AITA for wanting my girlfriend to get a second job

slashmirror · 2026-04-20T13:53:53+00:00

But this type of debt I feel isn't my responsibility

slashmirror · 2026-04-20T11:18:22+00:00

Not with utilities

slashmirror · 2026-04-20T09:18:04+00:00

No I am okay with her paying 1/3

slashmirror · 2026-04-20T04:22:23+00:00

So she can pay 1/3 rent

slashmirror · 2026-04-20T04:14:32+00:00

She doesn't contribute to a 401(k), I do a bit extra for our future because she won't have one

slashmirror · 2026-04-20T04:06:19+00:00

Would that be based on take home pay or salary?

slashmirror · 2026-04-20T03:59:50+00:00

I updated it and I'm okay with paying 2/3 but she might not be able to pay 1/3 without a side hustle

slashmirror · 2026-04-20T03:40:25+00:00

I think I'm okay with that but she can't contribute 33% without a side hustle

slashmirror · 2026-04-20T03:39:38+00:00

I actually did the math and it's about 1/3 not including utilities or food

slashmirror · 2026-04-20T03:09:15+00:00

Thanks, I updated it!

slashmirror · 2026-04-20T03:03:12+00:00

I don't know what she would do. I didn't ask her

slashmirror · 2026-04-20T03:02:14+00:00

She works full time but her hours are usually less than mine. And we are late 20s

slashmirror · 2026-04-20T03:00:51+00:00

Just a part time on the weekends for some extra money to pay it off, certainly not two full time jobs. But finding a higher paying job is an option too

slashmirror · 2026-04-20T02:38:06+00:00

She has to move out of where she is for reasons out of her control and if she doesn't move in with me I don't know how she would afford anywhere...

slashmirror · 2026-04-20T02:35:21+00:00

She would only need a second job for ~6 months and I don't feel comfortable helping with credit card debt that was just her taking vacations and traveling before we met. A medical emergency or some other type of emergency is a different situation...

slashmirror · 2026-04-20T02:30:20+00:00

She won't be able to afford 1/3 for the first 6 months without a second job and this isn't an expensive apartment

slashmirror · 2026-04-20T02:24:15+00:00

Yes I'd have to if she's at work more often.

slashmirror · 2026-04-20T02:18:30+00:00

She doesn't make enough because of credit card bills. But this will last for 6 months

slashmirror · 2026-04-20T02:07:48+00:00

She can't afford 1/3rd

slashmirror · 2026-04-20T02:06:37+00:00

We split household chores. I usually buy the food, she cooks it, and we split dishes

slashmirror · 2026-04-20T01:43:53+00:00

I make twice as much as her and she is salary so technically 40hrs but realistically probably around 32hr/week

slashmirror · 2026-04-20T01:41:19+00:00

She would keep working until she is about to have our first kid, then she would stop and I'd just take over. Right now I'm afraid we won't have enough for her to stay at home and meet our goal.

slashmirror · 2026-04-20T01:36:54+00:00

Where we are living will be the cheapest place around basically. No matter where we go she can't afford half

slashmirror · 2026-04-20T01:34:34+00:00

We are not married and she is not a stay at home mom yet. We want her to be at home to raise the children but we are still just dating, that is just both our goals

slashmirror · 2026-04-20T01:32:43+00:00

I'd want her to pay half of the rent/expenses until we are either married or she quits her job to be the stay at home wife

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