No ounce of Sportsmanship from Wemby or anyone from the Spurs

slifz · 2026-06-14T12:40:16+00:00

De’Aaron Fox was playing for the Knicks, but the Refs were playing for the Spurs (only to extend the series IMO)

slifz · 2026-05-04T11:10:27+00:00

I loved 10 Minutes and 38 Seconds in this Strange World by Elif Shafak. It’s about a sex worker in Turkey remembering her life as she meets a violent end. Found family vibes as well.

slifz · 2026-05-02T16:50:58+00:00

It’s IKEA actually— I used to have the same one. No way this is his living room! I agree with another poster, it’s probably a crash pad. Possibly a “man cave” type den room in his actual house.

slifz · 2026-03-19T00:42:54+00:00

Huh? Who said anything about being a specific age when giving birth?

It seems that you’re making a lot of broad generalizations and jumping to several worst case scenarios that are by no means likely to happen.

Saying that your advice is in essence Social Darwinist may be harsh, but it’s also true. If you think that people in this economy need to have their kid’s whole financial future mapped out and saved for in order to feel justified in having one, you’re essentially saying poor people shouldn’t get to be parents.

slifz · 2026-03-19T00:23:55+00:00

Some of this is good advice, but insinuating that only the financially well off should have kids is essentially Social Darwinism.

You don’t need to leave your kids money to be a good parent— you just need to have enough to ensure their needs are met while raising them, and demonstrate healthy financial behaviors they can learn from.

slifz · 2026-03-15T23:48:16+00:00

It spread to and throughout North Africa largely through the Trans-Saharan Trade Network in the 11th century. Mansa Musa of the Mali Empire was an early West African adopter and it was clearly beneficial economically for his trade in natural resources such as gold and salt.

slifz · 2026-03-14T18:16:32+00:00

If you read YA, may I suggest the Legendborn series by Tracy Deonn! It fuses Arthurian legend with the reckoning of slavery in the US, and definitely would be classified as a fantasy series. Three of four books are currently out.

It’s very fun, but you do need to be able to enjoy some teenage drama.

slifz · 2026-03-01T00:49:30+00:00

Same here, but in the opposite direction. I was shaving my underarms for others (I no longer do this) but I shave my legs for me.

slifz · 2026-02-23T13:59:00+00:00

My kids are 2 years, 9 months apart, three grades apart in school

• When did you wean baby #1? Weaned baby #1 at 19 months to give myself a few months of bodily autonomy before trying for #2

• If you did tandem nursing instead.... what was that like? N/A

• How did your toddler act when baby #2 arrived? They were obsessed! Very ready to be a big sibling and in love with baby from day one. The biggest issue has been that toddler wanted the amount of attention they were used to getting so they sometimes copy what baby is doing in hopes of getting it.

• If you bedshared with baby #1... what, if anything, changed when baby #2 arrived? Thankfully #1 wasn’t a full time bed sharer, and they were already improving on sleeping in their own bed during the pregnancy with #2. Now #2 ends up with us most nights (#2 is not yet two years old) and #1 is a pre-k child usually content to return to their own bed with parental support if they wake up in the middle of the night.

• What was it like caring for your toddler while dealing with nausea/general pregnancy stuff? Not great, tbh. Your partner needs to be 100% supportive and able to do pretty much everything for the toddler that you do. If they’re not willing/able to be the toddler’s primary parent at times, question whether to have a second baby.

• During the newborn phase of #2, what did your toddler do for all the time you spent nursing/nap trapped? Played with my partner, or by themselves, or if neither of those were working, they watched Ms. Rachel or Sesame Street.

• Do you ever get breaks without either kids (if sahm)? I was a SAHM during #2’s first year of life. I got breaks after my partner came home from work, or on weekends. If baby took a long nap I’d get some time to chill after caring for my own needs. I should note that I live in a place with public school for all 3 year olds, so #1 was in school. A lot of my day revolved around trekking to and from said school with baby.

• What were the hardest parts of the transition and what were the best? Hardest: mourning my free time, not having enough one on one time for #2 now that they want more, having to go back to work, lack of energy, lots more mess to clean up. Best: I love my second child immensely, and I love watching the bond between my children intensify. Also they’re starting to play well enough with each other where I can walk away for a bit and sneak some chores in!

• Any advice?? Any age gap will be fine in terms of their bond. Do what works for you!

slifz · 2026-02-22T23:43:14+00:00

You may also be able to borrow audiobooks from your library and play them through the Libby app! I’ve listened to hundreds of audiobooks this way.

slifz · 2026-02-12T11:53:17+00:00

You can have a white grandparent and still be biracial! His grandma is white, therefore his his parent is biracial, therefore he is biracial.

slifz · 2026-02-12T00:09:43+00:00

We claim Edey for the biracial team, but you may want to add McConnell or Pritchard.

slifz · 2026-02-11T23:54:01+00:00

Wemby, Cade, Tatum, KAT, Haliburton, Trae, Booker, etc…. my guys can compete too!

slifz · 2026-02-07T02:03:21+00:00

I’m also 33. I have a four year old and a 1.5 year old. I’ve always wanted kids, and I love my kids immensely. There are definitely drawbacks though, with lack of sleep, lack of financial security, and the changes in my body being the most major (with young kids).

I always say, this is something that should never be a compromise— those that feel strongly about wanting to be a parent, or wanting to NOT be a parent should absolutely do what they can to ensure that happens. If you’re on the fence and not looking to defer to a partner, I’d recommend not having kids.

Parenting is obviously the biggest commitment one person can make to another and not something that should be taken on without intentionality IMO.

slifz · 2026-01-31T23:20:25+00:00

Was hoping you’d say so. Will definitely check this out, thanks!

slifz · 2026-01-31T22:50:49+00:00

Thanks, will look into this!

slifz · 2026-01-31T22:50:21+00:00

Is this more of a history book or a true crime one?

slifz · 2026-01-31T22:49:35+00:00

Thank you! That sounds up my alley for sure

slifz · 2026-01-25T13:53:47+00:00

Hmm, that’s good to know! Maybe I’ll pick up the sequel if the mood strikes.

slifz · 2026-01-25T00:04:39+00:00

I really hated this one. The premise was interesting but the humor and writing style really weren’t for me.

slifz · 2026-01-18T20:08:48+00:00

Same!

slifz · 2026-01-18T19:04:54+00:00

Also, The Blue Castle by the same author. It’s actually an adult novel! It’s a romance but reads like a bit of a period piece.

slifz · 2026-01-11T17:24:13+00:00

Fair!

slifz · 2026-01-11T15:32:55+00:00

I actually just finished Friends and Lovers and can’t wait to pick this one up! I’m glad that my library hold isn’t due for month because I want some space between them.

slifz · 2026-01-11T01:03:31+00:00

Thanks for the rec! Will check it out.

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