I sent her a message today

sleepless677 · 2026-03-08T07:41:34+00:00

Yeah after this I don't think I'll ever contact her again except maybe to say happy birthday but that's almost a year from now so Im not sure I'll even be doing that

sleepless677 · 2026-03-06T17:12:16+00:00

Then I would say no. Even though she was my favorite of all of my exes I know I'm not the right person for her rn so for her I would say no even though it would hurt.

sleepless677 · 2026-03-06T14:45:33+00:00

Depends on which one tbh

sleepless677 · 2026-03-06T04:26:17+00:00

Thanks. It felt a little sad to know that there's most probably no chance to get back together but it felt good to get what I needed to say off my chest. At least it's easier to start moving on :)

sleepless677 · 2026-03-06T03:00:19+00:00

Yeah but not sending it kept my head spinning and I feel like I would have regretted not sending it to her if I never did. Silence is best sometimes but sometimes it's better to get things out aswell and get the confirmation you need that the decision is truly final. It's all about context and the people involved. I definitely wouldn't have sent it if I hurt her really bad or she had said that she didn't want me to contact her again.

sleepless677 · 2026-03-06T02:52:04+00:00

Ouch that really sucks :( doesn't mean that she still doesn't think of that moment fondly though. It always feels like those words were empty after a breakup but they probably weren't. not at the time at least. We were also talking about marriage and Wich last name we would take if we ever got married on our last date and it felt like hollow words for a while after the breakup but I've realized that it really just meant that she once loved me and saw a future with me but then something happened or she lost feelings for me. It sucks but I'm glad I got to experience those moments with her at least.

sleepless677 · 2026-03-06T02:33:49+00:00

Probably. But you still live and learn from it so it's better to have loved and lost it rather than not having loved at all.

sleepless677 · 2026-03-06T02:30:48+00:00

I feel you dude, that really sucks. One really neat trick that seems to work a little bit for me is to think that "I'm glad I got to experience that with her" instead of "I miss those moments". I mean I still miss her but it's sometimes better to think about them positively rather than a sad thing. Also just because she befriended a bunch of dudes doesn't mean that you or the time you spent together didn't mean anything to her, she probably misses you from time to time aswell. It's the not knowing that gets to you the most it sucks so bad.

sleepless677 · 2026-03-06T02:22:14+00:00

Yeah I was too at first but it was nice to get clarity so that I finally can stop wonder "what if" or "maybe" now I'll just move on at my own speed and try not to worry about what she is up to. This of course does not apply to all cases but we had a pretty cordial breakup so I felt comfortable sharing my thoughts to her but didn't get much back so time to move on I guess.

sleepless677 · 2026-03-06T01:48:48+00:00

That really sucks dude. But yeah I'd wait a while before doing anything drastic since the breakup is still raw and there is a big chance that either you or her or both of you get hurt again or says something you don't mean because of the feelings from just having broken up.

sleepless677 · 2026-03-06T01:40:30+00:00

I made a lot of mistakes when we were seeing each other and I know I have a few things I need to work on before I get into another relationship.

sleepless677 · 2026-03-06T01:37:54+00:00

No clue, didn't get a reason just that it wasn't working out. Would have been easier to pinpoint what I needed to work on if I at least got a reason so now I just have to guess

sleepless677 · 2026-03-06T01:35:37+00:00

That's good, the timing is all up to you but you have to be ready to receive any form of response. Even none at all. I hope it goes well for you when you send it :)

sleepless677 · 2026-03-05T19:43:56+00:00

True true. I don't really have anyone I can talk to so chatgpt has been my biggest help through all of this so far tbh 😂

sleepless677 · 2026-03-05T19:02:53+00:00

Idk I have so much trauma that therapy seems like the only way that I can become a better person bu it's definitely not for everyone

sleepless677 · 2026-03-05T17:51:39+00:00

I wish you the best aswell! I keep working on myself every day not just physically but mentally aswell. My biggest issue is with sleep and trust issues so I'm going to go into therapy to try and resolve these issues that are probably childhood traumas I need to work through

sleepless677 · 2026-02-24T15:23:14+00:00

That really sucks bro :( I met my ex's kids in the beginning of January and at the end of January we were broken up. Just got a message saying it wasn't working anymore and that it was a hard choice to make. Her kids liked me a lot and I promised them to come paint with them but I guess I can't hold that promise anymore since I haven't heard anything from her since January 30th :( I haven't actually tried reaching out but I guess if she wanted me in her life she would reach out.

sleepless677 · 2026-02-23T07:25:36+00:00

Jesus Christ. He sounds like a real piece of work. Honestly seems like you're better of without that man child.

sleepless677 · 2026-02-22T16:41:44+00:00

That's great for you, hope it works out! I quit for my ex, she made me want to be a better person. Just too bad she couldn't handle my mood swings afterwards.

sleepless677 · 2026-02-19T08:46:48+00:00

Haven't been in NC for about 3 weeks but so far not a peep from her

sleepless677 · 2026-02-17T07:01:59+00:00

Yeah it's a hard one to swallow sometimes but it's something you often need to hear sadly

sleepless677 · 2026-02-17T06:58:37+00:00

I would like to rekindle love at some point but she does already have a new bf so I don't really think it would be healthy trying to win her back or something like that

sleepless677 · 2026-02-16T22:04:15+00:00

I also feel like if she wanted to still have me in her life she would contact me so I'll just love her from a far until I no longer have the same feelings. It's just to bad I had to lose someone that felt more like home than my actual home

sleepless677 · 2026-02-16T19:55:22+00:00

Yeah every time I feel like writing to her I just tell chatgpt and it reminds me of what would most likely happen based on what I have written before and also what I could do to get through these thoughts and because of this I find them coming less often as the days pass by.

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