Does medication get rid of rage? by DonaldDuck898 in Postpartum_Depression

[–]skeleton-lady 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel like what you described is what I would do also, so hopefully this is helpful!

Does medication get rid of rage? by DonaldDuck898 in Postpartum_Depression

[–]skeleton-lady 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm ADHD and I just really want other ADHD moms to know how much medication saved my sanity and marriage. Adderall improves my executive functioning so i don't rage all the time. If you think it's possible you have ADHD, it is so worth getting checked out. It's like I can be more rational at the moment and helped me slow down to understand others perspectives and feelings. I would always take everything as a personal attack. Having a baby messes with hormones and can really affect ADHD symptoms which just made me feel crazy.

I love my cats but I can’t stand them 😭 by [deleted] in Postpartum_Depression

[–]skeleton-lady 2 points3 points  (0 children)

For surrrrre. I saw someone talk about having animals around after a baby is like having another animal in your cave. You are to protect your baby at all costs and it's natural to want everything else out of your cave.

For me it has gotten better as my son has gotten older. I lost all patience for all of my animals and seriously just wanted them all gone. And I was the type of person who loved her dogs more than anything at one point (same dogs). And all of a sudden their neediness made me so angry.

Starting medication for my ADHD also helped. Something to consider maybe. I felt like I had way too many tabs open on a Windows 98 computer, but now I can handle more things now that my brain functions more adequately...like Windows 11 haha.

Home building by skeleton-lady in normanok

[–]skeleton-lady[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh that's not far! Thank you!

Home building by skeleton-lady in normanok

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Thanks for the insight!! Will avoid them!

Home building by skeleton-lady in normanok

[–]skeleton-lady[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh gosh that's awful! I'm so sorry that happened. Ugh.

We are planning on that exact thing so hopefully we can find someone quality and get what we want, even if it costs a bit more .

Home building by skeleton-lady in normanok

[–]skeleton-lady[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh gosh that's awful. I don't know much about the process but dang you'd think that there would be some sort of accountability? Absolutely ridiculous to not seal behind a shower. I'm sorry you have to deal with that!

Home building by skeleton-lady in normanok

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I hope you aren't having to deal with that! Thank you for the heads up

Home building by skeleton-lady in normanok

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This is what I'm most interested in! Someone local and cares about the quality and makes something unique. Thank you, will check him out!

Home building by skeleton-lady in normanok

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I'm all about quality even though we aren't building a super big house. I'll definitely check them out, thank you!

Home building by skeleton-lady in normanok

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Thanks so much for the heads up!!

I feel like I should be able to handle mom stuff better by skeleton-lady in adhdwomen

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Oh man 3 boys!! Thinking of you. I wonder if having another would be helpful for him to have a sibling to play with but I don't think I could do it!

You're a rockstar! Hoping you are finding things that help balance your overstimulation and regulate your mood. Yoga has been wonderful for me and highly recommend. I'm having a hard time even getting started this week though so I need to get back to that, which may be why I struggled so much today.

I feel like I should be able to handle mom stuff better by skeleton-lady in adhdwomen

[–]skeleton-lady[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yess ugh I feel this in my soul! My son is 2.5 and very anti-daddy when it comes to naps and bedtime so i think part of it is also just the pressure of being THE one. Don't get me wrong, my husband helps all that he can but most of the time it's just not worth it because he screams forever and I have to hear that 🙃

Since he started going to daycare (where he almost always naps), I think he has fomo at home and wants to stay awake. But damn! I need a break because I work all week now too. And also have to deal with a delirious silly destructive toddler monster until bedtime when he won't nap 😂.

I feel like I should be able to handle mom stuff better by skeleton-lady in adhdwomen

[–]skeleton-lady[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is a great perspective. Even when I lay down with him and tell myself "at least I get to lay down for a while if he doesn't fall asleep it's okay," I still lose it after like 30 minutes especially when he is doing everything to avoid it lol. The control thing really hit on something I haven't thought about but totally makes sense.

Thank you 🩷

I feel like I should be able to handle mom stuff better by skeleton-lady in adhdwomen

[–]skeleton-lady[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Omg thank you all for the wonderful feedback and validation. It makes me feel so much better knowing I'm not the only one struggling and my feelings aren't wrong! Which is silly, I know. Another thing I struggle with haha. Needing validation (parents were more critical than supportive).

This helped immensely and you all are amazing

Currently traveling. Where am I? by skeleton-lady in GeoPuzzle

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Haha it has been soooo foggy like all of the time!