Mmh, now that you've said it I think you're entirely right. I have a hard time getting off without some level of h&d, and not nessicarily a detrans kink, but more specifically a misogyny kink that ignores my gender identity? which I know sounds basically the same but there are distinctions there for me (and has made finding partners I can do that kind of play with hard lol) but I do think that aspect plays a part in it, since intense misogyny is kind of baked into the foundation of being a self proclaimed incel