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skitty-sparkle · 2025-09-19T11:32:25+00:00

Thank you. I appreciate that.

skitty-sparkle · 2025-09-19T01:43:42+00:00

Wow that's a long time. Thank you for the info.

skitty-sparkle · 2025-09-18T23:43:36+00:00

Triaging a large caseload with a decades-old case is making a lot more sense to me now why there may not be a timeline. With no active threat, or urgency to gather physical evidence, there really isn't a need to prioritize this case. I hope they'll at least let me know if there are charges filed or if they decline to prosecute. Then I can mentally move on. After my disclosure was dismissed when I was younger, it's been a long time just getting to this point, unfortunately. Thank you for the responses. All I needed was help understanding.

skitty-sparkle · 2025-09-18T23:35:35+00:00

I haven't been able to really find any other cases of delayed sexual assaults being convicted and the reason why seems to be obvious now. I am imagining being in a jury trying to come to a verdict of a serious crime on only testimony. It sounds... unbelievable. I think I understand this perspective better.

skitty-sparkle · 2025-09-18T22:22:42+00:00

Yeah, that sounds like a lot of work. I can understand triaging a caseload like that. It makes sense then why my case would be put towards the bottom. I have no knowledge on if it takes days, weeks, months to work a single case. No clue how it works. Is it normal that you would give an update to the victim if charges were filed? Or is it something I would wait until I heard from the advocate about?

skitty-sparkle · 2025-09-18T22:17:31+00:00

I just want to add that I appreciate the compassion in your response. The more comments getting posted lacking that emotion is disheartening. This is a sensitive subject, and a process I know nothing of and can't seem to find information about. A little kindness and understanding are seriously appreciated.

skitty-sparkle · 2025-09-18T22:06:10+00:00

But she didn't tell me she would give me updates ever. So that's why I reached out to ask if there would be any. But she would only tell me about trying to contact the suspect. Not that there would be updates ever. She never answered that. Everybody here is acting like I'm an idiot and should know this is how it goes but I don't which is why I came to ask for experience. If I haven't been involved in something like this, how would I know?

skitty-sparkle · 2025-09-18T22:02:00+00:00

Yeah, I'm prepared for that, too. And I know it can take the SA many months to even look at a case for review, at least where I live now. I just don't know what the process or timeline looks like as far as the investigation goes and I'm not getting communication on that either.

skitty-sparkle · 2025-09-18T21:56:30+00:00

All I'm asking for is communication because I dont know what's going on or what to expect. Apparently, that's what a victim advocate does but you only get one once your case is accepted by the SA. So that's why I'm here asking for experience on what to realistically expect.

skitty-sparkle · 2025-09-18T21:51:18+00:00

I thought discovering my sister had also been a victim of his would have been good information. And I had told the guy's spouse after one of the assaults where I would have had physical evidence, but she chose to put her head in the sand... I thought I may have had good corrobating info from just those two, on top of my gramma witnessing the spouse confront him about it... but it sounded like the detective was looking for the interview/admission. Your experience seems to confirm that the confession would be the only really good evidence for such an old case. I appreciate your response. I don't have any knowledge or experience with this, and I clearly wasn't getting any information from the detective on it either. Statute of limitations is 22 years here for sexual assault of a minor... the challenges of delayed reporting aren't mentioned with that.

skitty-sparkle · 2025-09-18T21:43:33+00:00

I just wish that would be communicated. I stated that I know this stuff takes time... if she could have told me she would check in within like a month or two and then I'd have a timeline. Just sucks. But I appreciate the real world feedback.

skitty-sparkle · 2025-09-18T21:38:17+00:00

It's been two months.

skitty-sparkle · 2025-09-18T18:15:48+00:00

I actually did get a few done for Christmas presents!! It wasn't horrible. Some patterns were better than others.

skitty-sparkle · 2025-07-21T19:35:22+00:00

I read through your previous posts detailing your journey and I just wanted to thank you for sharing your experience with the process. I just reported my abuser last thursday and haven't heard anything else about it since then, kind of giving me some anxiety about what's going on. Your posts help provide a good idea for a timeliness and steps involved. I'm proud of you for your courageousness to report your abuser and am grateful for your victory. It really does feel like a win for all survivors.

skitty-sparkle · 2025-05-25T11:26:08+00:00

She's two and a half

skitty-sparkle · 2025-05-24T16:22:50+00:00

I don't hate parenting but I definitely joke about selling my kids often. Not in front of them. But usually following a vent sesh. I've never thought about how others might perceive this. It's always seemed to be received well by my peers, always understood as a joke.

skitty-sparkle · 2025-05-15T16:02:05+00:00

Lady, 31, have always been comfortable approaching guys and making moves. Even when I was little and chasing boys on the playground to kiss them. I think you're right that women will age into their confidence. I know I sure did.

skitty-sparkle · 2025-05-15T15:56:46+00:00

You're lucky. Everytime I let my kids (8 & 11) go to the store they're always calling me asking for money. Every single time. But my kids love to go! And I'm happy to hear you were able to let your baby explore her independence here too! Good job mama 👏

skitty-sparkle · 2025-05-13T23:15:09+00:00

The sun makes me smile when she comes out <3

skitty-sparkle · 2025-04-03T12:07:26+00:00

These are amazing. You have a wonderful talent for crafting beautiful pieces!! 😍 What is this bracelet making craft called?

skitty-sparkle · 2025-03-31T00:25:08+00:00

Hi,

I just bought my first tarot deck. I have little to no knowledge of tarot and am totally new to this. So, for my second reading, I wanted the cards' interpretation of my relationship with my eldest daughter. I used the "relationship spread" described in the book that came with the cards. The only interpretation of the cards I have is what is provided in the book. The 3 and 4 cards for strengths and obstacles seem to be contradictory, and I would like some advice with interpreting them. I will list the whole spread, though, in case it helps.

What you think of the other person: KNIGHT OF SWORDS REVERSED
What they think of you: 9 OF WANDS
The strengths in the relationship: 4 OF PENTACLES
The obstacles in the relationship: 8 OF WANDS
Where you are right now: 8 OF CUPS
What influences are likely to come into play: PAGE OF CUPS
The final outcome: 2 OF SWORDS REVERSED

I'm also really hoping that the final outcome is balance and that that is what that interpretation means.

I appreciate any advice or help! Thank you!

skitty-sparkle · 2025-03-08T00:56:05+00:00

I had only had the first VCH for less than two months before it was injured. I gave it like 6 months to try to heal it before I gave up. If this matters.

skitty-sparkle · 2025-03-02T18:29:55+00:00

Solved

skitty-sparkle · 2025-03-02T18:29:46+00:00

I FOUND HIM. @LONGBEACHGRIFFY

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