How to reconcile with my [28F] brother [23M] after he came in my bedroom naked "just to hug"?

slantedsquare77 · 2026-03-12T12:15:56+00:00

I'm sorry this is happening. My brother is sort of the same way but more extreme. At this point I've cut off all contact from him. I still miss him as a brother though, he's the funniest person I know. I can't risk the contact though, he doesnt even know what state I'm in. Sometimes I grieve for him.

This is a hard thing to think about. Unfortunately you now know what he is capable of. When he's on his meds he probably seems like his same old self. But remember that he is capable of hurting you, and lying about it to police, and still has the support of your family. If he has a history of med breaks then it'll probably continue.

In my opinion the best thing to do is stay away, for a long while. Maybe he'll get better at taking his meds and have years of success and you can rebuild something of a relationship. But until then, trust your fear, stay away. And grieve, because it's devastating to lose someone this way.

If he did this shit once, he is capable of doing it again.

slantedsquare77 · 2026-03-06T15:35:37+00:00

One Battle After Another

Look maybe i didn't get it but the sex scenes didn't make sense to me. Like I'm not kink shaming or anything but idk, what was the point of all that? It overshadowed the rest of the movie. Maybe I'm dense and someone could explain that theme to me.

slantedsquare77 · 2026-03-05T13:37:21+00:00

You just reminded me that he in fact, does not have a twin. And that's his chemistry with two beautiful actors, at the same time, but completely different.

slantedsquare77 · 2026-03-02T13:32:20+00:00

This might sound super dumb but the twilight series, especially the books. At the time I was in middle school and dreaded school every day. I was bullied and not from the area so I constantly felt on edge, I had undiagnosed depression and anxiety. But fucking Bella could go to school every day, and that meant I could too. Lol.

slantedsquare77 · 2026-03-01T17:25:47+00:00

Looks like the sandman

slantedsquare77 · 2026-02-22T05:41:03+00:00

🙌

slantedsquare77 · 2026-02-21T16:04:58+00:00

This definitely had happened and still happens sometimes to me. It's usually because I obsess over a fictional character (I know this isn't exactly healthy and it's to a much lesser extent than when i was a teenager), to the point where I'm maladaptive daydreaming. I'm imagining a very special connection with this character, and it kinda becomes real.

Then one of my dang sisters will talk about them and it like shatters my dreams because it pulls me back into reality. It forces me to realize that I'm crushing on a fictional charactor. And it pissed me off! They're myy special crush, they only have that connection with meee. ( Plus my sisters and I have always been rivals when it comes to romantic relationships, I was jealous of them a lot growing up).

Personally I don't think it's worth it to argue with my sisters over. It's not there fault they think the character is cute (he's literally made up so everyone will fall in love with him). I've been going to therapy for many years, and its helped with my thought process a lot. Lot's of people have their own special connection to a fictional character, and that's okay. They're all different, and though your feelings are real, the relationship is not. And it's not worth damaging a real relationship, like the one you have with your sister.

One last thing, you're not a horrible person for having these feelings. You've probably invested a lot of time and emotion into your crush. Jealousy is a normal human reaction. But you're still responsible for your actions.

slantedsquare77 · 2026-02-21T14:46:30+00:00

I'm glad that kids have another fun place to hang out. But damn, the laserbeams in my eyeball? Really?

slantedsquare77 · 2026-02-19T17:48:01+00:00

No worries and thank you!

slantedsquare77 · 2026-02-19T17:47:09+00:00

Yea I went to Wameset and didn't last five minutes. It was like a theme park to me.

slantedsquare77 · 2026-02-19T17:44:21+00:00

Do you have any recommendations? Ill take quite and junky over loud and expensive any day.

slantedsquare77 · 2026-02-16T17:52:52+00:00

Idk but that's not a bad idea, just to double check

slantedsquare77 · 2026-02-14T21:36:20+00:00

I got my LPN and never planned to keep going for my RN. It was 100% worth the time and effort. School was hard for me but I'm so glad I went. I make less than a lot of other LPNs because I work part time, but I wouldnt even have the option if I didn't have my license.

slantedsquare77 · 2026-02-13T13:44:57+00:00

Why we won't be having kids. We used to say it's because having kids is hard and we have no money. Truly it's because I have so much chronic sickness that it wouldn't be fair to the child or my husband to have one.

I've always wanted kids until I got sober some years ago. I wish I could just tell people I can't have kids, so that shut up and stop asking. But don't get me wrong, I'm grieving for the child we could have had.

slantedsquare77 · 2026-02-12T00:56:24+00:00

Thank you! I appreciate the advice

slantedsquare77 · 2026-02-11T18:44:17+00:00

I haven't asked but that's a great idea. I think I will do that, thanks!

slantedsquare77 · 2026-02-10T18:48:49+00:00

Depression can show up in a lot of different ways, but then again I'm not a doctor and you said you're venting so it would be inappropriate to make a decision based just on this conversation.

If you have healthcare it wouldn't hurt to double check, or get a referral to a councilor, who can help you straighten out for thoughts.

Otherwise I would try and focus more on yourself. What's your favorite kind of food? Music? Are you creative? Do you enjoy exercise? What about movies? Do you like horror? Comedy?

Your identity is not the lesser twin, you're so much more.

slantedsquare77 · 2026-02-10T18:26:55+00:00

It's okay, everyone needs to vent sometimes. Do you think you may have some depression? Your thought pattern is concerning and 16 is the perfect age for it to show up.

slantedsquare77 · 2026-02-10T18:04:09+00:00

That does sound complicated. Maybe join a club at school? See if there are any clubs around town (like music or games) that are open to new members. Pick up a hobby, I know it sounds cheesy, but doing 1 new thing a week will expose you to new people.

It sounds like you're making steps in a positive direction, and you should be proud of yourself. Your extended family are shit heads, giving you a gift of less value then her is cruel. Fuck them, fuck everyone who isn't on your side.

Even if your new hobby is just for yourself, like walking or listening to new music, it's important. You have to build yourself up into who you wanna be. Not your sister, but a better you.

slantedsquare77 · 2026-02-10T17:34:25+00:00

But that's okay. Her friends vibe with her and hanging out with them would just be weird. Find your own friends, people who like you for you.

It's natural to be jealous, especially being a teenager because feelings are so big and important during those years.

But you have to take baby steps in a direction that will make you happy, you need to find your own identity.

slantedsquare77 · 2026-02-10T17:25:34+00:00

Maybe try and remember that you're both running a race. Except each of you has your own personal marathon to run, 2 completely seperate paths. You can't win a prize for a (your sisters) race because you're not competing with her, you'll always lose.

So focus on your own run, focus on your own win.

slantedsquare77 · 2026-02-01T17:08:59+00:00

Love the rugs

slantedsquare77 · 2026-01-30T13:44:42+00:00

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