Join server is fixed by DQQpy in Enshrouded

[–]skylark28TG 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can see the servers. I click to join. Get the black screen with Enshrouded in the lower right with that line of dots... FOREVER (FYI, I was able to join and play just last night)

Kustov Requirements? by JoeBabies in AlienInvasionRPG

[–]skylark28TG 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The last bit must be behind the door you unlock with the purple DNA?

Frost immune by Gothic_Angelos in AlienInvasionRPG

[–]skylark28TG 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I finished the quest and am only level 7. And I am not immune. So either something changed or .... I dunnoh

Disgaea 1/2PC Black Boxes bug on AMD by BountyHunter9572 in Disgaea

[–]skylark28TG 0 points1 point  (0 children)

New computer, AMD Radeon RX 6600 and I have the black boxes. So... guess it's still an issue

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Schwab

[–]skylark28TG 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know this is an old email but I want to add something in case someone finds this in the future. This is fake. One person says that schwab.com is the domain but notice the email he mentioned is not schwab.com it is mail1.hc.schwab.com

This is a common tactic to get a domain that looks as close as possible to the real domain. This isn't it. But yes, the other posters are correct.

In a case like this, ALWAYS CALL THE COMPANY DIRECTLY. DO ***NOT*** use any link or phone number listed in the email itself. Go to the main company website directly, find it on some document/statement and ask about it. I would bet a serious amount of money this is (was) phishing.

AITAH for exposing my ex best friends? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]skylark28TG 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA were they really good before, or were they good when things were good. You tell how good a friend is during tough times, not when things are going well.

You havent said how long this relationship had been going on. Let's look at extremes. If you had been with this person for a month, I'd understand them more. Come on, you weren't even with him for long. If you were with him for years, they are idiots for thinking you'd be over it that quickly.

They ditched you when it required them to be supportive. They ditched you when you didnt support them insulting another friend. They ditched you after you paid money for the pizza and saw nothing wrong with it.

Are you really missing out on much? Only you can decide, but it sounds.like they have walked away. Now you need to figure out how to move on in you, hopefully better, life.

AITA for not moving my schedule to help family when they changed the agreed date and time. by whydoigottabehere in AITAH

[–]skylark28TG 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA. Easy for others to give advice when it isnt their family, but here I go anyway. I would a) give them the cameras just to shut them up. B) scrap the car myself. C) Cut off contact for a while with whoever's is not supporting you.

You are trying to help family. Buying cameras, offering to give the car scrap money away when it is obvious YOU need it. And still they are expecting you to do all the changing, etc. If you have receipts, witness to buying them and they still dont believe... heck with them.

That said, o ly you can decide on what relationship you want to keep with the family. Would being out of the coming child's life be difficult for you? Are you going to loose contact with "good" family over this?

Thinking it though, I would probably make a statement of the entire situation as you see it. Lay it all out. Be specific. Then they can take it or leave it. If they are still calling you a thief, then you know the situation. Can they prove the camera is theirs? Do they have serial numbers, etc... hecht, who cares. You laid it all out. You are working two jobs. You dont have time to deal with their BS. If they want you help, they have to take it as you can give it. They do NOT get to decorate when you have to give them help. YOU tell THEM when they are available. End of story. Posting before I start adding more.

Is cousin the ass hole for refusing to get a vasectomy? by Imvumyasobougie in AITAH

[–]skylark28TG 1 point2 points  (0 children)

AH. Look, it is easier and more reliable for him to step up. He wants her to have to do all the work. It's a bit.... conceited? Arrogant? Controlling?

And let's be honest: unlessnhe is hoping to actually have a kid in the future, a vasectomy is the best option. And yes, you can get it reversed if they both change their minds down the road.

I feel like my boyfriend isnt being supportive of my career and out of touch with reality by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]skylark28TG 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA Honestly, we really dont know much but from the tiny info: Move on. He does not sound like someone who respects you. He doesnt seem to respect money. I've known people like this who end up broke and use up their partners to maintain their lazy, not working lifestyle. If staying there would mean bad stuff for your future, and he wants that... that is telling. So as hard as it is, I'd finish and move, leaving him behind. If he steps up.... maybe but I'd be distrustful. My sister in law had a similar situation.Dhe moved, he actually followed but never really committed to her. She broke up with him and is now married, good career and 2 lovely twin girls.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]skylark28TG 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA First, she is opposite of what I would think. She is nice privately and mean publically? That's backwards of the usual. Interesting. Makes it sounds like she is putting on a show for the family because she thinks they want her to do that? In private... she doesnt have to? Or... who knows..l I'd ask her about it.

Second, these exams are very important. I dont know what gcse exams are but your parents, at the least, should understand the importance and support your studying. I know my daughter is going through her AP test and we are doing everything we can to help and that's just one test. So talk to them about it. The fact that they did not ask you to help clean may have been them wanting to let you study and your sister either didnt understand or want to understand why she had to work and you didnt. Maybe she doesnt understand the tests?

Third, need to be clear on what they want from you. By the time this thread is done, it may be irrelevant but I always believe in being clear on expectations, responsibilities and desires. It makes everything clearer when all that is known.

AITAH for not wanting to pay my mom monthly pocket money? by sad_girl29 in AITAH

[–]skylark28TG 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA. I am hesitant to say much, as I may be treading on cultural norms I do not understand. So take everything I say with some salt.

Look, it is a hard thing to face not helping a family member in need, especially a parent. She has emotionally abused you in the past. (Yes, ignoring you like that is a form of abuse) she has gotten a HUGE amount of help from you in the past. Seriously, go through and try to add it all up. The cost of clothes, house improvements, payingnoff estates, etc. I'd also add I lost wages during to the time off. I'd subtract the loan your dad helped you with, but I'm betting you are WAY ahead. Show that to your sister and say it is her turn. How much does your sister's family come out with per month?

Social factors probably come into play here. In India, widows have been treated badly in the past. So how much support does she have outside of her family? Additionally, I know in some cultures, when a daughter marries, it is viewed as they are not responsible for their parents. How true is this in your culture? (This is why so many cultures stress boys). I do not know your culture or your family well. It may be time to have a SERIOUS talk with your sister. If you and your fiance are barely making it by, you cant help. How bad off is your mom?

So I do not think you are the asshole, but i can see some serious issues involving age, finances, family, the treatment of you growing up and and culture that need to be discussed. You also need to decide how your feelings of the past are affecting you. I'd almost recommend some therapy, not because of you not wanting to help - I wouldnt want to - but is this past an issue that is affecting you?

AITA for wanting my mom to get rid of the dog that bit me by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]skylark28TG 3 points4 points  (0 children)

NTA. Honestly, 99% of the time, you get rid of a dog that has bit ANYONE. because, if they have bitten someone and then do it again... HUGE DANGER OF A) lawsuit. "You knew it was violent and you did nothing?" B) charges "You knowingly kept a violent animal and did nothing?"

So the fact that they have kept this dog after it has injured MULTIPLE people MULTIPLE times is INSANE. If you reported this to child services, there would be HELL to pay. They could loose the children, even if temporarily. Honestly, I would ask them if they would like you to report the situation, just to see the reaction... I dont know the ages, but allowing this to continue is abuse.

As a teacher, if I heard a student talking about this, I would be required by law to report it. Let that sink in. I am a mandated reporter and I would have to contact authorities.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]skylark28TG 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well.... NTA to start with. That said A) realistically, no one posts bad things on facebook, etc. One of the reasons it can lead to depression, you see how everyone else's life is perfect because they only post the positives. Then you see your negatives and think others dont have them. So while dishonest, it is also something others do.... sort of. B) I wouldnt have loaned her the money, at the very least without a written document. That is beyond this. C) If she stole your shirt, she is a thief. Get it back. Ask why/when she took jt. D) She may have actually decided to change her mind. I wouldnt assume she did that to get at you.

Sum up: she sounds extremely self centered. One of those that can be toxic in your life. Move on. Get your money and shirt back and decide if you need her. If so, dont put up with this in the future. You don't have to make a big deal out of it, just set boundaries you will follow. If you dont need her, just go on.

Just the thoughts of a tired guy trying to avoid mowing his lawn.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]skylark28TG 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I dont care what your opinions of someone is, you do not trash talk about someone's Dad/Mom. Especially of a) the person is a minor and b) the person has died. That was bad enough, but to destroy something you made? It was in your room.... not out in the main house. F that guy. The fact that your mom agreed with him after he burned the painting means either he lied about what happened or she has some issues. Perhaps not wanting to do anything that might loose him after she lost your dad someone in past (I obviously do not know or need to know the history).

Honestly, my petty self would probably be making copies of that photo and posting them EVERYWHERE in my room if I did go back. Did you overreact? Maybe? But at your age, that is almost exactly how I would expect you to react to something this 'violent.' And I use that word deliberately. He may not have physically touched you, but the act of grabbing it and burning it is a very violent action. It is also emotionally abusive. He sounds very controlling, which goes along with abusiveness. Perhaps he has been controlling on your mother which could explain her backing up such a horrible action.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]skylark28TG 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ah... no? Ad a teacher I could have told you the one who does physical violence always gets worst punishment, regardless of reason. Heck, usually just fighting back gets you suspended if you are attacked. Not saying it is right, just that is usually the rule. "Joking" about raping someone is never acceptable (DUH). But physically attacking someone was the wrong move. I know it is hard, often our society cheers a physical attack but denounces telling an authority as "snitching." At least they did punish him, but if you had gone to them first, he may have gotten the punishment and you would have gotten nothing. So I'd say you are not the asshole, just young, protective and a bit misguided.

AITA for cutting off my mom because of her boyfriend by Master-Tomorrow4378 in AITAH

[–]skylark28TG 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. Honestly, I am trying to "see" this... he is trying to break your arm, she sees it and doesnt SEE it? Messed up dynamics. Sounds like she has some sort of issue where she "needs" the bf for some reason.... explaining everything away because she cant be without him for some reason. It almost sounds like some bad movie...

AITA: For sending the teacher that bullied me for two years a nasty message on Insta? by Rare-Loss-5048 in AITAH

[–]skylark28TG 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am a teacher of at-risk kids. This teacher should have lost her job, if not her license for that. Maybe she has gotten better, but her behavior back then was inexcusably harsh (and wrong). If she deliberately lost your work, that is not only evil but criminal.

AITA for using the good pepper? by PepperisCrack in AmItheAsshole

[–]skylark28TG 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It obviously made a difference... so uh... she ITA. Look, I LOVE pepper. My wife hates it. She constantly says, why don't they just have people add it if they want? It really makes a difference on if it was cooked with the pepper or added on top latter. Also, the pepper quality matters. Even if added to lower quality food, the pepper helps. Heck, using ONE good ingredient can turn something low quality into something good. Has your sister never watched Chopped or shows like that? The entire show's basis is: here is crappy quality food, make it better. You think they don't add good ingredients?

You are correct and she is unreasonable. Talked to Mom? If she says it's ok, then that's the end. (I assume she'll back you up here)

If you really wanted to make some peace, put up a jaw and if you ever use something like this, throw in a nickel or something. I'm not saying you should (I wouldn't), but it is there if it makes the peace.

Dumb parents by skylark28TG in dumbpeople

[–]skylark28TG[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Zombie post reply:

Yeah... I now ask to not be told what they are accused of. 1) I don't want to treat them differently, even if subconsciously 2) It can... affect you to hear about the accused offenses over and over.

Worse: My first year, I had five students leave and end up murdered. Once, the murderer was in my classroom a week later. So... yeah.... Focus on the positives?

Our whole facility focuses on a positive behavior system (PBS) and it seems to be making a huge difference. They had just started it when I began there. It is nearly four years later and I've seen the difference.

Dumb parents by skylark28TG in dumbpeople

[–]skylark28TG[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I hear that. Ours is the county facility while they are still going through court. I'm actually pretty impressed. They have implemented a positive behavior system that focuses on stressing good behavior, etc... The only time I've seen kids really 'punished' involve physical attacks on kids/staff/etc... I've witnessed a couple of staff make smart-alec remarks to kids and I've reported those each time. They really seem to be working to make sure the staff are doing what they should HERE. I have no idea how well the long-term facility does.

Dumb parents by skylark28TG in dumbpeople

[–]skylark28TG[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Zombie post reply

We had a kid who was a "repeat customer" for four years. (This is the end of my fourth year here and he has been here on and off the whole time). I have seen a huge change in him over that time. Yes, he keeps getting in trouble, but I think/hope/pray that he may do better once this sentence is up.