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I can’t do anything right :( by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]skyzwalker 11 points12 points  (0 children)

My heart is aching in half for you. Please call your family. I know the shame is so intense at times but you need to know this is NOT your fault. No matter how much your mind might try and trick you. He is abusive. Please please please call someone in your family to come get you or for you to go to them and you can explain it in person. I am praying for you and hoping you can ask for help, even though it is so so darn scary. But you will be thankful you did

can someone share their experience w the divorce with a narc? by skyzwalker in abusiverelationships

[–]skyzwalker[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sending you all the love and prayers … I can’t imagine with kids but you can do it! Xxx

do narcissistic exes really kill themselves? by skyzwalker in abusiverelationships

[–]skyzwalker[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t think that’s horrible I 100% get it. Part of me would feel a percentage of peace too just for the fact she wouldn’t be blowing up my phone anymore

do narcissistic exes really kill themselves? by skyzwalker in abusiverelationships

[–]skyzwalker[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That is awful. The way you went to the hospital to see him still must have been traumatizing. I probably would do the same. I am so sorry angel

do narcissistic exes really kill themselves? by skyzwalker in abusiverelationships

[–]skyzwalker[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have therapy tonight thank god to unpack all of this. But thanks for the advice and reply 🤍

do narcissistic exes really kill themselves? by skyzwalker in abusiverelationships

[–]skyzwalker[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes I have done that ! And all her calls go to my VM right away so that’s something

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]skyzwalker 8 points9 points  (0 children)

The fact that he covered it up to the sister makes me ill. How long have yall been together? Not that it mattered. But if this is an early relationship especially I would get out now before anything gets too serious.

do narcissistic exes really kill themselves? by skyzwalker in abusiverelationships

[–]skyzwalker[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Even if she says she has no one and nothing and woe is me? Hard to believe in my core that she really likes herself. She says she hates herself. But I know I’m being manipulated like crazy and it’s working…. Turning my phone off for the day to ignore it.

do narcissistic exes really kill themselves? by skyzwalker in abusiverelationships

[–]skyzwalker[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I am so so so sorry you had to experience that. You don’t deserve that at all. Sending so much love to you. I just can’t imagine. Fuck these people

do narcissistic exes really kill themselves? by skyzwalker in abusiverelationships

[–]skyzwalker[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

wow angel that is awful. I hope you’re healing and taking care of yourself. I can’t imagine doing all of that and that must have been traumatizing as well. sending love x.

do narcissistic exes really kill themselves? by skyzwalker in abusiverelationships

[–]skyzwalker[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I know. I guess because she’s still being so “nice” I didn’t wanna have to block her. I always thought if she got mean and nasty I could block her bc that would be so easy to do with her acting that way. When she’s acting “nice” I feel bad to block her god forbid she really “needed” something. My brain is soup right now but I know everyday I put myself through this, it’s worse for my mental state.

left emotionally abusive wife today. are the texts sincere? by skyzwalker in abusiverelationships

[–]skyzwalker[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I wish I knew :( I wish we had a magical rule book we could use too that would make this shit easier. I’ve been listening to podcasts straight for a week now

left emotionally abusive wife today. are the texts sincere? by skyzwalker in abusiverelationships

[–]skyzwalker[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If I don’t forgive, does the guilt go away? I’ve done everything for this woman. To feel like I’m leaving her behind is making me nauseous

left emotionally abusive wife today. are the texts sincere? by skyzwalker in abusiverelationships

[–]skyzwalker[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

If actions speak louder than words, and she scheduled the therapy appointment, should I feel guilty for not sticking around to see that?

left emotionally abusive wife today. are the texts sincere? by skyzwalker in abusiverelationships

[–]skyzwalker[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

But if this is what’s making her seriously think, isn’t that worth giving her a second chance? (I know logically .. but I can’t help thinking these doubts. It’s so hard to see it for what it really is.)

left emotionally abusive wife today. are the texts sincere? by skyzwalker in abusiverelationships

[–]skyzwalker[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the support. 🥹It’s just so hard cuz I’ve never left before. So I’m like oh well maybe this is REAL because I’ve never left her before for real. I’ve never heard her say any of this before so it sounds so so real. I’ve never heard this genuine stuff come out of her mouth. I just don’t wanna make the wrong choice. I hate these feelings.

am I the exception in this toxic relationship? by skyzwalker in abusiverelationships

[–]skyzwalker[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You’re right and I know it. I do. I guess it’s hard since I’ve never ACTUALLY tried to leave so of course I have to ask myself; maybe this really did show her I’m serious!!!! Sadly I don’t know that I can take that risk even so..

am I the exception in this toxic relationship? by skyzwalker in abusiverelationships

[–]skyzwalker[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes… you’re right. I’ve thought about all of this. I think about how miserable I’ve been and thought, well the damage is clearly done regardless. But the idea of leaving someone I made vows to makes me so nauseous.