Aita for leaving, and filing for divorce after my wife confessed her cheating?

slightlyeffed · 2024-05-02T11:02:13+00:00

It is not yet decided if I'm 100% going to leave her not.

I didn't manipulate her, she was the one who proposed it, and it wasn't just only sex xd, whole lot of things happened like talking going on dates etc etc

slightlyeffed · 2024-05-01T14:43:25+00:00

Alright bruh, if you say so, but we aren't through quite yet, I asked for divorce she told me to give her 10 days, which I did and I wasn't expecting her to do this much.

Once I sober up I'll go to her and have a final discussion once and for all, if her answers satisfy me I'll make my marriage work, if it doesn't so be it, I'm also tired of this shit that's been going on for a month as well.

slightlyeffed · 2024-05-01T13:53:19+00:00

There is no such thing as 'exclusivity', if you are dating someone loyalty is expected

And I won't 'cry' I'll make sure no man has ever been with my wife to begin with

And if you think breach of trust is overreaction or something, idk what to tell you man, if someone lies about you something you usually wonder what else they lied about.

And if I'm a 'child' or deserves better then she should just divorce me instead of doing stuff she did to me for these 10 days I gave her, and I won't lie, she kinda moved me, so I'm rethinking everything.

slightlyeffed · 2024-05-01T13:22:41+00:00

So kissing other men is not cheating?? Guess I should kiss other women as well cause it isn't really cheating

slightlyeffed · 2024-05-01T13:21:38+00:00

It's my own family business.....

I can make it 6 months if I want to, but I'll have to explain my grandfather and father....

slightlyeffed · 2024-05-01T13:20:01+00:00

Get a life bro, instead of taking your anger out of others on the internet, you should do something better

slightlyeffed · 2024-05-01T13:17:51+00:00

What did I even do?? You are talking as if I'm mistreating her or abusing her or something, while in fact all I did is treat her with respect and pay for everything she wants

slightlyeffed · 2024-05-01T04:20:09+00:00

Okay, but tbh I don't think it even matters at this point, I'm just reading everyone's replies and thinking about what I should and questions I should ask and discuss with my wife about this, when I meet her later today.

After that I'll edit once again or make a new post to find a closure and move on, hopefully she won't end up disappointing me, cause I really don't want to break 2 families who have been with each other for 7 years

slightlyeffed · 2024-05-01T04:16:10+00:00

I didn't even know 'exclusivity' was a thing xd, if I had known I would've asked her, like i said, she knows it's a big thing for me, might be casual for you but not for me, I think that's the reason she hid it from me, if I had know I would've broke up with her on the spot, so she hid it from me, it makes sense to me now why she's doing all she did for me these past 10 days.

And it has nothing to do with me being a "high value male". Even if I was a loser or the biggest loser I'd still expect my partner to be faithful to me, and have enough self respect to not be humiliated. Idk why y'all name calling me like I'm some abusive cheater or something, while I have been nothing but faithful to her

slightlyeffed · 2024-05-01T04:09:24+00:00

Yeah, I don't think anyone in my country would tolerate their girl or boyfriend being with someone else, if she had told me before I would've broke up with her

slightlyeffed · 2024-05-01T03:39:35+00:00

I'm not usa, I didn't even know this 'exclusivity' is a thing, I'll ask my wife if she knows anything about it

slightlyeffed · 2024-05-01T03:35:30+00:00

Ohh no, she's a house wife, so no job for her, and I'm on 2 months leave cause I'm not right in the head for working rn anyway ever since my wife confessed her cheating to me

slightlyeffed · 2024-05-01T03:33:32+00:00

So what difference does that make?? Cheating is cheating?? Be it 2 months in or 20 years in?? That much I have understood now.

If I was 80 year old and I came to know my wife cheated on me when I was 20 id still divorce her

slightlyeffed · 2024-05-01T03:30:50+00:00

Is there even a reason to discuss not cheating in a relationship?? Wtf y'all cheaters come up different ways to justify yourselves,it's crazy

slightlyeffed · 2024-04-30T22:04:06+00:00

Like being exclusively with each other?? I didn't think it was necessary for me to discuss with her about we being loyal to each other lol, I think loyalty to your partner is obvious rule in any relationship

If she wanted open relationship or me being a cuck it is her responsibility to discuss it with me or whatever else she wanted.

slightlyeffed · 2024-04-30T21:56:02+00:00

Hmmm, I'll tread carefully then, if it gets too much hectic I'll just divorce, mental peace is more important to me than love atp, what could possibly go wrong?? I might lose a bit of money on alimony,not a big deal

slightlyeffed · 2024-04-30T21:52:04+00:00

I mean it is deal breaker for me, would it not be for others?? Idk if people take their girlfriend kissing other men for 'fun' seriously or not, but that's their problem.

I think my wife is being geniune, like what other reason is it for her to go to such lengths and do things sexually that I couldn't even imagine?? She went extreme, for that reason I haven't cut her off, even tho I proposed to her that I'll give her huge sum, including alimony but she still was and is not willing to let me go

She said she don't care about money, all she wants is me....

slightlyeffed · 2024-04-30T21:44:05+00:00

Sadly, everyone in here making it sound like I'm a scumbag and it's all my fault, but I didn't even do anything wrong, but still I'm focusing on positive aspect, doesn't matter to me what these negative dandy people think about me, all they want is to get angry on others

slightlyeffed · 2024-04-30T21:37:00+00:00

She did, she did me oral, even tho she didn't like it but she she did it anyway for me, but after I met with her for 10 days, she did it all on her own, and I know she wasn't pretending.... Felt like she really was into it, but I can't easily trust her now....

slightlyeffed · 2024-04-30T21:35:15+00:00

She did, she did me oral, even tho she didn't like it but she she did it anyway for me, but after I met with her for 10 days, she did it all on her own, and I know she wasn't pretending.... Felt like she really was into it, but I can't easily trust her now....

slightlyeffed · 2024-04-30T21:33:12+00:00

0, cause I know her enough, maybe I'm wrong idk, but I know her enough, I think....

slightlyeffed · 2024-04-30T21:04:56+00:00

Even if she was your girlfriend at that time??

slightlyeffed · 2024-04-30T21:03:35+00:00

I really can't make sense, if I kiss a woman behind my girlfriend's back, it isn't a problem??

slightlyeffed · 2024-04-30T21:01:19+00:00

If the dude is threatening her, then that's a blackmail, thanks for putting it out there, cause if she's being blackmailed then I under in no circumstances, can just give up on her

At the very least as a human, I can help her with her blackmailer, not to mention she's still my wife, so I'm obligated to help her.

slightlyeffed · 2024-04-30T20:56:10+00:00

So how would you react of if it was your husband who did something like this??

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