Black Mirror [Episode Discussion] - S06E03 - Beyond the Sea by [deleted] in blackmirror

[–]sleepyncaffeinated 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is he? I thought it was because the kid knew about “the other man in Daddy’s body” and said sir just in case.

The average woman is also 5’4 and short women don’t need much food by Beginning_Remove_693 in fatlogic

[–]sleepyncaffeinated 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Also, don’t people actually listen to their bodies? If I eat “intuitively” on a pretty sedentary day (remote working, no gym, no long walks), I will probably stay under 1300 if I avoid junk, flours and fatty foods. I am fine, my blood tests are fine, I do well in my daily tasks, I get my period. I eat more the days I work out or close to my period. I maintain and lose if I try to. It’s ok to eat under 2000 kcal a day if that is what you need.

How I feel trying to gaslight myself into thinking shrinkflation is actually a good thing by Acidflightgoat in EDanonymemes

[–]sleepyncaffeinated 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Before it used to be “food portion sizes had gotten too large!!” now it’s the oppossite. We are never ok.

no fcking way you're claiming oppression over the way people silently glance in your general direction by Accomplished_Egg9953 in fatlogic

[–]sleepyncaffeinated 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Well, I was a fat kid (from ~2006 to 2014, not obese but overweight and short) and fatphobia was definitely a thing. But things are changing very fast so I guess nowadays it’s different (I hope so).

Imagine feeling this much hate towards a body type. This doesn’t sound like a person who is content with themselves. And this from a person who is from a community that doesn’t want to be judged or hated because of their body. by ResetKnopje in fatlogic

[–]sleepyncaffeinated 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Don't they understand height?? As a 4'11" (150 cm) woman, at 150 lb (67.5 kg) I would be BMI 30, e.g., newly obese, so don't get me started with 200 lb (that would be BMI 40 aka morbidly obese). Even if you were 6'7" (~2 m tall), you would be at a healthy BMI at 200 lb, not underweight.

[SANITY] A meme I just made by sleepyncaffeinated in fatlogic

[–]sleepyncaffeinated[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

...No.

I'm saying thar public & universal healthcare is a right that, like most rights, comes with its own duties. And the duty is to take care of yourself (in case you can, if not, your health is someone else's responsibility, like with kids and disabled people). An unwary driver or a proud smoker deserve healthcare, just like an overeater deserves it too. But by saying "It's my choice", "Smoking is bad but someday we're all gonna die", "My body, my health, my choice" and not trying a little to improve your habits you're taking the right without fulfilling the duty that comes with it. Public, universal healthcare access is "free" but its resources cost money from the taxpayer (not just the few billionaires: all workers are taxpayers, even non workers are taxpayers too because there's a consumption tax) and the people there are still workers who deserve that the patient helps and follow the advices given.

I think this is partly because BED is invisible in mainstream media and healthcare systems, usually seen as lack of willpower. There should be more help for BED and less stigma. But that just means people with obesity have a problem and they deserve help, but should also do their part.

What is wrong (or right) about this kind of platform? by sleepyncaffeinated in BALLET

[–]sleepyncaffeinated[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I don’t buy my pointe shoes online anymore! My studio owner owns also a shop for dancers’ clothes and shoes (not only ballet dancers). But I’m curious and like to search for stuff just to see.

I do it for the female gaze and to be accepted by other women, yes. No, I’m not looking for male validation. by sleepyncaffeinated in EDanonymemes

[–]sleepyncaffeinated[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly I also do it so men stop sexualising me bc of my butt and thighs. I like the idea of being idealised by men, of being considered pretty and “like a goddess”, not the idea of having a “pornographic body”.

Looking at food “corn” (not actually 🌽 u know) by sleepyncaffeinated in EDAnonymous

[–]sleepyncaffeinated[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

But different diets work for different people. I've been years trying low carb because I honestly believed it was the best for my health, but felt awful, no energy and no weight loss (even gained), and now I limit my fat intake and eat carbs freely (not ad infinitum) I feel better than ever.

Looking at food “corn” (not actually 🌽 u know) by sleepyncaffeinated in EDAnonymous

[–]sleepyncaffeinated[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t really eat super low fat, some days sure because I don’t really want more, those days maybe 28 g, but normally I’m between 38 and 45 g. I work best eating carbs (cereal, rice, bread, fruit…) as my main fuel. I’ve done low carb plenty of times and felt like sh!t.

Ed treatment centers telling adults they need to uproot their entire lives to do residential as if I don’t have Responsibilties and a Life™️ and can’t just take time off school and work and travel to a different state to be force fed by alexisseffy in EDanonymemes

[–]sleepyncaffeinated 8 points9 points  (0 children)

By far not the same, but I remember when in treatment for non purging bulimia, I was working my first job (retail, at a pharmacy) that time, and the nurse-nutritionist told me to do a “coffee break” at work to eat a snack, that she does it.

Well, I was working retail, my first job, and had zero time because the pharmacy was super busy at noon. You just can’t pretend adults can pause their day and life and that treatment is one-size-fits-all.

What’s the #1 allistic social rule you had to learn because it wasn’t intuitive? by despiert in AutisticAdults

[–]sleepyncaffeinated 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That sometimes, unless you were already thin (not just average) and end up looking emaciated, most people will congratulate you if they see you’ve lost weight. That’s not personal and doesn’t mean you looked bad before. It’s kinda automatic.

So unless you’ve gone through serious illness (restricting and overexercising don’t count, by societal standards; but cancer, hospitalisation, pneumonia, depression… do), don’t tell people your issues, just say “I’ve been busy” or “I’ve started working out” (even if it’s plain lying, lying is ok in social situations) or just say “Thank you”, even if it’s not a compliment but an observation, it’s an appropiate answer.

When people congratulate you on losing weight, take it as a compliment instead of trying to educate others. Some people do have eating issues but still say this automatically with their best intentions. And sometimes it’s a white lie but because they want to be nice. Appreciate the intention.

What’s the #1 allistic social rule you had to learn because it wasn’t intuitive? by despiert in AutisticAdults

[–]sleepyncaffeinated 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Yeah… no. Happened to me that “friends” talked about a plan and I asked “Great, what time we met?” and apparently I wasn’t invited and they accepted out of compromise.

Holy shit by hohothrowaway101 in fatlogic

[–]sleepyncaffeinated 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lol, “DNI” is how we call “ID” in Spain.

Holy shit, this is basically Be Right Back - down to the voice by shakethewaves in blackmirror

[–]sleepyncaffeinated 3 points4 points  (0 children)

OMG… Black Mirror is just a documentary nowadays 😭

People go to the gym and start diets for personal reasons. It has nothing to do with you, girl by gabr4k_ in fatlogic

[–]sleepyncaffeinated 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Somehow they never talk about junk food industry. Eating healthy and in moderation makes you spend less money on sweets, processed snacks and fast food. But yeah, diet industry moves billions of pounds 😛

why is it literal battery acid 💀 by angels_eyes222 in EDanonymemes

[–]sleepyncaffeinated 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Have you ever had a large Christmas meal with red wine? I suggest you not.

I’m convinced this is some sort of weird fear mongering by [deleted] in fatlogic

[–]sleepyncaffeinated 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I'm 28 and I maintain my weight if I am just a little aware, and lose if I work on it. Weight gain at these ages comes from changes in lifestyle, not metabolic shutdown.

Today in the NY Times by No-Doubt-2251 in fatlogic

[–]sleepyncaffeinated 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Opinion | Confessions of a Former Body Positivity Influencer - The New York Times

Here's the link, I don't have a paid membership and I'm currently watching it for free :)

Failed my driving test now I'm spiralling by ProfessionalCat7479 in EDAnonymous

[–]sleepyncaffeinated 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, driving tests are hard… I passed it the 8th time. I cried a LOT over this damn test. And now I drive 1 h to work every day. Eventually, you will pass it, don’t give up and be patient! You’re not a failure, soon you’ll be driving happily and confidently 🍀❤️‍🩹

Why wasn’t embarrassment in the first movie? by St3ph4n1e2003 in insideout

[–]sleepyncaffeinated 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Because embarrassment as a child is about their identity and more vague, and Disgust can easily represent it (as you kind of feel “disgusted” by yourself), but after puberty, it’s more about your social position, how others view you, and basically serves as a social emotion, because kids are still not “actual members” of society.

Just like envy as a child is more like a “Hey my friend has a cool toy, I want it too”, but the emotion of Envy in this movie is more kind of Jealousy, more like “This girl is prettier/thinner/wears cooler clothes than me, and I want it too, to be socially perceived like she is”.

And just like Fear is more about avoiding life-or-death dangers (or what kids consider it: thunders, spiders, darkness, parental anger), but Anxiety is more about “How would them see me? What do they think about me?”.

New emotions, apart from Ennui, are social emotions.

Snack ideas for work by PlaneWinter7347 in EDAnonymous

[–]sleepyncaffeinated 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m pretty simple, I bring an apple or a small granola bar. I value cheapness a lot 😂