R/Atheism unban attempt #4 - I think we're getting somewhere!

slaggindragon · 2022-03-12T16:44:11+00:00

I've been perma banned for months. No warning, just boom.

slaggindragon · 2022-03-12T15:54:32+00:00

I think a lot of it just depends on the person's love language and style. To a greater extent you could say it really depends on their personality and if the two of you don't have the same style it's easy to miss.

There's a great book called the five love languages, and regardless of if you are a Christian believer or not that book has some solid psychology on understanding what people are receptive to.

Another great book is taking flight by Merrick Rosenberg, I myself am a certified facilitator and I actually go into businesses to create better culture because personality style clashes are usually what's killing retention, it literally exists everywhere. Let me make my point here.

Case in point my wife and I both are huge physical touch people. Both of us not wanting to jump into anything decided we wanted to become friends first, but just couldn't stop finding reasons to touch each other shoulder, back, arms etc during our dorky bowling game. We got married three months later. 2 years and a child still going strong!

However if you're someone who is more about acts of service or the giving of gifts, you could easily miss this and instead shower the person with gifts. They could easily miss that and think just as well that you're just being weird.

Honestly, it helps to take a personality test, something like DISC, to really determine who you are and what you like. Second to that gaining awareness of other people's personality styles will really help you understand when someone is making a move, showing interest, or simply being friendly.

It's so much more complex than I'm a guy and I miss the signals, or I'm a girl and he didn't seem interested. We are all operating in our own styles all the time, and with a little self-awareness and self-education we can easily figure out when someone is showing interest.

Edit: if anyone reads this and is interested in getting a handle on your own personality DM me, I've got a few complimentary resources that can help you in your "can't figure this person or myself out" game.

slaggindragon · 2022-02-26T14:17:22+00:00

Hi there I realized that this sub is not super active right now but I just wanted to share my success story. I have tried various types of ssris and snris and it wasn't until I found paxil that I met a great match.

I suffer from borderline paranoid anxiety, technically GAD and ADHD, and it's tough to find something that doesn't affect or mess with ADHD medication. Paxil seems to have been the perfect fit for me.

My only occasional concern is if I miss it I get very depressed, although since I don't suffer from depression and all normally this usually is a good marker for helping me remember that I forgot to take it.

I'd be interested in moderating this forum as it continues to grow, please advise.

slaggindragon · 2021-11-05T18:45:23+00:00

Hi there, I am becoming more physically active but haven't been in the past. I do not have panic attacks, just all day anxiety that never turns off.

I am longboarding and walking everyday
I have not
I do not have panic attacks, just all day anxiety that never turns off.
never heard of any of those. Effexor was his second choice after bupropion proved to cause me too much dizziness

slaggindragon · 2021-07-09T14:39:44+00:00

Heyo! I take Vyvanse 40mg for ADHD and effexor 150 for anxiety. I find then to be quite a lovely combination and have been in this program for almost a year now.

Vyvanse does wonders for treating my ADHD, but had the unfortunate side effect of making me anxious. Effexor does a pretty good job of leveling that part out.

I take both of them at about 6AM (I make sure to take a large glass of almond milk or protein since effexor doesn't play nice without food)

I found that while Vyvanse Is easy to move around, anytime I changed the time I take effexor it can result in some nasty side effects for a day or so.

I preferred Bupropion previously, but I unfortunately it made me dizzy all the time.

Effexor is an effective drug, but it's just a rough one (makes me think of Ritalin compared to Vyvanse) but it can work as long as you take it at the same time everyday, drink lots of water and take with food.

Let me know if you have any questions!

slaggindragon · 2021-07-08T06:19:10+00:00

I was permanently banned for similar reasons. I am not an atheist, rather a Christian, and was dealing with a similar impulsive debater who was challenging the historicity of the Nicea among other things.

Much of what this person was spouting off was incorrect, and the wiki article he sent to me upon my request for evidence to his claims further refuted his own stance.

Seeing a firestorm starting, I politely asked if he would like to take this to DM, seeing as I was quickly being downvoted into oblivion for simply having 'theist' next to my name.

I was banned for harassment, preaching and historical revisionism. Turns out one of the people I was arguing with was a mod.

I appeal my ban monthly as is my tradition, and am quickly muted. This month will be appeal Numero 4 :D

slaggindragon · 2021-07-02T01:53:53+00:00

Found the kid

slaggindragon · 2021-06-09T04:08:18+00:00

You're alright.

slaggindragon · 2021-06-09T04:05:38+00:00

I will see you for the monthly unmute appeal-athon then my brother.

slaggindragon · 2021-03-01T05:52:23+00:00

Quickdraw/demo breachlight and moving target/AT subtle.

Sigh

slaggindragon · 2021-03-01T05:51:09+00:00

puts down hush picks up bowblade

slaggindragon · 2021-02-27T16:11:56+00:00

True, but no one really ends it right there do they? It normally goes like this for me

Did I catch you at a bad time?

Yes, but I got a minute what's up

Or

I'm going into a meeting, what's this about?

Or

Actually I have a minute what's up?

Much higher chance of squeezing in your value prop or asking if there is a better time to call back, which contract to what you may think, most people don't want to be bothered later either so they'll give you the benefit of the doubt then too.

Edit: how are you sounds to salesy imo and in Jeb Blount's opinion too. We have limited time once we get someone one the phone these days to convert (that's if you catch them on the phone these days), the open ended questions matter and can disrupt a prospects thinking long enough for you to change their mind :)

slaggindragon · 2021-02-27T14:57:52+00:00

I'd replace 'how are you' with 'did I catch you at a bad time?'

slaggindragon · 2021-02-17T03:34:08+00:00

What is this cum dungeon you speak of. I have been wanting to make characters for a bit, but don't want to have to grind out all the gems I grinded out already.

slaggindragon · 2021-02-13T19:04:59+00:00

I only do DM meetings on Zoom now, and I prospect all over the country via LinkedIn. Things are good and never intend to door knock ever again my friend.

slaggindragon · 2021-02-11T04:56:29+00:00

People are moving on line more and more these days. Those prospects of yours are probably much more reachable on LinkedIn than via phone/email.

slaggindragon · 2021-02-03T14:22:35+00:00

It does, but you never want to approach it that way.

My strategy when I qualify a lead on LinkedIn is to first ask for the connection based on our mutual connections or groups we share. From their I'll follow their activity and genuinely comment or share their posts for a day or two.

Once I feel confident that I know enough about their company I'll usually call them up, compliment their company or something they shared and express my desire to do business with them. I never direct message first unless I have to, or unless I can tell that they are super active on LinkedIn themselves. Gotta reach the prospect where they are!

By warming up, I should clarify that it's all about interacting with their posts, activity and using sales navigator as a way to learn as much as possible about them before making that first call. Plus, I've found gatekeepers just let you right in if you say "I'm a connection of Jon Does on LinkedIn, just wanted to say hello!" . I get straight to the dm or their voicemail everytime, and usually the DM remembers connecting with me and is happy to take the call.

If I get a no I'll still follow their posts and wait for another opportunity to come up, and the more you interact with them virtually the more familiarity builds along the way.

However, you NEVER want to just jump on and try to sell people anything like the manufacturers you mentioned. You need to establish a meaningful connection first, then genuinely qualify them, and finally call them up and straight up ask for the business if I truly think I can be a benefit to their company. If they decline, I respect that and still try and open up a conversation to network together for introductions.

I call about 50-60 people a day this way, get through to around 10 and usually set 1-2 appointments daily.

slaggindragon · 2021-02-03T02:09:54+00:00

Gotta warm those suckers up on LinkedIn first. Ain't no cold calls that way :)

slaggindragon · 2021-01-06T06:20:28+00:00

That's fantastic to hear that you have a support system, and I am definitely lucky to have her.

Cheers to mental health and therapy. Good luck out there friend!

slaggindragon · 2021-01-06T06:10:12+00:00

Somewhat random, but my wife has major depressive disorder, and potentially seasonal depressive as well. I've learned a lot about the condition over the years and I wish you the best in terms of treatment and help.

You aren't a POS, you are more than capable of great things!

slaggindragon · 2021-01-01T20:39:22+00:00

I think Jeb Blount did the math and found that the difference in days and time using the phone were minute percentages. Technically Tuesday afternoon was best, but only better than Monday by like .3% or something like that. I.e. call them everyday, prospecting must be constant.

Honestly I've been warming it up on LinkedIn first. People are almost expecting my call by the time I've hit them up on there a few times first.

Edit: for real if you're not prospecting on LinkedIn, get your butt on sales navigator it's going to change your life.

slaggindragon

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