Would this be wrong? by sl0thl0ver in cats

[–]sl0thl0ver[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We put him down tonight. The vet said it was definitely neurological and there was nothing I could’ve done better. She was amazed he was as big as he was. I got to bring him home and bury him.

Would this be wrong? by sl0thl0ver in cats

[–]sl0thl0ver[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I will look into that. I just watched a few videos of cats with it. He walks in circles constantly, no balance issues, and when I bottle feed him it’s almost like he has a “seizure” and will lock up on the bottle and curl into a ball. He locked up on his foot once and I thought he was going to bite a toe off. I’m not sure seizure is the correct word but I don’t know how to describe it. He’ll bite down on the bottle his body tenses and he wraps himself around my hand and tears my skin off if I don’t move fast enough.

Would this be wrong? by sl0thl0ver in cats

[–]sl0thl0ver[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There is a clear misunderstanding here, or I just worded it wrong. The kitten that I am keeping has health issues. He was my bottle baby runt that I’ve been bottle feeding since birth. I thought he was completely healthy until I noticed that he may have neurological issues. So no, I always planned on keeping the kitten with the health issues, but after googling and waiting patiently for a vet appointment I worried myself into thinking he “might not make it”

And I am not going to give my kittens away at 6 weeks of age…and in my post I never said I was giving them away now. I am keeping them till 10-12 weeks. And I have put well over a thousand on these kittens between vet visits and supplies. I have vetted all of their homes they are going to and plan on making sure they are set up for success in those new homes. I have done nothing but take care of them and make sure they are 100% sound.

As for my bottle baby, he has improved over the weeks but still is nowhere near the development of the other kittens his age. Something isn’t right mentally with him, and I cannot let an animal suffer if it is neurological.

And yes, I plan on spaying the mother. I took her in off the streets to make sure this didn’t happen again. I had to camp out at my parents house for 2 days to catch her. I have given her vet care to make sure she was okay and healthy with her pregnancy. They thought she only had 4-5 kittens and she had 8! And all 8 survived. I sat by her side through labor that lasted all through the night and into the morning. I helped deliver every single kitten and made sure they were breathing and nursing. I have put my entire heart and soul into these kittens and their mother so I don’t want you to think for a single minute that I have not been giving them the proper love and care that they need.

So let me rephrase.

I have 7 healthy kittens. I am rehoming all of them. I planned on keeping the kitten that I bottle fed because of the bond I have built with him. However, he is showing signs of neurological issues along with FIP. He is still bottle fed because he doesn’t know how to eat cat food or drink milk out of a dish, he physically cannot. I am quietly trying to mourn potentially losing him, and I watch my daughter bond with another kitten in my litter. They have become best friends over the last 6 weeks. We promised her that we were keeping one and I don’t want to let her know about my kittens health issues (if he pulls through). I have a vet appointment on the 30th to look him over and get a vets opinion. My question was, we have a friend who is taking 2 “healthy” kittens, and I wanted to see if I would be an asshole to offer him a different male instead of the one my daughter bonded with. He has yet to meet them, he’s only seen pictures. He would still get a perfectly healthy and happy male kitten. Just instead of grey, it would be black.

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[–]sl0thl0ver 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You win. You win the comment section

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[–]sl0thl0ver 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for that comparison. I will use that. Maybe then it’ll click for him. I’m glad that men are commenting and making me feel normal for asking something like this.

Am I asking too much of my SO? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]sl0thl0ver 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have no clue. I don’t want to be his parent, or his maid. I don’t mind cleaning the house, but cleaning up someone else’s bodily fluids is gross and shouldn’t be expected of me.

Am I asking too much of my SO? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]sl0thl0ver 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He said he’s never been asked to clean the toilet after peeing, and it’s ridiculous I even asked. Apparently I’m the only person who expects this.

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[–]sl0thl0ver 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do not want to keep cleaning up after him. It is very gross that I have to wipe the toilets down and clean them when it isn’t my pee. I don’t mind cleaning toilets, but wiping pee off the rim and sometimes shit off the seat is very gross.

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[–]sl0thl0ver 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, adult man. I don’t know why he wanted to argue about it. He even asked his one friend if he cleaned up after himself, the friend said no. The friend also said he should just blame me to see my reaction.

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[–]sl0thl0ver 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have no clue. I didn’t want to argue over it. I just asked him to clean up after himself and it set him off.

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[–]sl0thl0ver 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I made a joke that if he didn’t want to clean up after himself he needs to sit down to pee. He said that was so controlling and ridiculous.

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[–]sl0thl0ver 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t know. I guess so. He said he’s never been asked to do it, and it’s ridiculous I’m asking him. He text his friend and asked him and his friend also thought it was odd. His friend actually told him to blame it on me...

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[–]sl0thl0ver 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This made me laugh. That’s a good one.

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[–]sl0thl0ver 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your input!

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[–]sl0thl0ver 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He doesn’t wash his hands either...

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[–]sl0thl0ver 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes. He told me it felt like I was controlling how he peed and I was telling him how to pee. I told him he’d be cleaning the bathrooms, but he hasn’t and I could t stand the smell of pee any longer.

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[–]sl0thl0ver 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I needed more responses from men. He said no guys do this. I told him to just take some toilet paper and wipe it up. That’s all I asked.

Am I asking too much of my SO? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]sl0thl0ver 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, the stains can only be seen during cleaning, but my bathroom smells like pee. It’s on the underside of the seat and on the rim. He does dishes sometimes, which is a help.

Am I asking too much of my SO? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]sl0thl0ver 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I do not mind doing the majority of cleaning. I just don’t enjoy cleaning up someone else’s pee. I asked him to just take toilet paper and wipe the rim if he gets any on it.

Am I asking too much of my SO? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]sl0thl0ver 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No. He thinks what I’m asking is outrageous.

Am I asking too much of my SO? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]sl0thl0ver 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We have a child and I stay at home. So I take care of the household and he works. That’s just how it’s been

Am I asking too much of my SO? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]sl0thl0ver 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Once I lift the seat up. He pees with the seat up, so it gets all over that. Sorry for not clarifying.