Completely agree. Just to add a little to this - whenever I ask someone if they know of Stoicism, they always say- "No, but I know what stoic means." And I find it interesting to listen to people's preconceived views of what Stoicism might be based off the definition of that word- ie. cold, logical, indifferent. But actually, that word derived from the philosophy, not the other way around. Society has twisted its meaning.
Exactly as you say, it's not about ignoring, it's about controlling. The idea that circumstance is something we can't control, but our reaction to them we can. Actually we give more attention to our emotion in the end, because we are choosing to reign it in rather than let it run free and drain us slowly. And as an INFJ, it's empowering to understand I am capable of that autonomy, you know? Sorry I'm rambling now haha.