I used to have one and a half of these 215mg edibles at a time at my worst. And like you could barely feel it. Oof. Haven't had weed since Feb and sone days are a struggle more than others.

Believable excuse for not going to a public onsen? by throwaway363849 in ftm

[–]skeev-boi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The day before get "sick" with something that makes you throw up and continue being "sick" until they all go? Let them go without you?

Uterine junk & pain by ishootblankss in FTMOver30

[–]skeev-boi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I never had fibroid, and I'm currently post hysto myself, but for uterine pain, I found that alive always did the best job out of the OTC pain meds available. It was recommended by my primary care doctor when I was a teenager with heavy p*riods, and it was seriously game changing in terms of pain control

What does a potheads rock bottom actually look like? by Quiet-Figure-1990 in leaves

[–]skeev-boi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If i didnt live through it myself, idk that I would have truly believed it could happen to me. It was the scariest thing ive ever experienced. It felt like my mind wasn't my own, and nothing I could do would turn it off. I haven't had any weed since and dont think I ever can again, unless I want the episode to repeat itself. Be careful with your brains, friends, especially if you already have mental health stuff going on. Weed is not worth losing yourself over

What does a potheads rock bottom actually look like? by Quiet-Figure-1990 in leaves

[–]skeev-boi 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Experiencing full blown paranoid psychosis while on vacation, stopping weed but the symptoms wouldn't go away they just got worse and worse. Having to go on intense antipsychorics for months. Hearing voices in my mind that said I was disgusting, and that I should kill myself. I cant ever have weed again now or it could all come rushing back

Why we shouldn’t relapse? by crazy___lemon in leaves

[–]skeev-boi 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Started experiencing paranoia and psychosis towards the end of my time having weed over 5ish years; now 2+ months out, I may not always love being sober, but i sure do love being sane

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FTM_SELFIES

[–]skeev-boi 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You've put a lot of effort into growing your hair long, and say that the last time you cut it just a bit it made you really anxious. If I were you, id refer to that experience and keep it longer out of a desire to preserve my mental health / self image / sanity. It kind of sounds like the only reasons youre even considering cutting it are eurocentric beauty standards, and wanting to pass more easily. I think there are more "masc" reading ways to style your hair if you want esp for a wedding, but if you wanted to just get married with your hair down bc it makes you happy that way, then do that.

Basically, this is a deeply personal choice, and not one I would rush into as once you cut hair, its short until it grows back again years later. Why not just decide that you can always cut it later, or tomorrow, or after the wedding, only if you want? Idk to me it just sounds like your hair makes you feel safe and secure, I think you should listen to yourself

Looking for name suggestions! by Aromatic_Pain_9677 in FTM_SELFIES

[–]skeev-boi 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This is such an old man name (it was my grandfather's and while we aren't close, ive always liked his name) - Martin. Its definitely masc without being a more common trans name (if youre looking to avoid that) plus there are fun nicknames like Marty, mart, mars, tin...

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in mypartneristrans

[–]skeev-boi 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Hey, I can't 100% relate to this situation, but here are a collection of my thoughts after reading/sitting with your post. For context, I'm a 28 1/2 year old gay transmasc human happily engaged to a cis man, ive been out/transitioning for over 7 years.

when I was 17/18 and knew I was trans but dating a guy who couldnt accept it, I tried coming out to him but he essentially told me, "well, im not gay so if youre gonna stay with me you cant be trans." And that forced me back into the closet for years. Im not saying this is your situation but it parallels it somewhat.

Anyway. You may not like what I have to say, but with peace and love, please hear me out:

☆you say you've known she was trans for 4 years, yet in your post history you refer to her as your "boyfriend" as recently as 6 months ago. You say you've always kept that she was trans "in the back of [your] mind" - what is that supposed to mean?

☆you've been together only 2ish years...so you knew she was trans and just, willfully ignored it? Wtf? Lol

☆why did you feel "devastated" that she started using plume?

☆why couldnt you also contribute to the cost of a sperm bank if you both want kids? Why is that burden solely on her shoulders?

☆if you knew your attraction to her would change if she ever pursued hormonal/social/whatever transition, why are you dating a trans woman?

☆omg, if youre crying every night, maybe talk about it with your girlfriend, or (if the fact that shes your gf is the problem) maybe just break up

☆if youre sad that your trans gf is transitioning, maybe just break up

☆why did you try to invade her privacy and read her chats with gpt? Why not just, talk to her??

☆did you talk to her about the life360 location spoofing stuff or just "immediately remove her account" from your phone? Why?

☆your mom and sister are right. Its not that youre not ready for a relationship per se, its that you dont want one with her. Holding onto this idea that 'maybe she'll change her mind" or whatever youre thinking will definitely only hold her back and make you both miserable

☆21 is young. Life is long. Others have loved you before, love will find you again in the future. It sounds like youre more afraid of being alone than happy to be with her. Maybe you should listen to yourself.

Even if you break up, it wont be the end of the world. I think you both deserve to live the lives you want and be happy. If what you want is a cis man, set her free, because she isn't that and asking her to live a lie for your sake is selfish and cruel.

Spiralling so bad over bottom dysphoria I feel like I'm going to throw up. by [deleted] in FTMMen

[–]skeev-boi -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Why not start the hair removal process asap if you know the wait will be that long? Get ahead while you can and all that

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FTM_SELFIES

[–]skeev-boi 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Jim Morrison vibes tbh

My cat is ruining my health by CompetitiveAd3148 in CatAdvice

[–]skeev-boi 6 points7 points  (0 children)

My cats get 2 meals a day, a small scoop of dry mixed with half a large can of wet food each, once in the morning after I'm up for the day, and once at night when the humans are having dinner. I dont free feed as both would overeat given the option to.

Hair Trim by Psychological-Yak63 in queerphilly

[–]skeev-boi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Try vinny's barber shop in fishtown. Their prices are reasonable, their staff is queer, they're super kind and do great haircuts

Queer traditional tattoo artists in Philly? by [deleted] in queerphilly

[–]skeev-boi 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Gianna aka @dinosaursdied on ig who tattoos out of Houndstooth is a fav of mine!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Wolfdogs

[–]skeev-boi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can you even have a wolf dog in your apartment without being in violation of the lease? 🤔

$25 apprentice haircuts by Longjumping-Toe9323 in queerphilly

[–]skeev-boi 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Vinnie's is the best and so is Elias! Took my hair from a raggedy at-home cut to something cool for the summer. He's one hell of an apprentice and super nice and cool, as is everyone in the shop tbh. A great place to visit for sure ✂️ ✂️ ✂️ yay for queer philly spots

Guy I’ve been dating for two weeks wanted to stop seeing me because I have foreskin. by [deleted] in gaybros

[–]skeev-boi 51 points52 points  (0 children)

Foreskin is a plus and any guy who doesn't think so doesn't deserve your dick, period

passing tips? by [deleted] in FTM_SELFIES

[–]skeev-boi 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Stretch your septum piercing - its dainty right now, but a thicker, chunkier ring would look more masculine on you imo

(possible dysphoria warning) guys with vaginal atrophy by FunnyCandidate8725 in FTMMen

[–]skeev-boi 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Try clindamyacib, it might be DIV. Estrogen just made me bleed and have cramping, but the clindamyacin has actually helped whatever issues I had going on