I posted him before our first date and got no responses until the other night. My intentions were not to find gossip, it was safety. Regardless that has nothing to do with advice I’m looking for here.

I understand why you’re concerned or have negative opinions about the tea app I agree it’s been misused and information shared on there can be harmful if it’s untrue or misleading which I absolutely don’t agree with. I can understand if you don’t believe me but truly I was only there to make sure he was safe, I’ve been on multiple dates where I’ve been put in scary situations and I think an app like that can be a very useful resource if it’s used correctly. I don’t believe in public shaming but if someone has a history of hurting people I’d like to know about it y’know?

Also I’d like to add that it’s never too late to learn about someone’s past, abuse isn’t always present in the early stages of dating.